Size : Better, different, or both?

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  1. kazooplayer

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    Ladies, when you have sex with a larger man, is the sex simply better, different, or both?

    I often hear about pressure, and comments such as "I didn't know sex could feel like that" abound, so I'm wondering what your take on it is. Does it add another dimension to the experience? Or is it just an improved form of the same act? Is it a different experience all together, with both being equal?

    Discuss.
     
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    Wouldn't better BE different?
     
  3. whatireallywant

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    Ha - I thought of that too!

    For me it is better and different. Different because I feel more, and better because, well, because I feel more!
     
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    I thought it had to be different to be better. Otherwise if it wasn't different it wouldn't be better...
     
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    Sigh... I meant different in terms of experience.

    Say you walk to work, then walk on a path in the woods; essentially, the two are the same thing, but we name them differently, as commute and hike, respectively. We recognize a large enough difference in both to name them seperately.

    I realize that it's all sex, but does the added dimension of pressure/increased friction create a different experience all together? Like, is there sex and big dick sex? Or is it all just sex, just differing in degree?

    I enjoy a back rub and a back massage, but a massage is just so much better because of the added pressure.
     
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    I think you need to clarify longer, thicker, and longer and thicker. Women I've spoken to about this seem to have different opinions on length, girth and combinations of the two. Girth seems to be satisfying to many, and it doesnt seem as if there can be too much girth. Some women have told that too much length can be painful, and even my 7" length has caused problems with some women, but this is all just conversations after the event and my recollections of past partners.
     
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    Here is a contrast for ya: You have two women in bed. One has a average vagina (not very tight, not very loose. ) And the other lady (unusually tight). Now you can fuck either of them and bust, but the tight woman just wont let you last. You have an intense feeling of her vagina wrapped around your dick and when you bust the sensation is even more intense. In the same way a larger penis causes more feeling than an average one. Is this pretty close to what you ladies are trying to explain?

    when you have sex with a tighter lady, is the sex simply better, different, or both? The one thing smaller men have in our favor is tight women, a lot of larger guys don't know how much better it is, but girthy men will almost always have great sex. Irony.
     
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    Good point cbr, and good analogy Fruit. I think it's length and girth. From what I've experienced, some women go ape-shit with length as it hits something in them that isn't usually hit -- CDS orgasm, I believe.

    With girth, it's not only the friction that I'm considering, but the pressure; I'm wondering if the pressure adds another dimension to sex, or if it's just an increase of the same feeling.
     
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    In terms of length, you need to be very long with most women to hit anything inside. Certainly with my 7", it's only happened a few times to me, and only with Asian girls who often have shorter, tighter vaginas. I have read that the sensation of length adds to pressure and friction at the vaginal cuff where most of her sensations are, that is that each stroke is longer and therefore more satisfying. From my experience, above average length can make sex more fluid as you rarely pop-out. I can't recall ever popping out in any position, even the more shallow positions.

    The one woman who should be able to answer this question is my wife, but she's only ever had sex with me, so what she feels is what she's always felt!

    To clarify Fruit Fly's posting: even with extra girth you still notice the difference between loose and tight. It may be that for me, loose is equivalent to his tight, and tighter is tighter still, but you do feel the difference. I've had a couple of very tight women (Asian again), and it was very stimulating against my 6". For sure it was very pleasurable, certainly adding another dimension to the act. The fact that with more than 100 partners I can remember them like yesterday is enough said.
     
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    Of course bigger is better :rolleyes:
     
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    To the person that asks about tightness - has anyone ever noticed that too tight can be worse than some looser vaginas? I've been with girls that are very tight and it has really not felt that great. Like trying to squeeze something of great girth into a tiny hole is not so much fun, than sticking that object with great girth into a still well gripping but slightly girthier hole so that you get the full movement and not too much squeeze (until you are well inside and then she can work those muscles till your heart is content!)
     
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    This is plain bullshit. It is the clitoris where most of her sensations are. The clitoris and sorrounded labia are the really sensitive parts of the vagina when it comes to orgasms.

    Hitting the bottom of the vagina (or the Cul de Sac as many people say) will cause nothing but intense pain to the woman (very similar to the kind of pain a man feels when his testicles are beaten).

    It was because of Freud and some other men that this idea of women feeling the most intense orgasms when hitting the bottom of their vaginas was established. It is a mere false myth.

    The only purpose of that bullshit called "CDS orgasm" is to make people believe that a woman will always need a penis in order to feel a good orgasm. Plain bullshit.

    A big cock might be important as a visual stimulus and when it comes to oral sex. A thick cock might stimulate better the clitoris and labia by means of friction.

    But when it comes to female orgasms: a simple finger or a well trained tongue will provide many many many more orgasms than a big cock (because tongue or fingers provides a more specific and intense stimulation in the sensitive parts: clitoris and labia).

    The main fuction of penetration isn't to give pleasure to women. In fact, they are the men who feel a stronger stimulation when penetrating (this is biological fact). This way the male ejaculates after a relatively short time and the woman becomes pregnant.

    The main function of sex from a biological point of view is the reproduction, not the pleasure.
     
