Sizequeen Issue

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  1. sizequeenNY

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    I found this site by mistake and joined out of curiosity but I am a sizequeen. The only issue is, being a sizequeen on a site like this and fet, people assume I fall on the more promiscuous side of things. That isn't true for me at all. The number of partners I have had is low compared to many women I know. I have had a lot of sex with a few men. So yes there is the preference for large cock and I am on fet because of my sexually submissive side. The issue is, I am looking for one person to get to know and spend time with. How do I approach this while being true to what I am looking for within the adult community(have tried with other men, does not work out well)
     
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    Been a sizequeen doesnt always been mean sexually promiscuous, In fact id expect sizequeens to actually have a lower than normal number of different sexual partners as by definition; your a women who wishes only to be with men who are well endowed. I'm not sure exactly what your saying but if you saying you feel a certain degree of pressure been a sizequeen, that you feel people expect you to be promiscuous, then by all means dont feel so.
     
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    No pressure to be a sizequeen, it is who I am. What I see is many are presumptuous about women who are usually are promiscuous. My issue is I am looking for one partner for a little more than just good sex and I am not sure how to even look for someone without outting myself because I worry about being wrongly judged
     
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    As a matter of interest by your self defined position as a size queen, is it just a judgement call as to if a guy is big enough? I find the idea sort of hard to understand - if you got to know someone well and you were getting along well and then he wasn't big enough for you would it mean the end of the relationship? Or would you only consider starting a relationship with a bigger guy - which in turn make me wonder if you have decided on what is "big" enough for you?
     
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    I prefer a bigger guy because it is what turns me on. I would rather not say the size here. I settled once before and had a ltr with someone average, the entire relationship I craved a larger cock and I do not think it was being true to myself for settling for less than what I like
     
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    So your saying your problem is you dont want to come across to a guy as been promiscious by coming out and saying your a sizequeen, you want to get to know them first and build a realtionship but you want to know that they have a large dick?
     
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    Well then, it seems like you just have to be completely honest about it when you get to that point with someone. It's not exactly an easy feat to find what you're looking for just by meeting people/seeing them at first glance, that's a given...but if a person turns out to not have something you desire it's not like you'll continue seeing them on a consistent basis anyways.
     
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    From what you say an emotional bond is clearly more important to you than penis size. Ultimately a healthy relationship is built upon emotional interdependence and honesty as opposed to just pure physical gratification.

    I'm sure you would have many guys here ready to swing their cocks in your general direction but what you are looking for is something a bit deeper so naturally it will take longer to develop.

    Patience is a virtue and perhaps you would be best advised not to make penis size the main quality that you seek in a prospective partner. Remember great size and big cocks don't necessarily go hand in hand.
     
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    Its a big dilemma and I can totally relate. My only opinion is to be honest and make your preference known when you meet someone new and then back off from the sexual stuff. I mean you can set the precedent in the beginning by flirting heavily and talking about sex, or showing yourself on Yahoo chat or whatever or you can talk and get to know someone. When you first meet someone, just make a conscious effort to keep the conversations fairly neutral so that if and when you do meet there wont be any serious expectations. If you play up the friendship aspect and downplay the sex stuff he should get the idea. As far as real life, same thing..let the guy know you like big dicks but then drop the subject and try to keep it clean until you feel comfortable discussing sex.

    I have always found it to be to my benefit to come right out and disclose my love for big dicks.
     
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    Thanks everyone, it is good being on a site where I can ask questions with at least some anonymity
     
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    Im not sure I was very articulate above, what I meant was that some girls launch right into the the sexual stuff and flirting (sex chat, webcams) OR...you can chose to talk first, get to know a guy and then gradually let the conversation turn to sex. The latter seems a safer alternative if you're looking for a boyfriend and not a hook up.
     
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    The easiest way to approach it is to get the whole thing of finding out does the guy have the equipment your looking for out the way. Once you know he does you can manovure the discussion away from that and start seeing if you have common ground, if your compatiable, do you realate to each other etc. You shouldnt feel the need to shy away from what you want, been a sizequeen is just a preference for your own personal happiness. Also dont have sex on a fist or second date, that way there's a subconious message there that yes you like big dicks but you dont drop your pants for any that come along, they you want a compatiable partner.
     
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    You certainly can't trust asking. Some guys think they are and aren't; some guys love to say they are, and aren't. And some guys ,who are large, don't realize it or are self conscious about it. I empathize with your quandary. I don't know of a discreet way to find out.
     
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    Yes, that is why I am left to looking for partners within the online adult communities where pics are readily available. That is the only way I feel comfortable looking without offending anyone. I was interesting in someone who was very self conscious about it and I became turned off by his insecure behavior so I do understand that too
     
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    I think it's pretty common in society that a woman who is sexually open and knows what she likes is automatically slutty.

    I find if you go right into talking about sex it attracts men who just want sex. I think it's a lot better to get to know the person a bit first and just play things by ear and let things happen naturally and not get too focused on one particular thing.
     
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    Well the self conscious guy could think he is a 'freak' of nature, particularly if he was teased or some how scarred at a younger age . There is a reason this is a 'support' group.
     
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    Haha so the answer is to just keeping looking until you find what you like.
     
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    Yes but without becoming promiscuous and taking up offers for random sex, it can get pretty lonely and it makes me sad
     
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    The problem with getting to know them first is you're likely to meet many guys who could be relationship-material but won't be endowed enough for your preference. The statistics just aren't in the favor of it and you probably don't feel like you've got enough time to date that many men.

    If it was a girl I was meeting and she didn't want me to think her promiscuous, she would need to state it in a way that discourages me escalating on the subject. Something like "By the way, please don't get the wrong idea, but I want to be honest with you and let you know I am only interested in dating someone who's very well endowed. It's not the most important thing to me and doesn't come first before I get to know someone, but I think its only fair I let you know up front."

    Make sure its a statement. Don't ask him if he's hung. If he's nervous about it, challenges your statement, or asks you how big, then you can probably assume he's not or he's too insecure for it to be any good anyways.
     
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    What is 'very well endowed'? That is subjective. A 5" could say 'big'; an 8", who watches porn, could think 'just average'. Maybe if you are out with several ladies, the group of you could talk about size while the guys are listening in. Then they could contribute. The guys who head off to the bar won't qualify; the ones who go to the mens room are checking ( or balling up their socks); and the ones who stay, at least, feel secure.
     
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