The SHAME Surrounding a Large Penis?

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  1. Ploughman

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    I was just wondering what you all feel when I say the shame side of things when you're big down under.

    Ok, look - my thing is not huge like some here - but it's pretty wide. My first try at sex was playing doctor at age 8 with my first crush. Yes, you heard me - 8 - ok it wasn't real sex, but I already knew from Dad's stash of porn that you put that thing into that hole - so I tried - I think maybe the tip got in a tiny bit - I don't know, but she screamed REALLY loud and it freaked me out completely. Somehow I thought i did something bad - shame...

    Then not till around 15 I started to have real sex with girls. Again - the first few times I couldn't get it in - then finally when I did they would scream in pain (I didn't get it that it could lead to 'good' pain so to speak, - and so the scream part freaked me out all over again) - that damn screaming thing? - I though ...they don't do that in movies - it's not supposed to hurt so much is it? ...I was very confused.

    At some other point in high school, after some gym class and in the shower room - all the guys were sizing each other up the way teens do - Later, after they saw mine - some football jock prick freaked out because I was dating his x - and so that day after school, him and 4 guys cornered me and beat the shit out of me - the jock finished it off by kicking me in crotch real hard - I remember limping all the way home and puking about half way. That traumatized me for a long time, and got me really wondering about this penis jealousy thing with guys...

    OK, last one - Like when I worked outside construction one summer in college, and was banging the bosses daughter. Stuff was going great, and I even tough - I could marry this girl. Until one day he saw me pissing on a fence at a job site and that was that - all of a sudden she could no longer see me any more - ignored calls, etc. It broke me. He even told her I'd been stealing or some crap and fired me - all not true - all to convince her I was no good - and all because he didn't want me sticking that fat cock in his precious little girls (extremely tight by the way) pussy. Talk about penis envy. I mean come on - it's not that huge. Besides it was hot summer and stuff was hanging sweaty and loose to begin with. I'm more of a shower than a grower, but he never gave me a chance after that...

    Later I finally got properly banged by with a chic that was 13 years my senior - Her pussy was so loose and wet for me, and having had a kid she loved the fullness of it - as a woman it was she that told me I was lucky to have a cock thicker than a can of shaving cream. She told me many women prefer a full thick cock that stretches them out rather than a super long dong, although they both have benefits and all women are different. Of course the ideal would be to have both like some of you lucky studs reading this. Bottom line - she helped me to recover from some of the traumatic things, and to boost my confidence back up - but still, the damage was done I suppose.

    Long story short - Like some of you may as well - I thought I must be a freak? - I was ashamed - there was that SHAME, and no one to talk to back in those days. You just didn't talk about this kind of stuff back then. That's why LPSG is great for men with this problem / blessing.


    I have more shame stories - but what I'm hoping is that you all share your stories of the shame aspect of having an above normal schlong. Gay or straight - Women too! ...love to hear from anyone about it!

    Well... ???
     
  2. SR_Thistlewoode Thrilldrille

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    i never experienced shame but did not know why my dick was bigger than other dudes when i was young. locker room comparisons never took place where i grew up but summertime camping with buds (age 15) i knew my did was not normal. i started to feel self conscious but soon leared that big was good. the dudes i was camping with all gawked and oohed when they saw me strip to swim in the lake and i learned that i was not a freak but a man to envy.
     
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    dartmouth - you're right! - and even though now grown up - i know i'm lucky as a man, but i still sometimes feel that it adds so much extra drama to my life that it would sometimes be better without. The usual stuff you guys mention here at LPSG - jealousy - comparisons - rumors - expectations - etc, etc.

    You guys know that feeling too?
     
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    I don't feel shame as much as I feel self-conscious. So extreme that i have difficulty staying hard if my gal wants to give me oral sex. My Ex-wife, years ago, made me feel as if there was something wrong with my penis. I really enjoy receiving oral, but cannot relax when receiving. The good thing is that I have an extreme oral-fixation and love eating pussy. For me, it's almost as good as penetration.
     
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    I'm no moose(like some of these poor bastards on here LOL). I sit right at 8 1/4. I had sex with a girl with whom I shared friends with. Well, word got around(like word does) and I noticed considerable change amongst our friends. My guy friends treat me differently, my girl friends all want to see it. Quite a few people that I considered good friends have begun to distance themselves from me. I mean, yesterday my friends girlfriend(who got word) told him, in front of me, that she wanted to fuck me. How am I supposed to handle that!?!? Things have gotten very awkward between he and I since that happened.....
     
