Natural tendencies?

[Principessa]

(NJQT.. Darlin, whats a Canyon Yodeler? I can guess.. lol, but thought it better to ask!)

A non PC term for a lesbian.

 

[LongTimeComing]

I think everyone is on a scale, men or women, from 1 to 100 from completely gay to completely straight. Myself, I think I am completely straight, but I couldn't care less if someone were gay. I have no attraction to men sexually, but if some guy does, it doesn't matter to me. Homophobes are guys who get pissy at guys attracted to guys (or women to women) even though they are closet cases. Real men don't care.

That said, I think more women are closer to the middle than men i.e. more women are interested in sex with other women than men are with men. So morte men are closer to the extremes, either all gay or all straight, than women. Why, I do not know.

I basically agree with this. I think everyone is on the spectrum from 0% to 100%, and I think that most people who consider themselves at either extreme are actually just a little more towards the middle than they would like to admit.

As for women, I think that it is easier and more acceptable for a woman to express her curiosity about same-sex relations because our society has so highly sexualized the female form. Until recently anything that was "sexy" was female. It used to be very unusual to see men's bodies portrayed in an attractive and sexual manner. Women's bodies were always highly exposed and objectified in advertising and popular media. Men's, not so much. That has changed a lot over the last decade or so, and I think we see that male bisexuality has become somewhat more commonplace and accepted at the same time. Still more common and acceptable for a woman, I think.

I call myself 100% straight, but I do admit to having curiosity about men's bodies. I don't have any desire to act on it, but I do have a curiosity. I think that is pretty normal. Most men around my age I've spoken to about it with will readily agree, I think when I was younger I would have been afraid or ashamed to admit it.

 

[Ethyl]

I think all this talk about how women are more naturally inclined to be bisexual smells like "bisexual chic" to please straight men. It's one thing to be bisexual, it's another to pretend to please someone else.

 

[SassySpy]

A non PC term for a lesbian.

good thing I didnt go with my guess....
damn, thanks for clearing that up! :smile:

 

[WildHoney]

I have tried my best to bring out my bisexual side. I can find women erotic and sexy. I have played with women in sexual enviroment. I recently went down ona woman, and enjoyed making her cum -

however

I do not however EVER lust after women, watch girl on girl porn, think about women when I day dream or masturbate, long for a feminine touch, feel sexy in womens company or enjoy the taste of vagina.

I am in a situation where I am free to explore my sexuality. I am around a lot of women who are happy to allow me to experiment with them.

I just dont get the urge to be with them in anything but a social situation.

I consider myself to be straight.

I have played with women, but if I was never to touch, watch, see, feel, smell another woman sexually for the rest of my life, that would be fine with me.

x

Honey

 

[DC_DEEP]

I don't think women have "more of a tendency" or that they are "wired" for same-gender or bisexual orientation. I agree that there are some 100% on either end of the scale, and some to varying degrees in between.

I do, though, think that throughout history, it has been more socially acceptable for women to acknowledge other-than-100%-straight tendencies, than it has been for men.

 

[BurningVenus]

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Originally Posted by BurningVenus

When a man persists with the 'you just haven't tried it yet,' spiel I start telling him all about how much he is going to love sucking cock. First they look shocked, then they shut up.

LMAO......:lmao: Good one. :tongue:


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:biggrin1:
In the event the unlikely event the cock sucking thing doesnt work. Invite him to watch Butt Bang 4.

 

[wldhoney]

I think all this talk about how women are more naturally inclined to be bisexual smells like "bisexual chic" to please straight men. It's one thing to be bisexual, it's another to pretend to please someone else.

I think it depends on the person. If you are doing it and hating it but continue only to please him, then I think it is unhealthy.

If you are doing and turned on by it and by him watching you, I think that's another story. I have 3 girlfriends and we have had an annual beach trip every year now for 5 years, even when we are in relationships/married. We have playtime and there are no men there, though are men know about it. While we all enjoy it, hence the continued trips, :biggrin1: two of us prefer a man to be there and two like it the same either way.

I do believe that a lot of girls are out kissing their friends in public and at parties and on tv because just to please other men, not because they really want to. They are simply following a trend.

 

[Ethyl]

I think it depends on the person. If you are doing it and hating it but continue only to please him, then I think it is unhealthy.

That was mostly my point.

If you are doing and turned on by it and by him watching you, I think that's another story. I have 3 girlfriends and we have had an annual beach trip every year now for 5 years, even when we are in relationships/married. We have playtime and there are no men there, though are men know about it. While we all enjoy it, hence the continued trips, :biggrin1: two of us prefer a man to be there and two like it the same either way.

If you're bisexual and fully enjoy same sex activities without the assistance of the opposite sex (which you obviously do) that's one thing. I don't mind performing activities for my partner if he asks. But i'm not attracted to other women. At least, not yet. Who knows? That may change. Why would I engage in same sex activities if i'm not attracted to the woman? It doesn't make sense. If it's only to please the male partner, I could only see myself doing this if he were willing to reciprocate but most straight men aren't willing to do that.

I do believe that a lot of girls are out kissing their friends in public and at parties and on tv because just to please other men, not because they really want to. They are simply following a trend.

Yes, and it's one that isn't beneficial for them. Sad.

