I’ve heard it said that in anal sex, the top can’t get off without the bottom so who is really in control?

I had a married guy who on his second visit really got into the scene of me being his “bitch” and shoving his cock down my throat. I had to say that was too much for me and he said I won’t do that again. But he really got off on that and I said find another sucker who matches you. Even if he never went that dominant again with me, he would be censoring his true preferences so best to part. Many married men have said they appreciated what I did for them and would never demean me. They do say “you like being my cocksucker, don’t you? You just love married cock?” which is music to my ears. Yes, I’m on my knees but I ain’t no bitch because of it. YMMV.