Thank goodness experience on here isn't typical in real life.
Perfect example. I had a pretty good day that quickly turned foul because (a) I got stood up
again by a friend to go hang out and (b) I didn't follow my own advice
from this thread. So, I was all good and ready to just be pissed off at the end of the night until I got a wild and crazy idea. I called up a friend who lived close-by and who shares a sweet tooth for desserts. It's
the same friend that I pick up and spin around when I hug on occasion. He picked up, said "sure" he was down for some pie; we picked up dessert, headed back to my house to watch a couple episodes of "Avatar" and a movie.
You have to laugh with me about my couch. I swear, I didn't notice this issue until today.
My couch is really comfortable, it's pretty soft, and to get the best angle of seeing the TV (since it's catty-cornered), you have to sit on the far left side. My friend is a little heavier than I am, but not by much. Anyway, we pretty much had one couch cushion a piece, but as we nestled down with our pie and ice cream, we just gravitated closer. It wasn't intentional; it wasn't creepy. It just happened. By the time, I changed the Netflix to the movie, we were sitting side by side.
He's a straight guy. I am too. We didn't care. There are quite a few laughable moments. Before I know it, we're quasi-snuggling. Not a bunch of smoochy stuff or anything, but we were just right next to each other. I didn't think anything of it. I had a pillow on my lap. He rested his arm on the pillow so I just clutched his arm and we sat like that for a while. I had to turn on the AC because it got a little warm.
The movie got a little sentimental in a couple spots too. He got up to use the restroom. I sat upright. He came back to sit down. He didn't scoot up against the edge of the couch. He sat
right next to me. I joked, saying something like, "Oh, what's the matter? You have to sit right next to me?" He shot back a wide-toothed grin and said, "Yeah. You got a problem with that?" We resumed quasi-snuggling.
Tonight, my bud just totally cheered me up. We just chilled, ate real good, and enjoyed some good shows on Netflix. After having a bit of a bad day, his affection just felt really nice and I really appreciated it. He thanked me for the invite and hugged me. I hugged him back, thanking him for making me feel better. And after I dropped him off, he hugged me again and said that we could probably hang out a couple more times before he moves away for a postdoc.
So, for all the meathead straight dudes out there that are too scared and too fuckin' insecure and jealous and petty and idiotic enough to be down with homophobia, there are some real awesome dudes out there like my friend who are super secure with themselves and just know how to be close to someone without pretense.