 

[BurningVenus]

That was mostly my point.
If you're bisexual and fully enjoy same sex activities without the assistance of the opposite sex (which you obviously do) that's one thing. I don't mind performing activities for my partner if he asks. But i'm not attracted to other women. At least, not yet. Who knows? That may change. Why would I engage in same sex activities if i'm not attracted to the woman? It doesn't make sense. If it's only to please the male partner, I could only see myself doing this if he were willing to reciprocate but most straight men aren't willing to do that.
Yes, and it's one that isn't beneficial for them. Sad.

Sexuality should never be based on a fad. It just seems like a really bad idea.

 

[B_andyo]

hmmm just No.

 

[mattyacht]

Ladies,
I need your opinion. I'm trying to overcome unwanted homosexual attractions. I've been with several women in my twenties but never long term. I've had one male lover and countless tricks in my thirties. I'm now 45, attractive and have a beatiful 6.5"x 5.5" cock. I totally understand where gay men come from but I don't want to be one any longer. I think gay men really want to be straight, but for thousands of reasons feel that they fall short of the archetype they admire. I think homosexuality is fueled mainly by envy. Acting out is a form of worshipping an archetype that we feel we could never measure up to. The thought of growing old and alone terrifies me. Also the thought of having to disclose my past scares me. Trust me, I will have to or my sister-in-law will. She's the world's last gossip. Fortunately, I am HIV- and have never gotten any kind of STD.
Are there any ladies out there who would be willing to marry a contrite and humble loving man who struggled with his sexual identity through formidable and adulthood years? Or do I need to consider myself damaged or defective goods and grow old alone?

 

[wldhoney]

Matt,

What would be sad is going thru life trying to deny who your are. You say you want to overcome unwanted homosexual attractions, but the point is, you are attracted. It's who you are, and there is nothing wrong with YOU!

No doubt, there are a lot of women out there who would jump at the chance of "helping" you so that they are not alone. This is unfair to both of you, because it is not fulfilling.

I disagree that men are homosexuals out of envy. That's like saying that ALL homosexuals were molested and ALL homosexuals are pedophiles. Are you into children, Matt? No, I didn't think so. Some people are born this way, and some make a choice. The point is to be happy.

You say your sister-in-law is going to "out you". It sounds like this is some sort of religious guilt, blackmail. That she would set out to hurt someone this way shows her to be a vindictive person, and if it is based on some form of Christianity, then she is condemning herself thru her own actions.

You need to learn to love who YOU are, Matt. Trying to be hertero out of fear of being alone isn't the answer. Talk to friends who are gay and get out there and meet people.

That's my advice.

 

[Not_Punny]

Ladies,
I need your opinion. I'm trying to overcome unwanted homosexual attractions. I've been with several women in my twenties but never long term. I've had one male lover and countless tricks in my thirties. I'm now 45, attractive and have a beatiful 6.5"x 5.5" cock. I totally understand where gay men come from but I don't want to be one any longer. I think gay men really want to be straight, but for thousands of reasons feel that they fall short of the archetype they admire. I think homosexuality is fueled mainly by envy. Acting out is a form of worshipping an archetype that we feel we could never measure up to. The thought of growing old and alone terrifies me. Also the thought of having to disclose my past scares me. Trust me, I will have to or my sister-in-law will. She's the world's last gossip. Fortunately, I am HIV- and have never gotten any kind of STD.
Are there any ladies out there who would be willing to marry a contrite and humble loving man who struggled with his sexual identity through formidable and adulthood years? Or do I need to consider myself damaged or defective goods and grow old alone?

Hey, I wouldn't worry about what a woman would think about your history. Except for bitches, we're basically "wired" to nuture. In fact, I think a woman would feel very special if she felt she had the "right" femininity to engage an otherwise gay guy.

However, women need a lot of committment -- unless, of course, you find a woman who could understand an occasional urge to have a cock.

A bi-woman might just be the ticket.

 

[Not_Punny]

addition:

BTW, I know what you mean about being conflicted about your sexual identity. I'm no psychologist, but it's what I call "sexual schizophrenia" -- where you have two sexual identities that are at "war" with each other.

For example, 70% of me is in love with "vanilla sex" -- textbook boy-girl sex. I find it utterly beautiful. However, 30% of me is "dark" -- semi-BDSM, and I have a hard time "getting" off without engaging my "dark side" either mentally or acting it out.

I hate having a dark side. I would much rather be 100% vanilla. But I can't change the identity -- it's wired too deep to change.

The only way I could come to terms with it was to acknowledge that I was sexually schizzoid. I can handle it just fine as long as I treat them as two different personalities (two entirely different people) -- and when I have sex, I know in advance "who" is having sex: one or the other, and only very occasionally both.

I realize that this would be much more difficult for you, seeing as how you have two different sexual orientations. But if you look at it from this viewpoint (that you have two completely different sexual personalities that don't necessarily "agree" with each other), perhaps it could open up possibilities for you.

Self-awareness is very important -- the more you know about yourself, the better off you are.

 

[mattyacht]

Wild Honey,
Thanks for your opinion. BTW I could cuddle with you and hold those breasts of yours ALL NIGHT LONG. AFTERWARDS THAT IS !!!!

Cheers,

Mattyacht