Massage Question

[ktfornby1]

Kinda wanna know if I've overstepped a boundary.

So I arranged for a massage this afternoon. I don't drive so he came to me. On his website, seems very legit. I only wanted a massage as got back problems. I'm bi.

Get there and he asks me to get naked. No towel. I'm on my stomach mainly fine. Some ball grazing.
On my back, some more grazing - times when he moves my balls to do more stuff.

He then massages my stomach and I pop a boner.

He then puts massage oil on my cock. I look up confused and he says
'Don't worry it's okay'
In a panic, I don't say anything.
He then says 'do you want that area massaging' and I said 'uhhh no'

And he carries on.

I have a boundary weird thing about essentially paying for sex. I know for some people it isn't but for me it is.

We then wrap up and I get dressed. We're chatting, he mentions he's single. Fine.

Afterwards, I message him saying 'look I didn't say no because of you but I don't like the idea of paying for it but if you want some fun or a date then let me know' and now he's saying that I'm innapropriate.


Am I?

 

[CUBE]

You thought it was inappropriate to get a massage and pay for a handjob. He thinks it’s inappropriate to not pay and get one.

The next time you get a massage. Just take it. He doesn’t want a personal connection.

 

[deleted142346]

Yeah I had the same thing, sorta, with my last masseur. We were quite intimate but I had to pay for a massage in order to keep seeing him. It seemed extortionate to me, but he said it was his living. I wonder if he thinks of himself as a sex worker

 

[ktfornby1]

You thought it was inappropriate to get a massage and pay for a handjob. He thinks it’s inappropriate to not pay and get one.

The next time you get a massage. Just take it. He doesn’t want a personal connection.

I won't do, thanks.

 

[RamblingCock]

You weren't inappropriate. If it's a sexual massage and you don't want it, just simply say "not that" when he starts anything intimate. If he still tries, that's reason to get off the table and leave. If he agrees, maybe tell him you'll pay him for the massage, but only after he's "off the clock" will you do anything else.

 

[ktfornby1]

You weren't inappropriate. If it's a sexual massage and you don't want it, just simply say "not that" when he starts anything intimate. If he still tries, that's reason to get off the table and leave. If he agrees, maybe tell him you'll pay him for the massage, but only after he's "off the clock" will you do anything else.

This is exactly what I did - and he said I was inappropriate.

 

[hairybubblebum]

i was in this situation once. professional massage and i felt the guy accidentally brush my balls and get close to my hole under the towel. next time he got close i pushed my ass our a lil. He took the hint and started massaging my hole. next thing i knew we were in 69 and then he fucked me.

 

[ktfornby1]

i was in this situation once. professional massage and i felt the guy accidentally brush my balls and get close to my hole under the towel. next time he got close i pushed my ass our a lil. He took the hint and started massaging my hole. next thing i knew we were in 69 and then he fucked me.

that wasn't my situation but ok

 

[miamirt]

If you’re paying for a massage and he offers to give you a happy ending but doesn’t say it’s extra then take it.
I don’t like it when you’re getting a massage and it’s basically an up sell for more but at a cost. I’ve found this happens at Asian places.
I had a massage with a new guy who doesn’t drape so he can obviously see if I’m getting aroused. He told me that he gets a read on me to decide if he thinks I need to ejaculate and he does it during the massage not at the end, and he said nothing about charging more. This guy ended up rimming me then made me cum still face down while stroking my cock down between my legs!!! I loved it

 

[Jamie1111112011]

Not appropriate for him to do that, especially if you said no. Especially if he’s not advertising or promoting his service as massage with sexual activity included. I think he overstepped. If he’s offering sex work then it should be clear.

I’m very clear with clients about the sexual element of my massage. If you’re going to do sex work make sure it’s very clear when they book.

 

[GS_PL]

You state "And he carries on". We can't tell with that what you mean. He kept jerking you off anyway, or he stopped and finished your massage non-sexually? Now you shall be clued in that if draping isn't in the cards from the start, then an element of fun on their part is likely to be had.

From the description, move on to someone else.