The Constant Question: Does Size Matter?

[teasedsilly]

I think that you are spot on Teasedsilly.

Furthermore it is such a male question. For starters, why do we always say "women" instead of thinking about the woman we are actually with. I reckon that the further you go from average th more women will begin to have a problem with your size. The great majotiy of men and women fall within an average size band and in my estimation a change of position makes more difference than an extra inch here or there.

Secondly, I think we would find that spending more time on foreplay, talking seductively and romantically, lasting longer and many other things would be of a higher priority to your partner than 10% more cock.

Well, I didn't mean that as an indictment against men or anything. Anyone with a passing familiarity with porn would know the sorts of cocks (big) that make it into mainstream video, and I think it's natural to ask, "Is that really what women want?" Maybe it's not a fair question, but I remember as a teen sneaking downstairs to our basement tv to watch scrambled porn. I remember a lesbian scene with a dildo that seemed abnormally large, and I had to ask myself if that was actually a preferred size, realizing how much larger it was than my cock.

The question being misworded doesn't help things. "Does size matter" is the official question, however, and most women are going to say yes, even though what size matters to them varies wildly from individual to individual. But who ever hears the explanation? I don't have a problem with asking, if you feel insecure, I don't think it's wrong or anything to feel guilty about. But asking the right questions would probably be more helpful.

 

[DC_DEEP]

Of course size matters... two inches is a size, isn't it?

Seriously, from my perspective, general attractiveness (appearance, hygiene, and most importantly, personality) make more difference in sexual satisfaction than penis measurements. That being said, with the question being "is bigger always better?" then I would have to say that with my partner, who is of average endowment, sex is like a superb dinner. If his cock was 2 inches longer, it would be like a superb dinner with dessert. I'm perfectly happy without the extra, but the extra would be nice. And I have had sex with a couple of men who had much more endowment, but were just simply boring in bed. A big cock on a boring man is even less fun than DIY sex with a dildo.

 

[dlcs]

Of course size matters... two inches is a size, isn't it?

Seriously, from my perspective, general attractiveness (appearance, hygiene, and most importantly, personality) make more difference in sexual satisfaction than penis measurements. That being said, with the question being "is bigger always better?" then I would have to say that with my partner, who is of average endowment, sex is like a superb dinner. If his cock was 2 inches longer, it would be like a superb dinner with dessert. I'm perfectly happy without the extra, but the extra would be nice. And I have had sex with a couple of men who had much more endowment, but were just simply boring in bed. A big cock on a boring man is even less fun than DIY sex with a dildo.

Spot on. Too many men think that all they have to do is shove it in, pump it a few times, and that's it. Egotistical, that is.
There's kisses, and caressing, and whispers, and moaning... and in the end, if you both feel all happy and tingly from tip to toe, that means it was good.

 

[DC_DEEP]

Spot on. Too many men think that all they have to do is shove it in, pump it a few times, and that's it. Egotistical, that is.
There's kisses, and caressing, and whispers, and moaning... and in the end, if you both feel all happy and tingly from tip to toe, that means it was good.

I think I love you, dlcs! Anyway, there is some intangible quality. The kisses and caressing and whispers and moaning are all good too, don't get me wrong. I enjoy lovemaking. But I also, from time to time, enjoy the "nothing romantic, nothing tender, raw, animalistic fuck sex" kind of thing. I'm not sure I could put into words what it is that makes one guy good in bed and another guy not so good. Now that I think about it for a moment or so, I think mostly it has to do with the guy's own perceptions about himself and his sexuality and his cock. If he thinks his big cock automatically makes him good in bed, he is usually terrible. If he views his entire being as his best sexual quality, he is usually pretty good - regardless of size.

