Online Dating ?

[Thr3Dk1LL3r]

Okay I have a question I posted my profile on a dating site I selected everyone both men and women and something odd happened I had one person like me that was female and I had 12 men does that say anything about me or does it say maybe that there's just a lot of lonely man out there or is it maybe just my area should I read into it at all I'm not quite sure I really like men but I'm kind of curious but I don't really know how to safely test that curiosity out

 

[deleted5506831]

It may just have a higher number of homosexual males on the site. I think dating sites in general, heck even this site that isn't a dating site, have more men.

 

[Thr3Dk1LL3r]

It may just have a higher number of homosexual males on the site. I think dating sites in general, heck even this site that isn't a dating site, have more men.

That is true. Didn't think of that

 

[Thr3Dk1LL3r]

On a related note. Any instruction or tips on how to have safe casual same sex in a covid world would be appreciated. Ty

 

[Satisha]

does it say maybe that there's just a lot of lonely man out there

This is correct. You can simply see the gender balances on dating sides. Being a woman, she can get it so easy as long as she's willing to spread herself. With men, however, it's very difficult to get a date, even after gay is mainstream and legalised. Was it because of social status? Physical body ? Endowment?

On unrelated story, but kinda related to online dating, is it my fault for asking his well-being everyday? Almost a year into chatting and long distance relationship, he suddenly ghosting me and eventually a week later, he just blocked me on all of his social media and even phone number... I was hoping to finally seeing the light at the end of my virginity's tunnel but suddenly a tremor happened and closed up the tunnel and it turns to dark again... Well...it was my first gay date with actual white guy for my 27 years... He was perfect... maybe I'm just a desperate fool believing. Is it always this hard to be gay? What if I'm getting older and I've become irrelevant after my time is up? I was ready to move into my dream home with him. I'm not into hookups because it's not meaningful. Sometimes I wish I was conscripted into some war and die a hero so that I don't have to think about the matters with my heart. It's so...complicated. Or maybe I'm just have bad luck with any relationship. Or should I become a that bad guy instead ? If I can't have him, then none shall have him at all ?

 

[halcyondays]

Another factor to consider is that many women 1) think bi men are "gay but don't know it" or 2) don't trust that bi men can be exclusive. Or both.

It's been a decade since I did any profile-based on line dating but when I wanted to meet women I selected straight on my profile and when I wanted to meet men I selected gay.

The interesting thing was how many gay/bi men contacted me when I chose straight and that at least a few women contacted me when I chose gay!