What do you women think about losing virginity to a hung man? Wish you did? Or that would have made you have too many expectations from that moment on? Thankful you didn't? Fear of having more pain? Any other thoughts?
njqt, why are you such a bitch? you have intelligence and i give you that for sure... but why oh why?
He posted in the womens forum. I thought that meant he wanted to hear responses from women. Thus far, other than myself only men have responded, and they of course think just like him. As for me being a bitch that's your opinion. Out of curiosity, are all intelligent women bitches to you? Intelligent women tend to have opinions different from the masses. In order to avoid future upset I suggest you put me on ignore. :smile:
Ouch. I call sterotype. Not all guys are as simplistic as you seem to think. At least, that statement is far too broad a generalization. You didn't account for blatant exceptions that exist. Like those guys who do in fact care. I'd be hurt if I was directly accused of the above.
The OP posted in the womens forum asking for our opinion. I gave my honest opinion. If you don't like it tough noogies.
My first time didn't hurt at all - in fact, I didn't feel much of anything. I actually do wish I'd had a hung man my first time. (I may actually have been that statistical improbablility of a woman who had an orgasm her first time if I'd had!) I'm an oddball though. Another instance of my being an oddball: My first time was not a matter of me being in love. It was a matter of I was on a quest to lose my virginity! (I mean, I was 21 years old! Even most of the prudes had done it before I did!) And another thing, I was 21 and he was 18. That's probably kind of unusual, too. I think he as a freshman was thrilled to be with a senior! :biggrin1: (We met in college.) After that one night, he broke up with me, but it wasn't that big a deal to me. My second guy was considerably larger than the first guy, and the problems we had were due to lack of lubrication rather than his size. I did have orgasms with him, although he was an asshole and terrible at foreplay. I stayed with him for 8 months despite some of his behavior. I broke up with him because of his attitude toward women (sexist!) and he was one of the ones who'd latched onto me, and tried to get me back repeatedly.
My boyfriend was pretty hung, I dont know how big exactly - It didnt hurt, but didn't last long either. The only thing that surprised me ( we didn't use a condom - it was the 80's, we were 16 and 19 - had waited 6 months to have sex and was on the pill ) was that the cum came back out when I stood up!!! I remember being so surprised about that, like I hadn't quite figured that into the occasion. However I agree with NJQT - I dont know any women who came during their first sexual intercourse. I was very relaxed and we had been fooling around for aged before hand, but still he was quick and lost in himself. It got a lot better the next few times. x Honey
intelligence is a rare trait but simply going against the common idea does not mean you are intelligent sweetie
Dude, what is wrong with you? Talk about being insensitive. The guy's in jail and you're asking why he's such a bitch? Put a bag over your head.
I took a woman's virginity once. I spent a lot of time on foreplay because I was very worried about hurting her. I warned her she might not cum her first time. We started in the shower, and then moved to her bed. She definitely came when I went down on her. I used lots of extra lube when I penetrated her, and she complained about pain, so I stopped. Eventually, she wanted me to continue. I think she came from me fucking her. I think. I don't really know, but she acted like she did, maybe she faked it really well. I never asked, it seemed inappropriate somehow. Oh, and she was older than me, and I was surprised to hear she was a virgin. But stranger things have happened, and I still believe that was a virgin.
well probubly cus there is so much pressure on the guy and on you you've no idea what to expect kind of like boxing you might be a great FIGHTER but when you BOX the first time you make an ass out of yourself
In my case, this is bullshit. I have been with five virgins, all of them girlfriends and I cared considerably for all of them. The first time with a virgin woman, was not my first time, but I was not experienced, by the last time I slept with a virgin, I was very experienced. I do agree that the women that I have been with as virgins, did not see their first time as primarily for a good sex experience, rather as a rite of passage, preferably with someone who cares about them them enough to see the experience from their perspective if they are not also a virgin. I saw the last virgin that I slept with recently, she told me that she was so glad that she lost her virginity with me. It was one of the nicest things anyone has said to me.
Methinks that was tongue in cheek. I don't think he's asking virgins what they think about it, he's asking what we think about the idea in retrospect. You're being hostile for no good reason. It's not a question that would only occur to a man, it's crossed my mind a few times. My first time was with a guy on the larger side and it did affect my expectations. I thought all guys would be the same size. Same way I thought salmon and tuna were the same size, both are packaged in cans and I didn't know any different (at least I never thought it was chicken). My second BF was about the same size and my third was impressively bigger. That was my first (delightful)indication that there were differences in size. My fourth and fifth BFs confirmed that there were size differences (not so delightfully). Your first time is imprinted on your mind, the sensations, the feel. So yes, I think starting big can give you false expectations of things to cum. I have to qualify having cum my first time with the fact that it took many, many attempts. We were both virgins and the concept of foreplay was alien to us. Our only clue to what constituted arousal was him having an erection. I'd lie down and he'd try to insert. Ouch. I'd ask him if it was in but in my case that meant 'please tell me that's all of it because this hurts'. We exemplified the Dry Run. By the time we had sex successfully (after a couple months of comically dreadful attempts, "bite down on this book and it won't hurt so much" ) my period was due, my hormones were raging, I was wet and I was READY! I practically raped him. You'd better believe I came. I earned that!
Funny that you mentioned this, its exactly how my girlfriend reacted after our first time ( same age and in the 80's also ) ooh look its running down my leg.
My first almost WAS a large cock. He was a boyfriend in high school. Mark. We were both 16.....but he was equally inexperienced....which is why things didn't progress any further than they did. Long story..... No one was angry or anything...in fact, we were already friends and had agreed on the phone prior to the date that were going to "do it".....but it was as if we were discussing different varieties of dog food. Bizarre. :biggrin1: He did shoot his load all over the dash of his mom's station wagon and wiped it up with his little brother's denim jacket. "That's what he gets for leaving it in the car." LOL But, alas....we did not go out again. Probably a good thing. Even though, based on the real 1st time 2 years later, I wouldn't have known what the hell I was doing..... I still think if he'd been the first, I'd have been ruined for the big ones from the start. As it is, my appreciation for the large cocks didn't come about till 2004. But the seed was planted ( pun intended ! ) in my head in a book that was in a vampire erotica category. I bought that Aug. 1st 2001. Oddly, before that I never gave them much thought.
