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I am seeking an honest, friendly and kind masculine father figure type man to date — with the intentions ... should we be a match, to make commitments to a lifelong monogamous relationship.
I have always been interested in ONLY finding a relationship with another man, similar to any of the many loving, faithful marriages I witnessed growing up, which I believe are work and never perfect. Which can sometimes come with a lot of suffering ... but always, despite these struggles in the end, are something (the very thing that help us to learn to love) and experience the greatest joy and peace.
I did go out to the bars roughly 15 years ago, and did not find men who I believe were emotionally healthy enough (with a constitution, a self control and a discipline) to have that kind of loving and committed relationship.
After many months out in gay bars and in smaller gay social environments (while making mistakes myself, of who to trust, amid so much of the bewidering behavior and confusion, due to the lies or manipulations of men who were mostly interested in causual sexual relationships) did I finally meet this man after many months who had such a good heart. He was not perfect as no one is, however our personalities, how we argued, our life goals, and even most of our world views were well suited to each other, and it was easy to see how we could be best friends, and real partners in life and love ...
After some time of getting to know each other, I was really ready to move forward with him, to a more serious and committed level of dating, and it was then that he decided to shared with me some things about his earlier life that hit me hard.
Already I struggled making the decisions I had made to seek such a relationship in the first place. (I was raised in a Christian home.) But this whole experience only convinced me that what I really wanted, my desire to find a relationship that was loving and lasted until death, was just not possible in a gay relationship.
My family and many closer friends know about me, but most folks presume I'm straight as I have lived celibate and single in church communities ever since. Women have always expressed a romantic interested in me and say I'm physically attractive with a personality that is unusual. They say I have a "take charge and care for others" masculinity, but at the same time they say I have a "boyish nature" or cuteness that's playful, maybe goofy or fun, and curious.
I think all that is pretty accurate, but I believe I'm smart, deep or fluffy, and know I like any kind of conversation on any topic from light banter to speaking with great depth, hopefully with intellegence, and heart to heart. I enjoy time with both introverts and extroverts, tho I strongly lean myself to the latter.
Why am I here? Now? My life still revolves as it has, however, over the years things are starting to change. Despite my friendships, there is a growing loneliness, and an ache of sorts? Over the years I have begun to have feelings and emotions I never realized were there, sorta? One of which, is a strong desire to be noticed by older men, and hopes they want to spend a lot of time with me.
Sure a father figure wound no doubt, but I also desperately want to have an older man that I too can love, and be close to. A man that has a personality or nature that wants to be close to one other man as well. Whenever it's possible. Not in a clingly way, but a man comfortable on his own, competent, but who for example ... would always prefer to work closely with me, say in the same area in the house, even when we each were working individually without a word. Or at night, when relaxing, wants me close on the couch. Perhaps schouching next to me, closer on the couch, grabbing my hand. I know that can get old for many in long term relationships, but that has not been my nature, even from women, with my heart instead being warmed and moved to show and reciprocate the affection. I know I need a man who is non critical, likes attention, and playfully reaches out.
I am 5'9" and always a stocky beefy guy. An athlete growing up and not fat. Now however I am fat and need to lose 40lbs, which I can easily do within the next year. I have brown hair, blue eyes, clean shaven, mustache or short beard.
It is difficult to describe who I am attracted to. Ultimately the primary attraction for me would be who you are. I am always drawn to masculine but gentle men, who are more often emotionally aware and able to address challenges with honest discussions, absent a critical and or sardonic world view. Not that a pollyanna Men who have a realistic not a pollyanna life in general without a critical and sardonic world view. Physically speaking, I am typically drawn to masculine white men who are big, older (40 to 70), hairy. The intense attraction is for me always about the personality, the face and the eyes.
I am not attracted to lean or skinny men, and I guess I really prefer men with smaller to larger bellies, you know, thicker guys with some beef on em. I love taller men with big arms, forearms and hands, but it would be your heart that would in the end capture mine.
I live in Denver Colorado but can travel to meet anywhere after we both experience some level of friendship, and cues that confirm a possible future romantic connection. Please feel free to contact me if anything I said might appeal to you? I like confidence, but as humans we all have moments of self doubt, due to wounds and weaknesses. Please don't let anything like that stop you from reaching out, if something I wrote here might appeal to you? There is no harm in connecting and then discovering we may not be a romantic match.
I say this before I lastly mention, how when I become friends with someone, even my straaight married freinds, that when I come to know them up close, and see more clearly their imperfections, wounds and brokeness, my love only deepens for them. While my heart is only strengthened to reach out with the truth, to help encourage them to see just how lovable they are. Thanks for taking the time to read this. Take care.
