Okay, let's start with I'm gay and my best friend is straight. Let's call him Sam to make it easy. So I just moved to a new city to live closer to Sam. He has been my best friend since childhood and is one of those guys who is amazingly hot but doesn't think he is even though women are always talking about it. And, he has the most perfect dick. I know this because, even though he's "straight," I've been giving him head for the last 10 years. So it's fun that we're now neighbors.
I almost never see him since I moved into town. He works odd hours, so by the time he gets off work he's usually too tired to do anything except eat dinner and go to bed. And I don't mean hang out like pull his pants down, cuz Sam usually stops by on his way to work for that. I'm talkin about actually hanging out like we used to, whether it's just to kick back with a beer and watch TV, share a meal, or go out to do something fun. Which you know, is all fine and good cuz he has a life that makes him happy so I'm happy for him.
The problem? I don't know anyone else here and, aside from when Sam stops by in the morning, it's starting to feel really lonely. I've tried going out to the bars, downloading apps, joining meetup groups, etc. I just seem to get ignored by, well, pretty much everyone. Which is a strange feeling, because where I lived before everyone seemed to think I had a giant "HELP DESK" sign above my head at all times. No matter where I went, inadvertantly 47 people would come up to me out of nowhere. As annoying as it was sometimes, I made a lot of friends that way. But here, nobody even wants to acknowledge my existence much less strike up a conversation.
It's actually gotten to the point where I've projected the frustration I feel about it onto Sam. I'm grateful he didn't get angry about it--I think any other guy would have--but I think we both just recognized it as projection. He tries to console me by reminding me that it takes time, and that I'll get there eventually. Which I'm sure is true, but in the meantime he's got other friends in the city whom I'd love to meet. I just don't have an opportunity to because there's no opportunity to introduce us. And since every effort I make to try to make new friends amounts to absolutely nothing, it's starting to make me feel worthless. I just recently turned to an MMO that I stopped playing 7 years ago, just to have some kind of social interaction, but logging on just reminds me that I quit because the relationships on an MMO aren't real.
Any advice y'all have would be great, whether it's ways to make new friends, ways to feel more comfortable alone, etc.
I almost never see him since I moved into town. He works odd hours, so by the time he gets off work he's usually too tired to do anything except eat dinner and go to bed. And I don't mean hang out like pull his pants down, cuz Sam usually stops by on his way to work for that. I'm talkin about actually hanging out like we used to, whether it's just to kick back with a beer and watch TV, share a meal, or go out to do something fun. Which you know, is all fine and good cuz he has a life that makes him happy so I'm happy for him.
The problem? I don't know anyone else here and, aside from when Sam stops by in the morning, it's starting to feel really lonely. I've tried going out to the bars, downloading apps, joining meetup groups, etc. I just seem to get ignored by, well, pretty much everyone. Which is a strange feeling, because where I lived before everyone seemed to think I had a giant "HELP DESK" sign above my head at all times. No matter where I went, inadvertantly 47 people would come up to me out of nowhere. As annoying as it was sometimes, I made a lot of friends that way. But here, nobody even wants to acknowledge my existence much less strike up a conversation.
It's actually gotten to the point where I've projected the frustration I feel about it onto Sam. I'm grateful he didn't get angry about it--I think any other guy would have--but I think we both just recognized it as projection. He tries to console me by reminding me that it takes time, and that I'll get there eventually. Which I'm sure is true, but in the meantime he's got other friends in the city whom I'd love to meet. I just don't have an opportunity to because there's no opportunity to introduce us. And since every effort I make to try to make new friends amounts to absolutely nothing, it's starting to make me feel worthless. I just recently turned to an MMO that I stopped playing 7 years ago, just to have some kind of social interaction, but logging on just reminds me that I quit because the relationships on an MMO aren't real.
Any advice y'all have would be great, whether it's ways to make new friends, ways to feel more comfortable alone, etc.