My Best Buddy Got The Bigger Cock

[ItsAll4Kim]

I've seen love2compare's posts for years and they never imply anything about SPH. He has always expressed an appreciation for comparison without the insecurity some people are putting on him. It seems to me that the people who can't handle a conversation in which someone is saying anything other than "I have the biggest dick anyone has ever seen" are the insecure ones.

I think this topic, since it has nothing to do with SPH, and potentially could have something to do with jealousy (the name of this section is Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy) this is the most appropriate section. It would not be appropriate in an SPH forum.

I don't think an SPH section is necessarily a bad idea, though it caters to a niche that is outside the scope of this site. But if there were an SPH section, this thread wouldn't belong there.

If you want an SPH section then ask the moderators for one instead of complaining on a thread that is in a completely appropriate section.

I'm not seeing how this section is "completely appropriate". So (he says) it isn't SPH. So (he says) he has no insecurity. So (need I repeat?) he gets off on comparisons. So if it isn't any of these and it isn't jealousy (he says no insecurity), it isn't about relationships, discrimination or jealousy. If it doesn't fit in an SPH subforum (which, btw, has been requested by several members in the Suggestions forum), then the nearest existing forum would be Showoff. It certainly isn't appropriate here.

And regardless, it's still the same thread over and over. In some forums this type of behavior will get all of the threads merged into a mega thread. I know we can simply skip past it, but the point is that this shouldn't be here, and we shouldn't have to see the same tired concept over and over here.

 

[love2compare]

I'm not seeing how this section is "completely appropriate". So (he says) it isn't SPH. So (he says) he has no insecurity. So (need I repeat?) he gets off on comparisons. So if it isn't any of these and it isn't jealousy (he says no insecurity), it isn't about relationships, discrimination or jealousy. If it doesn't fit in an SPH subforum (which, btw, has been requested by several members in the Suggestions forum), then the nearest existing forum would be Showoff. It certainly isn't appropriate here.

And regardless, it's still the same thread over and over. In some forums this type of behavior will get all of the threads merged into a mega thread. I know we can simply skip past it, but the point is that this shouldn't be here, and we shouldn't have to see the same tired concept over and over here.

I often like to read your posts but this time you got a bit stuck off track. How can you not understand that jealousy is the link to this forum like intactmale stated above? And with show off it has nothing to do at all.

So now how about your best bud, is his cock bigger than yours and how did you find out and feel about it?

 

[1222288]

I'm not seeing how this section is "completely appropriate". So (he says) it isn't SPH. So (he says) he has no insecurity. So (need I repeat?) he gets off on comparisons. So if it isn't any of these and it isn't jealousy (he says no insecurity), it isn't about relationships, discrimination or jealousy. If it doesn't fit in an SPH subforum (which, btw, has been requested by several members in the Suggestions forum), then the nearest existing forum would be Showoff. It certainly isn't appropriate here.

And regardless, it's still the same thread over and over. In some forums this type of behavior will get all of the threads merged into a mega thread. I know we can simply skip past it, but the point is that this shouldn't be here, and we shouldn't have to see the same tired concept over and over here.

He was baiting.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

I often like to read your posts but this time you got a bit stuck off track. How can you not understand that jealousy is the link to this forum like intactmale stated above? And with show off it has nothing to do at all.

So now how about your best bud, is his cock bigger than yours and how did you find out and feel about it?

You're going with jealousy as the connection to this sub forum? I find that very difficult to accept, given you wrote this in your last post:

"it is totally true, i have absolutely no bad intentions with anybody, i have a very positive attitude to my life and surprisingly for some, i have no i.n.s.e.c.u.r.i.t.y. about my own size. actually, i love my size and as you can see in many of my real comparison pictures with very thick and large penises (which btw are pure eye candy by themselves hehe) i have absolutely zero inadequacy feelings or thoughts about sph when fully erected right next to hung individuals who are naturally attracted to my dick, body, personality and mind. i am proud of my average sized penis when he is standing hard and facing 1:1 a humongous powerful real man's penis. there is zero sph involved in such holy moments - it's all about the essence of the moment of comparing two totally different cocks and life-realities of men in every little facet between the two of them, whether straight or not."

There is nothing within the context of this that anyone could reasonably interpret as jealousy.

 

[IntactMale]

He was baiting.

There's no baiting. I see someone who is a good and honest contributor on this site being attacked for no reason. I'm defending him. This is the most appropriate section of the forum for this type of thread, and even if there were an SPH section, this thread wouldn't be appropriate for that section. Jealousy and humiliation are not the same thing. Jealousy and insecurity are not the same thing.

 

[IntactMale]

You're going with jealousy as the connection to this sub forum? I find that very difficult to accept, given you wrote this in your last post:

"it is totally true, i have absolutely no bad intentions with anybody, i have a very positive attitude to my life and surprisingly for some, i have no i.n.s.e.c.u.r.i.t.y. about my own size. actually, i love my size and as you can see in many of my real comparison pictures with very thick and large penises (which btw are pure eye candy by themselves hehe) i have absolutely zero inadequacy feelings or thoughts about sph when fully erected right next to hung individuals who are naturally attracted to my dick, body, personality and mind. i am proud of my average sized penis when he is standing hard and facing 1:1 a humongous powerful real man's penis. there is zero sph involved in such holy moments - it's all about the essence of the moment of comparing two totally different cocks and life-realities of men in every little facet between the two of them, whether straight or not."

There is nothing within the context of this that anyone could reasonably interpret as jealousy.

Jealousy and insecurity are not the same thing. I can be jealous of how much money Jeff Bezos makes without being insecure about how much money I make. I can also be jealous of how much money Jeff Bezos makes and not be humiliated by how much money I make.

