Does that rule still apply when I'm standing and you're kneeling ?
Gobble, gobble, gobble. Doesn’t anyone around here fuck any more?
YEs.... But you insist on standing and I don't like that position. at least kneel on a bed or something.Gobble, gobble, gobble. Doesn’t anyone around here fuck any more?
Promises, promises. It's always the butch ones who roll over.Me too.
But don't go all cry-baby on me when tomorrow your tushy hurts.
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It's hard, my wife and I have tried. Everyone keeps say to communicate yes but with open minds. What if he gets someone pregnant or you become pregnant. To me these are the questions that needs to be asked.
I have a friend whose wife became pregnant and now he raises him as his own. They talked about before hand so no issues.
If you do go down this road, realize it's going to be bumpy with maybe some hiccups. Just be honest and communicate with each other.
I have a friend whose wife became pregnant and now he raises him as his own. They talked about before hand so no issues.
If you do go down this road, realize it's going to be bumpy with maybe some hiccups. Just be honest and communicate with each other.
I can't deny that actually. I'm versa.
Not really believe in limiting oneself.
Still not doing it standing up though, the fucking. Very uncomfortable position. It kinda works but not enjoying the sensation as much. Neither as a top or as a bottom.
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Reality of life, things happen, even unplanned. My friends are wonderful people and they love each other. There love is deeper than life in my opinion
I am in a committed relationship with several girls. They all know each other, most are actually friends.
That being said, my drive is higher than theirs combined so we agreed that i could get blow jobs but not from other women but men. I have no issue with that as guys suck much better than girls.
That being said, my drive is higher than theirs combined so we agreed that i could get blow jobs but not from other women but men. I have no issue with that as guys suck much better than girls.
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Right to veto a partner that makes the other uncomfortable for any reason, no questions asked.
No pregnancy, disease or scandal.
No hiding partners.
The marriage is the only priority; any playmate endangering that in any way is history, even of it is not that person's fault.
No playmates with a dramatic home life. No partners without roots in the community or something to lose. If the playmate has another partner who seems untrustworthy or of poor judgement, that other partner has to go, or the playmate is gone.
If the spouse wants a date cancelled because they need some couple time, the date is cancelled.
These are the rules we started out with, and they never ended up needing to be revised.
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I could not have said that better or more succinctly myself.
I'm the outside person in a couple's open relationship. They're very open with each other and tell each other about their partners. I've even had sex with both of them at the same time. My relationship with them has become more than just sexual and we're all friends now. I like being able to be there for them when the other is away. I'm not really ready for a relationship myself and I've been looking to explore my sexuality so it works well for us all. I think it works for them because there's respect and they clearly communicated their expectations to me. In return, i just respect their relationship boundaries.
Here are some ideas:
1. Establish standards for communication. Your partner may not want to hear about your hookups, and you may not want to hear about your partner's.
2. Agree on limits. People already mentioned limits like safe sex, and no repeat visits. Also consider a ticket system, like one hookup per month or something like that. Maybe even limit sex to paid providers like masseurs or escorts.
3. Agree on an end date for the open part of the relationship. If you are going to be together again in January 2021, maybe close the relationship again in November 2020. This way, you have a solid month to re-focus on each other, and, if necessary, detect and treat any STIs that your final hookup may have given you!
1. Establish standards for communication. Your partner may not want to hear about your hookups, and you may not want to hear about your partner's.
2. Agree on limits. People already mentioned limits like safe sex, and no repeat visits. Also consider a ticket system, like one hookup per month or something like that. Maybe even limit sex to paid providers like masseurs or escorts.
3. Agree on an end date for the open part of the relationship. If you are going to be together again in January 2021, maybe close the relationship again in November 2020. This way, you have a solid month to re-focus on each other, and, if necessary, detect and treat any STIs that your final hookup may have given you!
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I'm in a very loving yet open relationship. I enjoy it at times and sometimes it kind of messes with my head. I can be attracted to another guy and all but I find most of the time I cannot reach the level of excitement and mind blowing hard-on I can reach only with my guy. It's embarrassing to be in a three way or alone with someone else and not be able to get going.
It's kind of like when you're really in love having someone else come in the picture just don't always work.
It's kind of like when you're really in love having someone else come in the picture just don't always work.
@AlteredEgo ‘s advice here is really solid. Some thoughts from my experience:
1. Communicate - Essential. But this will be different for different people. What do you want to know? What does your partner want to know? Respect it if the answers to those questions aren’t exactly the same. Your partner has a right to know everything that gives them comfort—and not know everything that skeezes them out.
2. Forgive - Few couples stick the landing perfectly on non-monogamy—especially at the start. There will be bumps along the way. There are bumps with monogamy, too. Be gentle with yourself and your partner. Make sure that your love and care for each other takes priority.
3. No partners who introduce the 4 ‘D’s -
Disease
Drama
Drugs (heavy ones, primarily)
Descendants
Credit to good friends who came up with this. It’s so true.
4. Revise - If you follow the rules and your partner still gets hurt, the rules need to be revised. No questions asked. Work with each other to find what makes you both feel at ease. This should be fun. Iterate until it is.
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These is a very interesting thread to me. Never been in an open relationship.
The concept is interesting, and the posts indicate that it can work.
I think I might be too old or too insecure.
Multiple partners seems ideal when we are young, but as I get older and older,
I adore my life and the love my partner and I share
The concept is interesting, and the posts indicate that it can work.
I think I might be too old or too insecure.
Multiple partners seems ideal when we are young, but as I get older and older,
I adore my life and the love my partner and I share
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