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The biggest reason people have to "proclaim" how out they are is that being non-heterosexual fucking confuses a lot of people.
That's what makes it fun. If you spend your life trying to not confuse people, you will not get much done. :biggrin1:
Coming out is not a one-off thing. There are parents, other family, friends, workmates, people you fancy, total strangers. Each needs their own approach and their own pace.
Then, "coming out" as bi is something else, because the strait half of you is already out by default. I'm sure there are many, many bi guys who never come out in any measurable way, just tell those they think need to know, or those it might be fun if they know.
I guess one problem with "coming out as bi" is that to homophobes it's just as "bad" as coming out as gay - you're "contaminated" - which tells you something about them.
Wouldn't it be so cool if we could just have a "coming out party"? Send invitations, rent the ballroom at a 5 star hotel. Hire a rock band, caterer and photographer.
Unfortunately life for most of us isn't quite that easy. I do not have a problem with coming out to parents and siblings or even close friends. I do not think it is necessary to be that open with employers, co-workers or acquaintances. Like I wouldn't buy milk at the corner store and say " by the way I came out yesterday and would like you to know I'm bisexual." Nor would I post it on face book.
The only people that need to know are those that you personally feel comfortable coming out to. Otherwise you may as well wear a t-shirt that proclaims "I'm Bi", and have that party.
I wouldn't either, but if it comes up, I'm not going to lie.Like I wouldn't buy milk at the corner store and say " by the way I came out yesterday and would like you to know I'm bisexual."
Coming out is a serious step forward and shouldn't be taken so lightly.Simple, straightforward, no lies. But he learned a lesson about assuming anything about strangers, and I was vastly entertained.
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It's not childish to be honest about who you are. The point is not to make fun of other people, it is to be frank and straight forward and not lie for no reason.Coming out is a serious step forward and shouldn't be taken so lightly.
I'm glad you find embarrassing others to be entertaining.
I on the other hand try to remain receptive to others feelings.
The op and his thread is not about playing childish games and nor am I.