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OKay, read a few things in this thread, but I'm a bit disappointed on the fact that bisexuality is related too having sex with a woman or a man.

How I see bisexuality is that you could fall in love with a person, man or woman. And I hope that if a woman don't want to have a relationship with a bisexual man that that is because he also could fall in love with another man and not because he can cheat on her with a man or a woman. Looks like bisexual man can't be loyal when they choose their partner in some of the things written above.

the meaning of bisexual refers more to the sexual preference type so yes, feeling is intentionally left out
 

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I am TOTALLY turned on by guys digging other guys. I think it's hot. I would love to see a guy do oral on another guy in front of me!

hehe

I watched my boyfriend not only suck another guy off but be fucked by the guy too..sooo hawt.


You 2 just sent me and I'm sure many other guys over the edge :biggrin1:
 

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I would prefer a bisexual man to a straight one, as I think we'd understand each other better. But I'm not into the open relationship thing at all.
 

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Hey how are you OP? :smile:

However, over the last few years of lurking on forums of all types, bi and straight women through there 20-50s seem to be virulently opposed to the idea. What is interesting about these women though is that although many of them are bi themselves or have had same sex encounters, they do not hold men that have had same sex encounters or identify as bi to the same standard as they do themselves.

Many of the women are bi themselves? Maybe SOME but, I doubt many. I'm 100% straight and want the same in a man so, no "double standards" for me. I'll let the bi women speak to why they prefer straight men.

I personally find the arguments of why many women won't date a knowingly bi man immature, petty, bigoted and offensive for the most part. It's not an "argument" it's a preference. Is it not "ok" to be turned off by a man that wants to take it up the ass? suck another cock? or have his dick sucked by another man? I find it offensive that just because I prefer 100% straight men I am considered "immature, petty, bigoted, and offensive."

There is no "argument" about it. It's called preference.

I mean its okay not to desire to date a man who is bi, but why must they add insult to injury by making derogatory comments towards bi males? :mad:

Who's making derogatory comments?

For example, they say a man comprises his masculinity and becomes less of a man in their eyes, but that lesbianism is highly erotic and enhances a woman's femininity. I mean the comments that I've read by these women are absolutely cold blooded. A simple no or not my cup of tea would suffice, but adding "ick" "gross" "vomit enducing" "revolting" "vile" to describe man on man action is a little extra, seeing as most of them have never watched a gay porno in their life. Who is saying this? Oh, Some "other" forums. These women are not entitled to their opinions? How do you know that they have never watched gay porn?

Or they say bisexuality only exists in women and that men who are bi are on the road to gayville or some such nonsense. They see bi men as deceptive and lying to themselves and the women that they are with.

In some cases they add they would rather have their partners cheat on them with other women, but not men...

Some even go as far a saying if a man they were in a relationship with had even one same sex thought and they knew about it that would be the end of the relationship.

Many go to extremes and say that if they unknowingly date a man who was bi, they'd run out and get tested for every STD in existance.

It seems like some women would rather date a man that's been with 1000s of women even if they were prostitutes, as opposed to dating a man that's been with one man. Heck they even give off the impression that they would rather be in a relationship with someone who was a drug user or abusive as long as he was strictly heterosexual.

...But that's the vibe I get from the women on many other forums. I'm not speaking about this forum, because I really haven't lurked enough so I can't say, but I've only heard mostly negative. Well, good because none of us who prefer straight men are saying "degrading things" about bisexuals.

Absolutely very few positives about bi guys. Well, because most women like straight men Why are you surprised by this? It's just the way it is. Sorry. That doesn't mean you are not entitled to your preference just don't expect everyone else to turned on by it. Most women have nothing good to say because they haven't experienced a bi man and don't want to.

It's so strange that these women would harbor such harsh judgements and negative stereotypes against bi men as if they are one hive mind apart of one collectoive consciousness, especially since they have never even given one a chance. So how are bi men so bad, yet none of these women would knowingly give them a chance? I'll never understand it. It really makes me depressed at times. I'm a bit of an empath so I often feel when negativity is unfairly projected towards others... It's not that bi men are "so bad" it's just a huge turn off to those of us that prefer straight men.
A guy fucking or sucking another guy is just a huge turn off. Not "bad." If it turns you on great but it doesn't make it "good." It has nothing to do with "giving them a chance" it has to do with preference.

There is no surprise why suicide rates amongst bisexual males from as early as age 10-40 is so high... because women like to fuck straight men?

However, despite my experience I firmly believe people who are ignorant and pessimistic speak loudest. I do believe that their are woman out there that have knowingly and willingly married/date bi men, but they probably are not very vocal about it and their relationships are probably very clandestine. Hmm... why would that be?

I hope things change for the better for bisexual males...but I admit I'm not being too optimistic judging by the opinions I've heard expressed about them.

Despite the negativity I refuse to give into it and although I'm 22 and haven't dated really been focused on my studies and traveling, That says a lot right there... "haven't dated" Ok, now this post is starting to make sense...interesting that the two most vocal "enthusiasts" on this thread are 21 & 22

but I'd have no issues with dating a man that is bi whatsoever. Through my travels some of the most amazing, handsome, intellectual, and unique men were bi or alluded to being interested in other men.

Very interesting. Most? really? Seems like a generalization to me.
Unique maybe but, the most amazing, handsome, and intellectual prize goes to bisexual men? Generalization and offensive to the 100% straight and gay men out there.
 
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OKay, read a few things in this thread, but I'm a bit disappointed on the fact that bisexuality is related too having sex with a woman or a man.

That's interesting. Isn't sexuality about SEX?

No, not really. Sexuality describes the intrest in sexes, genders, not the physical action sex.

