Pulled On Your Heartstrings

[CptCanada]

What is the last thing that your partner or another person in your life did that pulled on your heartstrings?

Also, happy belated Mothers day to all the Moms on here! We wouldn't be here without you.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Well, I know some members who deal with infertility just had theirs cruelly yanked.

pro fucking tip:
Women exist outside of reproduction
And honestly, given what porn is like these days, asking about mom status is a very large, very red flag.

 

[JulieInNaplesFL]

Hubby paid for groceries in Walmart for a girl with 3 kids that were obviously very poor.

He does that a lot and it always brings a tear to my eyes.

 

[CptCanada]

Well, I know some members who deal with infertility just had theirs cruelly yanked.

pro fucking tip:
Women exist outside of reproduction
And honestly, given what porn is like these days, asking about mom status is a very large, very red flag.

Of course women exist outside of reproduction, as do men, what made you believe that I felt otherwise? And I wasn't asking about "mom status". I was simply expressing a nice gesture to mothers who happen to be here. I would have done the same during Father's day if I was posting on the male forum.

And what is the state of porn these days and what does that have to do with my comment? My heart goes out to any individual or couple who is struggling with infertility or are unable to conceive children of their own. I also believe in the freedom of people who have the choice not to do so.

All of that being said are you suggesting that any talk of parenthood, children, or conception is prohibited from here?

Thank you for your response and I hope that you reply again.

 

[CptCanada]

Hubby paid for groceries in Walmart for a girl with 3 kids that were obviously very poor.

He does that a lot and it always brings a tear to my eyes.

What a guy! That is amazing

Especially in these times it is so amazing to hear positives stories like this.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Your comment, made AFTER Mother’s Day really hurt one of the women here.
Given this is a sex site, leave parental talk elsewhere.

 

[CptCanada]

Your comment, made AFTER Mother’s Day really hurt one of the women here.
Given this is a sex site, leave parental talk elsewhere.

I understand how the comment "we wouldn't be here without you" could offend and hurt you or others. I just want to let you know that it came from a very loving place, not one of hurt. It was me saying that I understand the challenges that our parents went through raising us whether they were our biological parents or not. A mother/father to me isn't someone who participated in our conception, it is someone who raised us.

And the reason why I said it after the official day is because I got to hug my mom on the day that I posted this message due to COVID, which was after mothers day. I just wanted to spread the love that I felt when I hugged my mom here.

And I hear your opinion on this being a sex site. However, loads of the questions on here are related to relationships. In fact many of the people here are open couples or people looking for relationship advice.

If you still feel the same way after reading this let me know.

 

[deleted924715]

What is the last thing that your partner or another person in your life did that pulled on your heartstrings?

Also, happy belated Mothers day to all the Moms on here! We wouldn't be here without you.

It wasn't my partner, it was my mum. I'd mentioned on the phone that I felt a bit under the weather and a couple of hours later she left a pan of home cooked stew on my doorstep.

I don't know where I'd be without my mum

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Of course women exist outside of reproduction, as do men, what made you believe that I felt otherwise? And I wasn't asking about "mom status". I was simply expressing a nice gesture to mothers who happen to be here. I would have done the same during Father's day if I was posting on the male forum.

And what is the state of porn these days and what does that have to do with my comment? My heart goes out to any individual or couple who is struggling with infertility or are unable to conceive children of their own. I also believe in the freedom of people who have the choice not to do so.

All of that being said are you suggesting that any talk of parenthood, children, or conception is prohibited from here?

Thank you for your response and I hope that you reply again.

I waited to reply to this thread.

Don't tell random people happy mother's day. Last may I lost my baby at 6 months pregnant. Hearing that shit kills me. It fucking kills me.

I can't have kids. I've lost 2. I don't think you may have ever had to think of it, but random people telling infertile women "happy mother's day" makes me want to pull my fucking hair out of my skull.