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    Never felt shame, I feel a bit dirty/pervy when at work as the work trousers they provide make the bulge stand out.
    Before we start our shifts we have a group meeting, stood up. I can see people giving me that "you dirty fvcker" look. Thinking that I have a boner or something when I don't.
     
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    So this is basically like being ashamed of wealth?
     
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    My heart goes out to all those poor lads...:wink:
     
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    ....my heart does not go out to these poor lads who come here to further tell the cyber world that they suffer because of their big dick. The reason is for every story that is about this type of "problem", you hear one side and it is usually pretty innocent sounding - "oh it had to be because of my big cock". And you got your ass kicked by 4 guys, hopefully it would have sank in, but apparently didn't. It's just this type of thinking that a lot of non-lpsg users find offensive. The problem with a lot of hung guys is they think their big dick gets them everywhere in life, whether be the football players ex, the bosses daughter, the list goes on. No matter how subtle it is, you think it gets you some place.

    And I would suggest you get a little more humble 'cause obviously your replaceable - maybe with someone with a smaller dick by the way who is just better off and more well rounded in their lives. Who knows, but if one is out getting their ass kicked or experiencing substantial drama in their life, I think the real world would say, ok, you did something to trigger all of this, people don't go cause fights or trouble for no reason and big dick or not, there is more to the story (and frankly, I can sense in most of the "big" guys on here a lot of arrogance, just how they talk and write and I'm sure this spills into their lives to some degree). Of course if it were the case that everything I say here is not the case, there likely wouldn't even be a site like lpsg existing today.
     
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    Huh? - Wow! - You completely took the posting the wrong way. ...the way we write? - arrogance? - I was 'asking' for the ass kicking?

    I can tell you one thing that experience did for me - it made me go from a sweet little boy, to grow up to a be complete intolerant ass kicker when it came to bullies - you could even say I became a bully my self when it comes to bullying. I went to war on bullies (and still am). I learned to hate bullying or bullying behavior in any form - even electronically! ....So yes, that experience did indeed change my entire life, and no there was not more to the story. The guy had heard it that she was telling her friends that I was good in the sack, then he went red faced with jealousy after the shower - - that was it - nothing more - just flat out jealousy and yes insecurity - then rage on his part - pure teenage testosterone!

    I assure you, I am not coming from a place of arrogance. In fact my post was meant to discuss the complete opposite. I have always downplayed or tried to hide penis issues, because I too hate the arrogance of some guys who think their dick will solve every problem in their lives (or some how makes them 'better') - NOT TRUE. Besides, most women really don't give a shit that much as long as you don't suffer from micro-penis syndrome...

    The reason for this post was just to try to discuss a side of the 'big penis' issue that does not make sense. The Darker side. The fact is that as a man - if you have a large penis, you are supposed to feel proud and lucky. However, my post was simply to say that things are not always what they seem in life - and wanted to hear other stories - besides it makes a good read - more interesting than the usual "how big is it" thread.

    Take Hollywood; in our modern society everyone wants to be famous. Yet when we hear these famous people saying poor me I wish I had more privacy or, my life is so tough - - poor me... Our natural response is to say, oh give me a break! - if you want privacy go buy a tropical island or something. Then later we read how they committed suicide in their palace with pills or whatever - and if we're honest - we have to say to ourselves... maybe the fame didn't buy them happiness - maybe they had a bit of a point after all.

    This post was not trying be that same way about penis issues, or to say anyone is better than anyone, that's BS. I think most of you know the angle I'm taking on this thing - what I'm saying is ...be careful what you wish for in life... Maybe instead of using the 'SHAME' word (which could scare or mislead some people) maybe the word 'paradox', or 'oxymoron' would have been better? - but i wouldn't want to seem condescending right....

    We're not all cocky and arrogant about our pricks are we? - Some of us can relate to this yes? So I would still would love to get back to the main topic, and hear more about the "paradoxical" aspects of being hung...
     
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    I can understand the problem being caused by naivety. I can assure you that 14 years of catholic schools left me lacking in both book learning and practical experience. it happens!
     
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