Natural Or Learned?

[David Lucaya]

Did you know before having sex if you were bottom, top or vers? I ask because I always knew I was more of a top but I did have to experiment in order to find out I enjoy bottoming too sometimes.
So how did you come to realize the position you prefer, just curious

 

[Billy Williams]

I had a best friend growing up with a small dick. We started jacking each other and after a while he started butt fucking me. I love the erotic feeling of his dick in my ass. Loved it ever since.

 

[Andrue]

Before I ever had actual sex with anyone, I was already putting makeshift dildos up my butt. I consider myself to be 90% bottom and I feel I come by it pretty naturally.

I’ll fuck another guy, sure, and even enjoy it but it’s simply not my prime motivation.

 

[uncutwonder v2.0]

When I lost my virginity I bottomed, and it just kinda felt “right” to me. I could count on one hand the number of times I topped for various partners since, and it was usually at their request.

 

[flooble]

I was pretty vers-ish/bottom when I first became sexually active with guys. For some reason, a switch kinda flipped after a couple years, I stopped enjoying getting fucked, and became very very happy with being a top.

 

[Lynx_prt]

Even before I had sex for the first time I felt more inclined to being a bottom, as the thoughts that got me off always involved dick, wether it was for sucking or playing with it in my butt. I also experimented with objects in my ass and, when it finally happened, I bottomed and it felt natural to me. With time, I started topping too, but to this day if I can choose, I bottom.

 

[deleted1074483]

first time I had gay sex, I was about 221, and it was with a surfer dude a bit older than me (23/4), he led the whole thing but when we came to fucking he bottomed and never once asked to top me. since then every guy I've been with has just wanted to bottom for me, either we've been clear upfront on what we like, or its just happened that way. No idea why or if I give off some sort of vibe. I've tried bottoming maybe 4-5 times with long term partners but it did nothing for me, even though I could take their dicks relatively easily. I'm much happier being the top and it feels 'natural' to me.

 

[Brodie888]

I discovered anal pleasure on my journey with masturbation. To have a real cock up my ass was a natural progression.

 

[diver6]

I discovered anal pleasure on my journey with masturbation. To have a real cock up my ass was a natural progression.

Exactly how I started with a buddy quite young.

 

[headbang8]

Many bottoms I know have assured me that it can be an acquired taste. But after giving it my best shot, it’s a taste I have yet to acquire. I think my prostate is hiding in a vault.

 

[SpeedThePlow]

I really don't know. My guess is that it could be an acquired taste, but since I've mostly found myself with guys who generally prefer to bottom, I've never really felt the need to acquire it. My fantasy life is never around getting fucked, and although I don't hate it and I'll cheerfully bottom to please a guy who wants it, it's always more of a "being nice" thing than the thing i really desperately want to do.

 

[bkmuscledad]

Did you know before having sex if you were bottom, top or vers? I ask because I always knew I was more of a top but I did have to experiment in order to find out I enjoy bottoming too sometimes.
So how did you come to realize the position you prefer, just curious

I feel that I always knew I was a top, the same way that I always knew that I found both women and men attractive.
When I was (cough cough), I fucked my best friend, who was a year older, and that same summer, I fucked my first woman.
That pretty much cemented it for me. I have never had the desire to be penetrated, despite some very persuasive guys who tried to convince me to try it.

 

[Infernal]

I was always curious about getting fucked, and then when it happened it wasn't all I imagined it to be. I didn't hate it, but I didn't love it either. Now it's a rare thing that I have to really be in the mood for. If I'm giving it, then I like a guy flat on his stomach. If I'm getting it, then I like to sit on it to start, then we can find another position. Doggy can be painful for me, so it's not something I like to start with.

 

[EDP9]

Natural, it's an innate desire, an expression of yourself in the area of sexuality, but it goes beyond the sexual act itself. I always knew I was a top, even before I fucked any guy. I always knew I could not do anything else. I always knew I wanted to find a guy who loved sucking cock, kissing and getting fucked. I never went after any guys, they came to me, they wanted me for who I was, for what I had to give, without even asking what I liked to do, they knew it instantly and those were the guys I attracted, the ones who appreciated my manhood, my virility, my looks and personality. I did not even have to advertise anything, I was never asked what I liked to do, they knew it without me having to say a word. So there must be a certain body language one is not even aware of, some type of intuition or communication at the subconscious level that then is quickly transmitted to our brain, as I also knew instantly when a good-looking masculine guy was looking for cock, desiring to get fucked, even before he approached me. Being desired for who you are, for what you are, for your essence, is the most powerful turn on in the world, it awakens and takes sexual desire to its highest level.

 

[niagarachatter]

Learned I am guessing. It was on my 18th birthday, I went for a trip to Toronto and was searching for a exotic massage. I came across a guy claiming he was a gay 18 year old Chinese masseuse so I went to his place as it was just up the road from where I was. He had me lay naked on my back while he got undressed. He gave a good rub to my upper body and then to my legs and feet and then asked me to turn over while it was difficult laying on my hard cock I did and then he reached under and pulled it between my legs. While rubbing my back and legs he kept hitting my cock making it stay hard. He put some more oil on my ass and started fingering it. I guess he could tell I was enjoying his fingers in me by the moaning I was making then he started sliding his naked body on mine and next thing I knew his cock was inside my ass and he fucked me real good. After he finished fucking me he got me to flip back over and he sucked the cum out of my dick which only took a few seconds once it was in his warm mouth. I have been hooked on getting fucked ever since.

 

[Shyguy312]

Always been bottom minded, wank thoughts being mainly having a man sliding his cock up me and fucking me.