The Constant Question: Does Size Matter?

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Two things get up my nose about this question.

First the innate sexism of the question - i.e. compatability is a male issue only whilst I have come to the conclusion that the tightness of the vagina is just as important.

Secondly the insinuation that average or nomal is somehow inadequate. How do you find these?

Average looking women are ugly.
Average breasted women aren't sexy.
Average weight is fat.
Average height is short-ass.
Average earners are losers.
Average intelligence is dumb.
Average cars are boring (sorry that is a personal prejudice)
 

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Yeah, I posted about this a while ago, but I'll tell it again. I asked a roomful of strippers about this and the answer is YES, size does matter. But everyone has a different preference, and in this group it was pretty even across the board. Some preferred smaller because they said their vaginas were not very deep and big ones hurt. The larger number preferred average because that's what fit the best. Only two of us like big ones, and we both knew our vaginas were deeper, so it's mostly a physical fit thing. Getting the right size matters, not the biggest size.

LordPendragon, your point is perfect and on target. FWIW most women are NOT size queens, neither would they appreciate being held to unrealistic standards.
 

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The answer to this question should be pretty clear by now. If you were to sum up the research, including both scientific and anecdotal stuff you find in magazines and the internet it would look something like this:

- Size matters to men. In truth, a majority wish their penis was larger or have some size insecurity. Some of this is lack of context. The rest may be irrational competitiveness.

- Almost all women have a size preference (as confirmed by the fine Madame and her acquaintances.) Almost none have a preference for really small (<4") or really huge (>9") penises. Most prefer something around average, but this really means 6 - 8".

- Women's perception of average is skewed for a couple of reasons. First, it is hard to make exact comparisons when the cock is attached to markedly different body sizes. Second, this is the average from their experience. They don't see many cocks less than 4 inches, as these guys are more likely to keep them to themselves. The whole statisical mean moves.

- A penis on the small side of average (say 4" - 5") is not a deal breaker if the guy makes up for it in other ways. This could be sexual technique, but it is more likely just by making her love him. Little cock + great guy = no big deal.

- However, if great guy with little cock turns into an asshole, it would not be that unexpected if she hurls a few cock zingers on the way out the door. She may also tell friends, etc to fuck with his head. She know is hurts and it feeds his issues with the first point (his basic insecurity).

Anyway - does size matter? Yes. But it is not really an issue settled with a ruler. We (at least at LPSG) should be so lucky.
 

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madame_zora said:
Yeah, I posted about this a while ago, but I'll tell it again. I asked a roomful of strippers about this and the answer is YES, size does matter. But everyone has a different preference, and in this group it was pretty even across the board. Some preferred smaller because they said their vaginas were not very deep and big ones hurt. The larger number preferred average because that's what fit the best. Only two of us like big ones, and we both knew our vaginas were deeper, so it's mostly a physical fit thing. Getting the right size matters, not the biggest size.

LordPendragon, your point is perfect and on target. FWIW most women are NOT size queens, neither would they appreciate being held to unrealistic standards.
i totally agree.but alot of guys think just because they have a big penis they are wanted by every woman in town.thats far from the truth.they just make themselves out to look like idiots.this is a fact.
 

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What about the "wow" factor (this has been discussed in other threads on this forum)?

In my experience, it may be that different women prefer different sizes, but it's always a little special for them when they meet a "big one" (and I'm certainly not the biggest around here). So yes, there is the issue of physical compatibility, but I would say (again based on my experience), that psychologically, a big dick is more exciting to see/play with for almost all women. Even though they may not be willing to admit it freely, their spontaneous reactions to seeing a big one are the best indicator as to whether it matters to them, psychologically at least.
 

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sexycobra said:
What about the "wow" factor (this has been discussed in other threads on this forum)?

In my experience, it may be that different women prefer different sizes, but it's always a little special for them when they meet a "big one" (and I'm certainly not the biggest around here). So yes, there is the issue of physical compatibility, but I would say (again based on my experience), that psychologically, a big dick is more exciting to see/play with for almost all women. Even though they may not be willing to admit it freely, their spontaneous reactions to seeing a big one are the best indicator as to whether it matters to them, psychologically at least.

I don't believe that. Sure there are some women who get very excited by seeing a huge dick, but I've seen or heard nothing that would convince me that most do. And I suppose some could confuse "fear" with someone being excited. Women can and sometimes do have their own issues and insecurities about sex and body image, and the guys attributes are sometimes very low in their thought-processes. As much as a lot of us guys would like to think, it isn't always about us.

Like others have said, size appears to be much more of a guy's issue than a females. Size appears to only be a issue with most women when the guys are smaller than what is considered small, or bigger than what is considered big. For the most part, women seem to sex the man, and not just his dick. Now if you can't kiss, you could be in trouble. Something like Kissing probably seems trivial to most men, but most women "seem" to take it very seriously. The vagina isn't the only erogenous zone on women.
 

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Asking for the women's opinion on anything is ridiculous here, there are so few of us! For the billionth time, if ALL women were into big dicks, WHY AREN'T THEY HERE? Sorry, lack of female membership speaks for itself.