I have always been interested in ONLY finding a relationship with another man, similar to any of the many loving, faithful marriages I witnessed growing up, which I believe are work and never perfect. Which can sometimes come with a lot of suffering ... but always, despite these struggles in the end, are something (the very thing that help us to learn to love) and experience the greatest joy and peace.
I did go out to the bars roughly 15 years ago, and did not find men who I believe were emotionally healthy enough (with a constitution, a self control and a discipline) to have that kind of loving and committed relationship.
After many months out in gay bars and in smaller gay social environments (while making mistakes myself, of who to trust, amid so much of the bewidering behavior and confusion, due to the lies or manipulations of men who were mostly interested in causual sexual relationships) did I finally meet this man after many months who had such a good heart. He was not perfect as no one is, however our personalities, how we argued, our life goals, and even most of our world views were well suited to each other, and it was easy to see how we could be best friends, and real partners in life and love ...
After some time of getting to know each other, I was really ready to move forward with him, to a more serious and committed level of dating, and it was then that he decided to shared with me some things about his earlier life that hit me hard.
Already I struggled making the decisions I had made to seek such a relationship in the first place. (I was raised in a Christian home.) But this whole experience only convinced me that what I really wanted, my desire to find a relationship that was loving and lasted until death, was just not possible in a gay relationship.
My family and many closer friends know about me, but most folks presume I'm straight as I have lived celibate and single in church communities ever since. Women have always expressed a romantic interested in me and say I'm physically attractive with a personality that is unusual. They say I have a "take charge and care for others" masculinity, but at the same time they say I have a "boyish nature" or cuteness that's playful, maybe goofy or fun, and curious.
I think all that is pretty accurate, but I believe I'm smart, deep or fluffy, and know I like any kind of conversation on any topic from light banter to speaking with great depth, hopefully with intellegence, and heart to heart. I enjoy time with both introverts and extroverts, tho I strongly lean myself to the latter.
Why am I here? Now? My life still revolves as it has, however, over the years things are starting to change. Despite my friendships, there is a growing loneliness, and an ache of sorts? Over the years I have begun to have feelings and emotions I never realized were there, sorta? One of which, is a strong desire to be noticed by older men, and hopes they want to spend a lot of time with me.
Sure a father figure wound no doubt, but I also desperately want to have an older man that I too can love, and be close to. A man that has a personality or nature that wants to be close to one other man as well. Whenever it's possible. Not in a clingly way, but a man comfortable on his own, competent, but who for example ... would always prefer to work closely with me, say in the same area in the house, even when we each were working individually without a word. Or at night, when relaxing, wants me close on the couch. Perhaps schouching next to me, closer on the couch, grabbing my hand. I know that can get old for many in long term relationships, but that has not been my nature, even from women, with my heart instead being warmed and moved to show and reciprocate the affection. I know I need a man who is non critical, likes attention, and playfully reaches out.
I am 5'9" and always a stocky beefy guy. An athlete growing up and not fat. Now however I am fat and need to lose 40lbs, which I can easily do within the next year. I have brown hair, blue eyes, clean shaven, mustache or short beard.
It is difficult to describe who I am attracted to. Ultimately the primary attraction for me would be who you are. I am always drawn to masculine but gentle men, who are more often emotionally aware and able to address challenges with honest discussions, absent a critical and or sardonic world view. Not that a pollyanna Men who have a realistic not a pollyanna life in general without a critical and sardonic world view. Physically speaking, I am typically drawn to masculine white men who are big, older (40 to 70), hairy. The intense attraction is for me always about the personality, the face and the eyes.
I am not attracted to lean or skinny men, and I guess I really prefer men with smaller to larger bellies, you know, thicker guys with some beef on em. I love taller men with big arms, forearms and hands, but it would be your heart that would in the end capture mine.
I live in Denver Colorado but can travel to meet anywhere after we both experience some level of friendship, and cues that confirm a possible future romantic connection. Please feel free to contact me if anything I said might appeal to you? I like confidence, but as humans we all have moments of self doubt, due to wounds and weaknesses. Please don't let anything like that stop you from reaching out, if something I wrote here might appeal to you? There is no harm in connecting and then discovering we may not be a romantic match.
I say this before I lastly mention, how when I become friends with someone, even my straaight married freinds, that when I come to know them up close, and see more clearly their imperfections, wounds and brokeness, my love only deepens for them. While my heart is only strengthened to reach out with the truth, to help encourage them to see just how lovable they are. Thanks for taking the time to read this. Take care.