My heart has no more fucking strings to pull. Fuck this question.

No, you shouldn't discuss fertility and reproduction with random women if you have any consideration for the fact that for some of us it's triggering enough to make me want to literally vomit.

Thanking successful mother's for giving birth? An unintentional SLAP IN THE FACE to women like me who reached 6 months of gestation and had to have our dead child removed from our bodies surgically, because you know... We couldn't give birth. We didn't "succeed".

Remember that shit next mother's day. Everyone reading. All of you.

How's that for pulling on your fucking heartstrings?

Save the well wishes of parents for people you personally know in your life. Strangers? Don't fucking tell them that shit.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I understand how the comment "we wouldn't be here without you" could offend and hurt you or others

You don't understand. Anyone who actually does, just leaves it alone.

 

[deleted924715]

You don't understand. Anyone who actually does, just leaves it alone.

People like you sharing your story and raising awareness changes things. Until you've been made aware of how painful it is for some, you are at the mercy of the commercial forces on TV adverts, in stores, in promotional emails direct to your inbox just in case you managed to avoid the rest. They condition you that's it's a celebration, it's a holiday. Most people will only hear "thank-you" in response because women aren't going to show their soul-deep pain to a stranger on the street. The stranger walks off thinking they did good and the recipient is left feeling gut punched.

You have enough on your plate, it's not your responsibility to educate people because you suffered such a painful loss, you didn't ask for this mantle, but every time you share you make a difference. I'd say you've enlightened someone who had good intentions and probably was a bit confused as to how they could have hurt anyone. I know that you personally have made me stop and think more before I open my mouth.

 

[286798]

+1 to BacknForth

 

[CLE32793]

Anytime I can tell I was on his mind when I wasn't around.

 

[4388301]

Folk who aren't infertile can also have major emotional/etc trauma around Mother's Day/related things too

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Yep. Those first few without your mom (my case) ones where your adult daughter won’t contact (a local friend who gets her heart ripped anew on every birthday, Mother’s Day, and x mas), those who had dad being mom, Etc etc.

like “thank you for your service,” wishing someone happy Mother’s Day because she looks female and old enough to breed is thoughtless. It’s also, looking deeper, ageist and sexist. I’m betting the women who look butch and likely lesbian don’t get “HMD” lobbed at them nearly so much, even if they have kids. Let’s not forget moms who gave their kids up for adoption.

the above mentioned local friend says “thank you for your sacrifice“ to veterans. Then tells how her husband was special forces in Vietnam. So she has some clue about what they give up to serve.

 

[CptCanada]

It wasn't my partner, it was my mum. I'd mentioned on the phone that I felt a bit under the weather and a couple of hours later she left a pan of home cooked stew on my doorstep.

I don't know where I'd be without my mum

Thank you for responding! That is very sweet of her and I hope that you're feeling better

 

[CptCanada]

It wasn't my partner, it was my mum. I'd mentioned on the phone that I felt a bit under the weather and a couple of hours later she left a pan of home cooked stew on my doorstep.

I don't know where I'd be without my mum

Thank you for sharing! That is very sweet of her and I hope that you're feeling better

 

[CptCanada]

Anytime I can tell I was on his mind when I wasn't around.

I really enjoyed your response and I couldn't agree more. It really is a culmination of all the little things that show how much you mean to your partner.

 

[candy1990]

And this is why i avoid this sub forum, guy asks an honest question with a loving happy mothers day attached and gets his head chewed off by a few angry at the world individuals. EVERYONE has their demons and battles that others are unaware of it doesn't give you any right to shit on other people for it, your world and your experience is largely based on how you choose to look at it.

to captcanada, good on you for taking the responses gracefully.

 

[4388301]

Not angry, didn't "chew" anyone's head off. Just pointed out a simple fact that OP seemed to be completely oblivious 'bout. I get it was meant as a nice gesture.

For some reason am thinking of someone who really loved horses..