  14. PatChukwurah

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    I completely disagree. I have found in my dealings with the fairer sex that this varies completely depending on the woman. I have been with some women who prefered clitoral orgasms, but I've found that the majority of the women I've been with respond most favorably to deep stimulation. My current girlfriend is in this group. She really likes clitoral orgasms and g spot orgasms, but she says that neither compare to the intensity of a deep leg-shaking orgasm. And as for CDS orgasms causing nothing but intense pain, that's just bogus.
     
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    The myth of the inert penis came about through the studies of Kinsey, where they used cotton-wool sticks (q-sticks to Americans) to ascertain the degree of sensitivity inside the vagina. A small and flexible cotton wool stick does not come close to approximating the feeling of a thick, hard cock. As far as pain goes, you don't know your physiology. With full arousal the cervix tilts out of the way, and what you hit is the end of the vaginal canal, which can be very pleasurable. Prior to full arousal or in the wrong position, you can cause pain. Many men on this site will have bottomed out, sometimes with pain and sometimes not, and I've experienced both. So much for the interior of the vagina.

    The deeper interior of the vagina balloons on arousal, leaving a band of tightness about 75mm or so thick at the neck. This vaginal cuff is the tightness we men feel when we penetrate, and it has lots of nerve endings. It is the tightness that women feel as well, especially with thicker penises. The cuff is massaged back and forwards each stroke, and this is where the pleasure from penetration comes from. In addition, the inner labia, especially if they are large, are pulled around by thrusting, and this pulls on the hood of the clitoris, meaning that women get direct clitoral stimulation from girth and thrusting as well.

    Women can orgasm from thrusting as explained above, from nipple stimulatiion, from meditation, from a lot of things. The easiest and most reliable orgasm is from clitoral stimulation, but it's not the only way. I meditate and I know tantric sex, and I can meditate an orgasm without even touching myself, like women.

    To wrap up. (a) I think the language inappropriate, and if a person can't express themselves in a civil manner, they ought not to express themselves at all. (b) don't argue sex with someone who has studied it at university
     
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    No, it almost hasn't any nerve endings. Of course, not enough to sexual stimulation.

    If they were lots of nerve endings (as you say) at the vaginal cuff, women will be in an agony of pain during the last 4 months of pregnacy (due to the pressure induced by the growing foetus and the extreme tension and enlargement of tissues caused by it).

    Ask any woman what she does when she wants to reach an orgasm.

    They rub their clitoris with their fingers, instead of hitting his cervix introducing a dildo.

    In fact, look at most porn movies: What are most girls doing while those big cocks thrust heavily their pussies and asses?: they rub their clits with the fingers, because only the stimulation provided in the clitoris (including is internal prolongation known as "g-spot") and labia can lead a woman to orgasm.

    Ah, I've also studied Medicine.

    And, also, I'm not fluent in English. That's because I'm Spanish and it's not my native lenguage. My modest level of English was self-adquired.

    Pero seguro que yo hablo Español mucho mejor que tú.

    You're not the only one who had studied at the University (and don't forget that here in Spain they are some of the finest Medicine Universities at Europe).

    And there's a fact that you should know: less than 23% of women reach orgasm by penetration alone according to several studies (including Kingsey and more recent ones).

    Ah, one more thing: female pornstars simulate orgasm in porn movies. This is a fact know even for those without an academic degree.
     
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    (a) If you think my language is "inappropriate" (you should write inappropiate instead), try to write some words in Spanish, for instance (provided you are more clever than me, as you words suggest).

    (b) this is a place to discuss about anything we want ALWAYS WITH RESPECT for the others, one thing you don't do.
     
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    Sigh, I'm seeing my thread completely misunderstood AND derailed, but...

    RFJ, in your experience you find CDS orgasms to be fake, but to say they're "bullshit" is inappropriate, as many women - some on this site - will attest that they have had and thoroughly enjoy CDS orgasms.

    He wasn't referring to your English skills, rfj, he was referring to your attitude.
     
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    Let me bring this back to the original question...

    I love a big penis but, the best lovers were not the ones with the largest penises. Truly it's the skill of the lover, not the size that makes the difference.

    That being said, I love it when I feel a man's cock *bottoming out*. It definitely feels fantastic (though in some positions it does hurt). And, yes, big girth is great too - makes me feel tighter which is sort of hot.

    Regarding the whole clitoris orgasm conversation - I for one am not a huge fan of direct clitoral stimulation. I'd rather grind down against a man than have him touch it. The G-spot orgasms caused by fingering are way better for me than clitoral stimulation. So, for me, give me a good skilled finger and I'm all set!

    I'm not a medical professional but I did just read that a womans vagina, when aroused, can accomodate any size penis. So, if a very large man takes his time to fully arouse the woman and enters her slowly, going deep slowly, her vagina will expand to take him all in.

    All I really know is that it all feels pretty darn good. And, it's not the size difference, it's the operator that makes it a better or different experience.
     
  20. BobLeeSwagger

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    For some women, yes. But the fact that you assume it applies to all women means that you've been reading too many 1970s issues of Redbook.
     
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