"Str8" vs. "Straight"

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straight = heterosexual
str8 = heterosexual
str8-acting = self-loathing homosexual

Just about right.
I have never sensed any difference between str8 and straight.
Maybe there's a different level of aspiration to the kewl.

Str8=lazy

Or kewl.
But I gotcha, buttercup.
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We all know there is only one relevant source for these types of questions: Urban Dictionary: str8

I kinda miss the 90s English language. It was so much simpler. At this rate we'll all B tlkin LTANKWPAS lol. KWIS?

D'oh, shoulda looked there first.
 

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Thank goodness experience on here isn't typical in real life.

Perfect example. I had a pretty good day that quickly turned foul because (a) I got stood up again by a friend to go hang out and (b) I didn't follow my own advice from this thread. So, I was all good and ready to just be pissed off at the end of the night until I got a wild and crazy idea. I called up a friend who lived close-by and who shares a sweet tooth for desserts. It's the same friend that I pick up and spin around when I hug on occasion. He picked up, said "sure" he was down for some pie; we picked up dessert, headed back to my house to watch a couple episodes of "Avatar" and a movie.

You have to laugh with me about my couch. I swear, I didn't notice this issue until today.

My couch is really comfortable, it's pretty soft, and to get the best angle of seeing the TV (since it's catty-cornered), you have to sit on the far left side. My friend is a little heavier than I am, but not by much. Anyway, we pretty much had one couch cushion a piece, but as we nestled down with our pie and ice cream, we just gravitated closer. It wasn't intentional; it wasn't creepy. It just happened. By the time, I changed the Netflix to the movie, we were sitting side by side.

He's a straight guy. I am too. We didn't care. There are quite a few laughable moments. Before I know it, we're quasi-snuggling. Not a bunch of smoochy stuff or anything, but we were just right next to each other. I didn't think anything of it. I had a pillow on my lap. He rested his arm on the pillow so I just clutched his arm and we sat like that for a while. I had to turn on the AC because it got a little warm. :p

The movie got a little sentimental in a couple spots too. He got up to use the restroom. I sat upright. He came back to sit down. He didn't scoot up against the edge of the couch. He sat right next to me. I joked, saying something like, "Oh, what's the matter? You have to sit right next to me?" He shot back a wide-toothed grin and said, "Yeah. You got a problem with that?" We resumed quasi-snuggling.

Tonight, my bud just totally cheered me up. We just chilled, ate real good, and enjoyed some good shows on Netflix. After having a bit of a bad day, his affection just felt really nice and I really appreciated it. He thanked me for the invite and hugged me. I hugged him back, thanking him for making me feel better. And after I dropped him off, he hugged me again and said that we could probably hang out a couple more times before he moves away for a postdoc.

So, for all the meathead straight dudes out there that are too scared and too fuckin' insecure and jealous and petty and idiotic enough to be down with homophobia, there are some real awesome dudes out there like my friend who are super secure with themselves and just know how to be close to someone without pretense.
 

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My experience has shown that if a guy needs to emphasize that he is "straight" (or more often "str8"), then he's usually at least somewhat interested in cock. I've lost count of how many guys I've fooled around with who have "str8" as part of their sexing email address! (***str8dude, ***str8guy, etc.)
On the other hand, the guys who are only into women almost never mention the word "straight." It's just a natural given that does not need to be underscored.
 

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Agreed, but there are guys out there who get their straightness questioned (inappropriately and not) and there are dudes who don't have to go through that as much. Just pure speculation here, but I imagine the straight guys who don't get questioned either possess a lot of stereotypical and gender norm-reinforcing interests like sports and chasing skirt, probably don't have that much of a fashion sense or an interest in aesthetics or "non-man's-man" things, and probably don't know, care to know, or associate with anybody but guys just like themselves and girls who fuck 'em.

If you're anything but that, I'm sure someone has wondered once or twice whether you're aware of it or not.

Look, it's one thing if you want to say you're 100% straight but like to suck cock and hook up with dudes. It's totally different if you're straight, secure in yourself, but don't really desire being an out-and-out meathead type of dude. Unfortunately, there's a lot of gray area in between and those guys unfortunately planted there have to get their straightness questioned all the time.

Let me put it to you this way. Maybe ten or so years ago, I was in college and I was proud to have a really diverse set of friends. I had straight friends, bi friends, and gay friends and (for the most part) we all got along really well. I was cool with everybody, and I actually was the president of our school's gay-straight alliance for a year. Unfortunately, I probably wasted more time having to defend the fact that I can be straight and be an ally to not-straight folks than actually doing what I needed to do to make our campus cooler and safer for the not-straights. You'd think reasonably smart people (and you had to be smart to get into my school) would know that if the gay-straight alliance throws a dance, it doesn't mean dudes in attendance have to get fitted for dresses.

So, needless to say, I got really tired of putting up with that crap. I stepped down, wasn't active in the club, quit hanging out with my gay friends, and actually talked more than a fair amount of shit about gay guys and putting on a lot of bravado so that -- guess what -- I wouldn't have to get questioned. Did it work? Maybe. I don't know. No one got in my face about it anymore.

I haven't admitted that to anyone, let alone on a board like this. And, furthermore, it made me really, really, really messed up for a long time because I thought I would be the last person to be homophobic. But when you're pushed up against a wall like that for too long, you gotta find some way to bail yourself out -- and so you pick on people weaker than you who can't defend themselves.

That said, I hear you guys bitching all the time about who is straight, who isn't straight, who shouldn't be straight. And I think, so the fuck what? It's your dick, your mouth, your attitude. It gets really old though. So I propose some really simple solutions.

If gay guys get sick of dealing with sexually ambiguous guys on here, than maybe you should stick to talking to your fag hags and other gay guys.

If straight guys get frustrated about not finding other straight or non-straight guys who are sexually comfortable with themselves, then maybe this forum ain't for you and you should try other holes-in-the-wall on the Internet.

If straight guys are so uncomfortable with the idea that there are other dudes with dicks just as big as theirs clamoring for attention, maybe you guys need to grow the fuck up. Or stop thinking that everyone is out to hit on you. (Full disclaimer: Even if I wanted to hit on a guy, his dick better be comparable to mine or why the fuck would I want yours?)

Really. We're all grown, right? Isn't it well past time to let stupid shit be stupid shit and get on with it?