How I see bisexuality is that you could fall in love with a person, man or woman. And I hope that if a woman don't want to have a relationship with a bisexual man that that is because he also could fall in love with another man and not because he can cheat on her with a man or a woman.

For me it has nothing to do with whom he might fall in love with. It has everything to do about sex and attraction.

Okay that is clear :smile: For me it has to do about the fact that bisexuals can have feelings for women or men.
 

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I am TOTALLY turned on by guys digging other guys. I think it's hot. I would love to see a guy do oral on another guy in front of me!

I've only had another guy suck my cock a couple of times - both with a woman watching. An ex-gf loved it and who am I to argue when I knew we'd both get to fuck her. However, I'm not into it unless it's a 3some with a hot babe.
 

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I personally think it's HOT! But more so a man who enjoys sex with other men, but not into having a realtionship with one. My ex had tendencies and we were planning on exploring that before we broke up. He did have one experience but I wasn't there, unfortunately. I made him tell me every single detail and it drove me wild!!

I would be very open to dating a man like that, absolutely!

Very interesting comment. :biggrin1: I've only had a guy suck me a couple of time and both in from of a woman. Amazing hot sex afterwards with her both times....it really turned her on.
 

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Keep in mind that men who are queer/bisexual/etc. don't necessarily always want to marry women or get involved in serious relationships with women.

Many queermen do not want others to see their sexuality as being something that a straight woman could be a vouyer to and just get off on, or some queermen do not always want to have women present when they have sex with men.

There are a whole shit load of latent bisexuals masquerading around as gay men because they are ignorant of the fact that bisexual doesn't only mean an equal attraction to both genders or they're too scared to admit it because they've invested so much of their time and energy cultivating a gay identity.

The dirty little secret that never gets addressed in the so called gay world is the fact that many gay men do go through a second coming out and re-identify as bisexual.

These men may still overwhelmingly prefer men, but their orientation and identity are not exclusively towards men. Their attraction to both sexes manifests differently as well.

Then there's the fact that no matter how hard they try straight women simply don't understand queer male sexuality as well as queer women sometimes can; but that is not always the case either as neither heterosexual women or queer women are bisexual/queer biological men.

Many men (myself included) have fetishes that only biological men can fulfill and biological women and even Transsexual men can't do this since neither are biological men.

If I were ever to even just date a woman (very casually dating like a fuck buddy type thing) I wouldn't date a straight woman just like I wouldn't date a woman who is into vanilla sex.

I think it's fine if a straight woman doesn't want to date a bisexual man as I don't want to date hetero women at all and I would not date a woman that is into vanilla sex.

I find it odd that bisexual women have wrote about how they won't date bisexual men in this thread.

I'm OK with dating Bi-dykes and other queer women but I will not get mad when she leaves me for a girlfriend as I'd wind up leaving her for a male boyfriend/compadre.
 
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My man is bisexual. So am I. It's just something we have in common.

Although I guess I get jealous of both genders this way.... oh well, that's just insecurity, I try and deal with it.
 

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Keep in mind that men who are queer/bisexual/etc. don't necessarily always want to marry women or get involved in serious relationships with women.

Many queermen do not want others to see their sexuality as being something that a straight woman could be a vouyer to and just get off on, or some queermen do not always want to have women present when they have sex with men.

There are a whole shit load of latent bisexuals masquerading around as gay men because they are ignorant of the fact that bisexual doesn't only mean an equal attraction to both genders or they're too scared to admit it because they've invested so much of their time and energy cultivating a gay identity.

The dirty little secret that never gets addressed in the so called gay world is the fact that many gay men do go through a second coming out and re-identify as bisexual.

These men may still overwhelmingly prefer men, but their orientation and identity are not exclusively towards men. Their attraction to both sexes manifests differently as well.

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Wow, so glad to hear a man say these things. I agree with what you say here. I've been with a bisexual man for a loooong time, and I've encountered so many negative attitudes about it when I've tried to talk about it on other forums. Early on, everyone said he would leave me for a woman, that the lure of a "normal" life was just too tempting. It has not been the case. I think gay men who think this way are insecure about what they can offer.

When I've tried to talk about this on gay sites, it was as if I had torched a sacred cow and people react almost violently. There's a lot of bigotry aimed at the bisexual community. (Of course not all bisexuals are innocent. As with any sexuality, some are flaky, some lie about their intentions, etc.)

To answer the original poster, though: There are plenty of women who would love to date a bi man. Bi men make better lovers, I think. They are capable of being gentle in a way that I've not experienced with many gay or straight men (well, guys who were straight until that time we had sex!)
Be very upfront about your sexuality from the beginning. Find a woman who's really secure in who she is and who has high self-esteem. Bisexual relationships can bring up insecurities in partners, and these have to be confronted and figured out. That takes a strong person. Just my two cents. Wish you the best.
 
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Wierd thread. If you're into "open" relationships that's fine and dandy but I don't see what that has to do with being turned on by gay/lesbian sex.
 

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...I wonder what sexual orientation would be applied to a guy who doesn't think he could ever fall in love with another guy, but is sexually turned on by them?

That would be me. I consider myself as straight with hedonistic tendencies. I don't actually subscribe to labels as I believe sexuality is fluid depending on one's personal situation in any given period of life. However, I also believe that one has a default sexual orientation, a preference for one or the other or both. Whatever one does sexually across the borders is a choice one makes but shouldn't be considered as definitive, by oneself or others.
 

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My ex was definitely bi and I feel that I lean that way and she tried to encourage it. I worked with a young girl who happily went to bed with anyone she liked. Very bi and loved it. If I could arrange how I would be, I would be a bi female who leaned toward women. I think they have the best of it all.