You can be interested in size differences without it being humiliation or insecurity. Since this thread is more about asking how you feel not being the biggest in the room, and not about being shamed for it, its not humiliation and doesn't belong in an SPH forum. If you think the thread doesn't belong here then suggest a better section of the forum, ask the mods to move the thread, or look at a different thread.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

Jealousy and insecurity are not the same thing. I can be jealous of how much money Jeff Bezos makes without being insecure about how much money I make. I can also be jealous of how much money Jeff Bezos makes and not be humiliated by how much money I make.

You can be interested in size differences without it being humiliation or insecurity. Since this thread is more about asking how you feel not being the biggest in the room, and not about being shamed for it, its not humiliation and doesn't belong in an SPH forum. If you think the thread doesn't belong here then suggest a better section of the forum, ask the mods to move the thread, or look at a different thread.

I understand that jealousy and insecurity are not synonymous. People who are insecure about something are more likely to be jealous of those who have what makes a person insecure. He clearly has no issues with any of the section topics. Asking if other do have these issues is a smokescreen. This section is for helping people with issues. He has none. Using this as a ruse to get people to discuss his kink....comparing penis sizes....is beyond old.

And to be clear, I did suggest another forum: Show Off. He can compare to his heart's content. He'll likely find more guys sharing his interest. Further, I have nothing against him or his interests. It's just worn out, and doesn't belong here in Relationships, in my opinion.

 

[IntactMale]

Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy. If any part of the forum is a catch all for any kind of subject, aside from et cetera, et cetera, which is not intended to be sexual, it is this section. Calling this section relationships is inaccurate, and it seems intentionally inaccurate because calling it by its full name shows that this is the appropriate section.

The OP:

"How do you guys feel about your best friend having the bigger cock? Any jealousy or just fine with it, never a thought about it?"

It is a question about jealousy, one of the headings of this section. No pictures have been shared, no comparisons have been made, and there have been no attempts to show off. The question is about how someone feels when they don't have the biggest penis in the room and whether or not there is any jealousy associated with that feeling. A question about jealousy is most appropriately kept in the relationships, discrimination, and JEALOUSY section of the forum.

If this is really such a problem then ignore the OP and you won't have to see his posts. I think the mods agree that this is the appropriate place for this type of post, otherwise it would be moved or deleted.

 

[Dave NoCal]

Stepping back from my initial irritation, I have been trying to grasp what it might be like to NEED to start three hundred and forty threads on the essentially same topic, in only one venue no less.
My guess is that the OP and the others who post compulsively, and often "name" themselves after their compulsion, are trying to solve an internal problem that probably stems form childhood. Of course, engaging in an unrelated compulsion does not resolve trauma so they do it over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over....
My irritation, I am sure, is multifactorial but two of the most obvious irritants are:
1.These people and their obsessive posting appear to be taking up ever increasing band width on the site and crowding out people with something that is interesting to people with less specialized needs and likes.
2. Observing people trying to solve a problem with an acting out behavior, for example getting sloppy drunk to get over the narcissistc injury of a break up, over and over , and over, and over, and over, and over, is frustrating and, ultimately angering.

Some who have responded to this thread suggest a separate location for posting about fetishes which I think is a reasonable idea. However, I suspect that part of the compulsion, the drive, of fetishes, at least for some, is to "test" those who are not interested and replicate previous rejections in hopes that these rejections will eventually "solve" the early rejections and will eventually make the pain go away. They will not.

 

[1222288]

Stepping back from my initial irritation, I have been trying to grasp what it might be like to NEED to start three hundred and forty threads on the essentially same topic, in only one venue no less.
My guess is that the OP and the others who post compulsively, and often "name" themselves after their compulsion, are trying to solve an internal problem that probably stems form childhood. Of course, engaging in an unrelated compulsion does not resolve trauma so they do it over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over....
My irritation, I am sure, is multifactorial but two of the most obvious irritants are:
1.These people and their obsessive posting appear to be taking up ever increasing band width on the site and crowding out people with something that is interesting to people with less specialized needs and likes.
2. Observing people trying to solve a problem with an acting out behavior, for example getting sloppy drunk to get over the narcissistc injury of a break up, over and over , and over, and over, and over, and over, is frustrating and, ultimately angering.

Some who have responded to this thread suggest a separate location for posting about fetishes which I think is a reasonable idea. However, I suspect that part of the compulsion, the drive, of fetishes, at least for some, is to "test" those who are not interested and replicate previous rejections in hopes that these rejections will eventually "solve" the early rejections and will eventually make the pain go away. They will not.

I think what some of the "supporters" of the OP are conveniently missing in their arguments is just that: the staggering number of threads in the OP's post history. You would have to be intentionally myopic to not see that 1) they are all the same and 2) solely revolve around SPH. Recent evolutions of this thread makes the topic slightly less obvious, to try to sneak it under the door a little bit easier, but that's like putting a tiara on a cow and saying you have a princess in front of you. No, it's still a cow.

To the suggestion of a separate forum, and to have the OP's threads removed: been there done that. For the most part, I find moderators are quick to respond if you are the wrong gender in the wrong forum, but leave threads open for discussion. Recently there was one in the Gay Men's forum where someone was fishing for very underage sexual stories, and that didn't get closed, so.. I think they leave it up to the community to manage in many instances. Unfortunately, with the more obsessive personalities, it just becomes a recurring problem. Interestingly (but predictable), you can chart a frequency of thread postings for the OP. It is very regular.

Ignoring people doesn't solve problems. It just allows the problem to persist. Maybe with enough attention on this community member, a moderator will do something. Unfortunately I find that very unlikely, given the sheer number of trolling threads by He Who Shall Not Be Named in this forum that continue to be unmoderated. So, again, it is up to the community to call those people out, and at least make others aware of the intent, and deception, of the OP.