Jealousy!!!!

[jeff black]

How many people here get Jealous of the attention their Significant other can get??

Not " Push-someone's-face-through-the-wall" jealous, but just jealous as a whole?

In light of recent events, I have found that I tend to get a bit jealous if people pay a bit of attention to someone I care for. Boy or girl. Whether I am dating them, or they are friends... I think it is great that people can find someone attractive, that I am associated with but, (and this is where I start to sound creepy) that person is sorta "mine". I dont' want to share them with others....

Can anyone relate?:biggrin1:

 

[socoken]

Sometimes I see other guys checking out my girlfriend, and I do take it as insulting. Its like, hey mf'er, you can see she is with me, and you are still staring, do you WANT me to stomp your guts out? But then I look at her, and she is pretty hot, so I know I would look too. It is hard to just let them though, its like letting them think they can compete with me.

 

[Gillette]

I can relate, 100%

Friendly is good, fawning makes my lip curl.

I did however find it highly amusing to watch a girl chase my then fiance around a pool table after trying to sit in his lap. He was horrified by this chick and kept asking me to step in and help him. I told her he was spoken for and she left him alone. She did return a couple times to check if I was still sitting with him.

 

[mephistopheles]

I dont get particularly jealous over anything... Though I have severe anger issues. But I'm young and I wanna hold onto it, it helps me get outta fights... but then again it gets me into them too.

but it's good for my music!

An artist will do anything for his craft :biggrin1:

 

[roosevelt]

I guess for me, if they aren't officially "mine" then I'm not at all, but once she is... back the fuck off...

 

[joyboytoy79]

I am simply not the jealous type. Being an exremely shallow guy, i've only ever dated guys that were, well, hot. Any guy i've ever been with is constantly checked out by both the girls and the guys. To me, it's a compliment!

Of course, all of the guys i've ever dated are pretty jealous (drives me nuts, and not in a good way) and hate when someone checks me out. In fact, my last major beau used to get angry with me when another guy checked me out! "Uhm, hello! I don't controll their minds, let alone their eyes!"

 

[rob_just_rob]

I don't generally get that jealous... maybe it's because I'm so much cuter than the women I date? :redface: If someone pays attention to my girlfriend, I tend to take it as a compliment... and figure that if she reciprocates strongly, she wasn't worth my attention in the first place.

I do have a lot more female friends than male friends, and this has been a problem for more than one girlfriend.

 

[Ethyl]

I must admit...I get a kick out of the attention anyone i'm with receives unless the attention-giver becomes obnoxious (Gillette's example works for me). I've observed this twice with ex's and one handled it with finesse and the other encouraged it. Few things are more pathetic than someone attempting to make you jealous. I always assume the person i'm with can handle the situation. My experience is that most do this very well. If they can't, then we'll have problems. Generally speaking, I enjoy watching my date get noticed by others. It's a compliment to both of us, IMO.

 

[B_Stronzo]

Guilty as charged jeff.

My baby boy is so stunning plus he has a natural innocence about him. I'm the "jaded" one. He's the genuine article and I watch people melt as they talk to him. I'm ashamed to admit I've felt jealous of the naturally lovely manner he has more than once.

But I'm flattered he's chosen (puts up with..) me.

 

[jeff black]

Yah, I am glad that a few people have felt this way before. It is good to know you are not alone.

I think for me specifically, it is a territory thing. Like animals fighting over a mate or something...

I am not proud of my more Primative ways, at times. Sometimes, I have the urge to pee on someone to mark my turf, so that other dogs don't try to step up. :biggrin1:

 

[tripod]

It's hard to be the alpha male at all times. I find it's best to scare them off before they even make a move. Nothing beats pre-emptive action. I think that is one of the reasons I started PE. I wanted the ability to have something "physically" that hardly noone else has. The confidence that provided gave me a fairly unshakeable inner confidence when it comes to jealousy. When I was 14-25, I was a jealous bastard. I also had problem's with infedelity at the time, that contributed to my jealousy. I'm older, have more sexual confidence, and more impulse control, and that makes me a much more calm animal. But when I was young I was a lunatic.

