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Also, having read the entire thread now, I think you are doing the right thing to let her live with the mess she has made. I believe you characterized it as 'gloating'--?

However, the fact that she took off so abruptly without negotiating any 'rules' means she will not feel that she has broken any. Nope, all she did was treat you like an old shoe. It's not 'against the rules', simply insulting. How you respond is completely up to you.
 

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nope. if they are separated it's fine. but it depends if there was anything 'going on' (whether it just be emotional) between the two people (i.e. the person in the separated relationship and the person not) prior to the separation...

But it depends on the whole circumstances really.

I'm just basing this on what has happened with a girl friend of mine. In her case I think it was fine. But in others, it may not be. Dunno.
 

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If you haven't had sex with anybody else and she has, and it becomes one of those unfortunate dragged-out forever splits, that could be to your side's advantage. If it goes that far and you both have had sex with others it kind of cancels itself out as a potential issue, or at least it probably should. I hope it doesn't come to all that, but if you decide to sleep with someone else it should be because you really want to, not just because she did. I don't know your whole situation, hand, but sorry to hear about your troubles.
 

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That would depend upon the person's moral, cultural, or spiritual convictions. Technically speaking, if you're separated and not legally divorced, it's adultery: any sexual relationship outside of marriage -- is adultery. It's not until the divorced papers are finalized -- then, it's OK, in my opinion.

For the religious, check with your pastor, Iman, or priest for their opinion, the church's teachings.
 

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Sleeping with somebody just to get back at her is pointless. I've never been all that keen on casual sex.

I'd be checking with your divorce lawyer to get the legal opinion on if it's classed as infidelity and go with that.

If the ex doesn't know then it can't hurt you, and I see no sense at all in enlightening her.
 

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I've responded for the most part with civility. More than she deserves.

Sleeping with somebody just to get back at her is pointless. I've never been all that keen on casual sex.

Going by the above and other posts you've written, you've dealt with an unfair and hurtful situation maturely and your behaviour really does you credit.

Stay classy x