Almost all guys want a bigger dick- newsflash, this includes most of the big guys. This is a male competition issue, it has nothing to do with women. Grow up, please. At the very least, never breath a word of this insecurity to a potential or present partner, you will make them want to hurl.

Average dick size is 5.5". If you must have a range, make it the more realistic 5" to 6", unless you were giving an OPINION of women's preferences.

Most women have no fucking clue on earth what size their lover's dick is. If he tells them a number, they'll believe it. We have no concept of how much your egos are attatched to your cocks so we don't generally suspect you of lying (as you often do) about the exact measurement.
I see too many n00b women come on here and say their favortie size is 10", not knowing (as we do) that those size dicks are less than 1 in 100,000. It is statistically IMPOSSIBLE for a woman to run into several of these randomly. Anyone who says this is either lying or has been greatly deceived into believing what she's saying is true.

The good news is that if you want to gain 2" to your penis length, just lie about it, plenty of women will believe every word you say.
 

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madame_zora said:
Size matters .... Everyone's different, so you'll just have to play it by ear, like we all do.

Ach So! That must be what the 'aural sex' is all about !

.. sorry, i just could not resist :D
 

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GottaBigOne said:
Ok, madam, I fess up, my cock is really only 3" long, can you ever forgive me???? Will you still want to spank me??? WIll you?? Please??

Ha, you must be seriously good at photoshop, dude!

I think you pretty well know I'd sell my left tit to hang out with you in a coffee shop and talk about anything at all.
 

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helio415 said:
asking a question about what the women on this site see as the perfect size is totaly stupid. you should know that the women that visit this site are all size queens. so you know that the answer will be biased twards larger sizes.
Ahem. Quite a generalization. In fact, my current boyfriend is only the 4th man I've ever been with, and is the only one who is bigger than average.

Not all of us are size queens. Some of us came to this site looking for help dealing with the big package situation and stayed because we love the people around the place.

Off to lick Lex's shoulder blades.
 

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Helio, I like you guy, but I don't think that's true. I am a size queen, in a sense*, but I am in the minority. I think it's fairer to say that the women here are either interested in, or curious about larger ones. I know some of these ladies fairly well, others not so much, but easily half of them wouldn't consider asking a guy his size before they got there, nor would it be any part of their decision of whether to stay with him if he was indeed more in the average range.

People are curious about all sorts of things, but most of us stay here for the level of discussion and fun.


*most people think of size queens as being shallow individuals who will drop you like a dead rat for the next bigger guy. That's not MY position. I need a guy to be able to reach my cervix (about 7") and have no preference about girth. This is a physical issue, not a "wow factor" thing. Once that goal is achieved, bigger isn't necessarily better or worse, skill is what is important. I'm NOT out on a hunt to find the biggest dick, just want to be satisfied.
 

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madame_zora said:
I need a guy to be able to reach my cervix (about 7") and have no preference about girth. This is a physical issue, not a "wow factor" thing. Once that goal is achieved, bigger isn't necessarily better or worse, skill is what is important. I'm NOT out on a hunt to find the biggest dick, just want to be satisfied.

That's my gf's situation exactly...
 

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shawnconfid said:
That's my gf's situation exactly...

If your realtionship is going well in other ares, try some toy play if she's open to that kind of experimentation. That way you two can both get what you want out of the experience. You could start out with whatever foreplay your both enjoy, then the traditional sex, THEN go for some dildo play after you've orgasmed. Most women take a while anyway, so she'll be good and hot by then, and seeing her squirm might just get you "up" for round two! I think it's cool that you are here looking for answers to improve your sex lives.

*edit- if she's like me, she might really enjoy you dangling your soft cock in her face while you do this so she can lick and suck on it while you do her with a dildo, fun for both and very hot.
 

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madame_zora said:
If your realtionship is going well in other ares, try some toy play if she's open to that kind of experimentation. That way you two can both get what you want out of the experience. You could start out with whatever foreplay your both enjoy, then the traditional sex, THEN go for some dildo play after you've orgasmed. Most women take a while anyway, so she'll be good and hot by then, and seeing her squirm might just get you "up" for round two! I think it's cool that you are here looking for answers to improve your sex lives.

*edit- if she's like me, she might really enjoy you dangling your soft cock in her face while you do this so she can lick and suck on it while you do her with a dildo, fun for both and very hot.

Thanks you -- that does sound like fun. She usually doesn't warm up to dildo play, but she might have a different reaction in that scenario. The timing would be dead on.
 

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I'm not a woman, but I wanted to offer that I've seen this question asked and answered before in different places. The answer is usually something like, "yes, too small can make sex difficult and too big can hurt!" But I think this isn't really what most men are trying to ask, it's a roundabout way of asking and the answer is intuitive and probably not getting at the the insecurity that produced the question. What I think men want to know is, "If my dick were bigger, would that make women happier in bed?"
 

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I think that you are spot on Teasedsilly.

Furthermore it is such a male question. For starters, why do we always say "women" instead of thinking about the woman we are actually with. I reckon that the further you go from average th more women will begin to have a problem with your size. The great majotiy of men and women fall within an average size band and in my estimation a change of position makes more difference than an extra inch here or there.

Secondly, I think we would find that spending more time on foreplay, talking seductively and romantically, lasting longer and many other things would be of a higher priority to your partner than 10% more cock.