Javierdude22:
Originally posted by madame_zora@May 22 2004, 11:43 PM
Okay, I don't know if my .02 matters much here, but I must agree with the majority of the posters that having some experiences and liking it to the extent of looking for more "cock to worship" certainly indicates at least "bi". The problem with labels is that they seem to suggest more than they are. "Bi" only means that you are sexually interested in both genders, not that you would necessarily have romantic feelings for both. The term is "Bi-sexual" not "Bi-romantic", so to me, it refers to sexual preference. As a woman, I once had a sexual experience with a woman in a group setting. She was pretty, I was curious, so we tried it. I found the experience unpleasant and uncomfortable, she was very nice about it so we didn't continue. I would never say that I got to "worship a pussy", so the fact that I tried it doesn't make me bi-sexual, just means I know who I am a little better than before. In your case though, seems you want the goodies without having to identfy yourself in terms of reality. I'm not suggesting to tell everyone you know (or anyone, for that matter), but only that you come to terms with who you are and what you like in your own mind. People who live delusional lives wreak havoc on the lives of those around them, I hope you will be able to avoid doing that.
Madame Zora
I personally think you have written te most nuanced, wellthought, respectfull post in this entire thread. Thanx for that.
I get the feeling throughout many of these types of threads we have had, that in LPSG as well as in real life that the 'positively gay' crowd looks towards anyone other than raging queen or Budweiser striaght with a sceptical eye. It is impossible to label
yourself straight if you've sucked a cock or two and liked it, but it somehow doesnt work the other way. Your either 100%, anything less means your totally gay.
That in itsself is contradictory because if someone as a gay man would enjoy a nice, wet, tight pussy every now and then, but labels himself gay, somehow he remains gay and is not straight. Obviously, this kind of thinking is exhumed mostly by a minority of hardcore gay folks, however, many homofobics tend to lean towards it as well.
Mindseye, unfortunately we are not a fire engine. We are indeed complex human beings with emotional, sexual, and metaphysical/cultural feelings taking control at different times, in different situations, on different topics. We are indeed a continuum, even though some people can't handle that somehow.
Look, I am not even talking about the original post anymore. Whether he is gay, str8 or bi, he should decide for himself, but like Madame Zora said, as long as he is being real to himself. Everybody defines whether he or she is gay or straight on different values. Some judge it by their emotional preference, some by their sexual preference. This is why the terribly gay or straight people get so confused, both preferences point in the same direction with them. Not with the 'weird' folk. Everyone should decide how they wish, and people should respect that.
You already said you're str8 dude, asking what other people think means your gonna get a lotta judgement and/or ideas. I'm with Jon on this, labeling is the worst thing any society can do. It is easier, yes, but for who? Not for the person in question, only for
other people to understand yóu better. I personally could care less if people understand me. 'Fuck off, move on'. The real people will try harder than 'Your gay/str8', the disposables won't. Take your pick.
Javier