 

[dlcs]

I think I love you, dlcs! Anyway, there is some intangible quality. The kisses and caressing and whispers and moaning are all good too, don't get me wrong. I enjoy lovemaking. But I also, from time to time, enjoy the "nothing romantic, nothing tender, raw, animalistic fuck sex" kind of thing. I'm not sure I could put into words what it is that makes one guy good in bed and another guy not so good. Now that I think about it for a moment or so, I think mostly it has to do with the guy's own perceptions about himself and his sexuality and his cock. If he thinks his big cock automatically makes him good in bed, he is usually terrible. If he views his entire being as his best sexual quality, he is usually pretty good - regardless of size.

*smoochy*

Even better. Let's write a book, shall we?

Here's what's funny. In the past, the "cock-centered" partners I've had were all average or below. Then here comes a skinny, shy man who's packing, and he's just fabulous. I think it's because he loves me and isn't trying to prove anything. Make sense?

 

[Paul Vincent]

Spot on. Too many men think that all they have to do is shove it in, pump it a few times, and that's it. Egotistical, that is.

My mate does that! We actually have the same size dick (at least flaccid, and he's always bragging about how big he is etc). Anyways, the other night he was having sex with a MILF (she really had a kid and he was asleep in the next room *sigh*). Anyways it gets to the point where she says 'do anything you want to me'. So he shoves his cock into her ass four times (ass stabbing kinda thing). And she screams in pain.

Anyway that's not my style, and said mate has never had a girlfriend...he only has one night stands and stuff. He was also saying she couldnt even fit it in her mouth...maybe she had a small mouth cos I think mine would fit in someones mouth. Then again, no one has even attempted a bj on me

Back to the topic...size only matters I think if it has been experienced. Most girls think all dicks are the same size and are more than happy with that. There are however the following 'big cock' scenarios:

-Big and enjoyable
-Big and painful (never again)
-Big and OK (no preference)

Consider also that 80-90% of girls have never had a big dick and also have no idea exactly how big they can get, and a vast majority think 7" is big. It is of course, but there are bigger cocks out there

Thanks for reading.

 

[10man]

please forward me that book if you ever write it dlcs..
thks

 

[Cobalt Blue]

The Constant Question: Does Size Matter?


The Constant Answer: Yes.

 

[ClaireTalon]

I don't need long essays, or tons of paper produced by scientists to answer that question. YES, Size DOES MATTER for me, but it's one factor (with higher weighing) among several.

 

[Lordpendragon]

Being a Brit, I am already nursing a worthy hangover (it's New Year) from a party where I met an old girlfriend.

She is getting married and in our inebriated state, I said "you know, we could have made a go fo it". "oh no" she said as quick as a flash "you were too big".

I always thought the sex was great - just shows.

 

[B_GorgeousJane]

Echoing quite a few views on here... size is important, but biggest isn't always best. Of course it helps, but size is only one factor in good sex; 'big' means different things to different women; intercourse is only one way to please a woman sexually; and sex is only one part of a happy, loving relationship. So actually it's not that important at all.

But when it's a good hard, intense seeing to you want - and that feeling of being stretched open is the only thing that will do - then yes, I'm gonna go large every time!

 

[B_Spladle]

But when it's a good hard, intense seeing to you want - and that feeling of being stretched open is the only thing that will do - then yes, I'm gonna go large every time!

I heart you. Let's make a baby.

 

[B_GorgeousJane]

I heart you. Let's make a baby.

sshhhh..... don't tell everyone our little secret!

 

[B_Spladle]

sshhhh..... don't tell everyone our little secret!

Sorry, my bad. I'm very, very drunk right now.

 

[B_GorgeousJane]

Sorry, my bad. I'm very, very drunk right now.

well you're not much use to me in that state, are you?! Come here, I'll sober you up... *kiss*

 

[B_Spladle]

well you're not much use to me in that state, are you?! Come here, I'll sober you up... *kiss*

That's so hot. *glances down* 'Kay I'm ready let's go.

 

[D_Elijah_MorganWood]

All things being equal, size does matter but not the way some people think. For me the only way it would matter is if someone was REALLY small. No matter how wonderful the guy was, I'd never get over it.