 

[DC_DEEP]

I have never understood jealousy. I'm not a jealous person, at all.

In situations like Gillette described, though, I do sometimes get annoyed. We have gone to numerous occasions before, and had someone who saw us arrive together, and saw that we were OBVIOUSLY a couple, and would try to occupy 100% of his attention. They have even been so obnoxious as to act all pissy if I "interrupt" their moves.

When my partner and I are in social situations, we like to circulate, both together at times, and apart at times. Having some clingy little queen snarl at me because I bring my man a drink is just annoying.

By the way, why in the world would anyone get jealous if someone was LOOKING at the person they were with? That's just so absolutely insecure.

 

[D_Sheffield Thongbynder]

I feel good for my friends or gf or family when they are singled out for attention or praise. If another guy gets too flirtatious with my gf, I make sure it ends, but the feeling I have isn't jealousy as much as it is annoyance that the guy doesn't respect what are obvious boundaries. It simply never occurs to me to be jealous. It's not a behavior I care to learn.

 

[mnrocko]

Yah, I am glad that a few people have felt this way before. It is good to know you are not alone.

I think for me specifically, it is a territory thing. Like animals fighting over a mate or something...

I am not proud of my more Primative ways, at times. Sometimes, I have the urge to pee on someone to mark my turf, so that other dogs don't try to step up. :biggrin1:

Life is to short for jealousy. I find it to be insecurity that causes me to be jealous. The bottom line is that if your date/partner connect with someone else then you have failed in that relationship somehow. Better to correct yourself before moving into another relationship because history repeats itself!
I am not jealous, have not really felt it for 15-20 yrs now. I told my partner to be honest with me and if you have a chance to have some fun on the side, go for it. Lifes to short to deny yourself. I just want him to be there when I get home. To me sex is just that; sex. Love has nothing to do with it, for me.

 

[abvavrg]

I've only been in two major relationships, and both were long distance. So jealousy usually revolved around the people she talked about all the time, whom she was going out with, etc.

Jealousy in long distance relationships might feel much more "present", I suppose, because one is not there to step in or put an arm around a shoulder.

In fact, when people check her out and I'm there, I feel complimented. But if she told me on the phone "this guy was checking me out today", I'd probably still bristle a little bit.

Or a lot.

 

[tiff86]

I must admit...I get a kick out of the attention anyone i'm with receives unless the attention-giver becomes obnoxious.

I think that's me too. I do kinda get jealous though especially with 1 of his exes who still totally tries to flirt with him. I don't see her that much but she's pretty and she's a few yrs older and I used to get annoyed by it. But he says he wants to be with me and I believe him so it kinda becomes flattering for me like everyone said. When we go out and some random girl flirts with him it doesn't bother me at all, it just reminds me what I got :biggrin1:

 

[D_Elijah_MorganWood]

My partner is the quiet type (at least around others). I'm the attention whore. No jealousy issues here.

 

[B_Stronzo]

I have suffered nearly (if not all) human vices to a greater or lesser degree all my life.

The trick is temperance - which unfortunately is NOT one of my virtues. :redface:

 

[socoken]

It is my opinion that jealousy is just having the passion to fight for what you want. Some girls hate it, some girls love it. Now, I dont go around breaking every guy that looks at my girlfriend, but if a guy is getting flirty, I will end it. Usually, she just introduces me to the jerk, and I give a bone crushing handshake and a stare down, and thats it. To me, there are two types of people in this world. Those that fight for what they want, and those that dont get what they want. Im not insecure, I just love confrontation, and getting what I want. My jealousy is not my weakness, its my willingness to show strength.

 

[horny8]

I don't really get that jealous. I actually like it when my boy get's ogled. I think it's a boost to his confidence and that makes me happy...and then again, maybe it's just that I'm a big flirt to begin with so, if I'm not jealous about his being admired, I have some leverage if he acts jealous about my being admired. How screwed up and manipulative is that? We're still love, so i guess it works.