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The other day I was sorting through my photos and getting everything labelled properly (lockdown fun!). Going through holiday pictures at the beach I could not help but realise that my girlfriend of 6 years has always been wearing thong bikini bottoms through the years. I know, I've seen her butt a million times so far, but it's never as poignant as when you try to tag people in pictures and you realise you can easily spot her among everyone else because she is usually the only one with her butt cheeks visible.

I jokingly brought the point up with her and she told me she hasn't actually owned a pair of regular bikini bottoms for at least 10 years. She began wearing them because her older sister did and she just found them more comfortable (she didn't like the baggy feeling of full bottoms when coming out of the sea) and has just stuck to that style since.

I have not had much of a problem with this anyway, but looking at the photos now I realise her bottom did stick out quite a bit in some instances, and in some cases she could have probably gone for something a bit more modest. I know the trend is moving towards showing more of the butt, but do you find thong bottoms tacky? Are there instances where a thong could have offended someone, but a regular brief would have been fine?

Also, we have a family holiday lined up for August (lockdown permitting) and it will be the first time my family joins us at the beach. My family is a bit on the more prudish/conservative side. My mum’s always worn a one-piece suit at the beach, for example. I do not want my girlfriend’s derriere to offend anyone. Do you think I should bring this up, or am I being unreasonable?
 

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What we think of thong bathing bottoms has no bearing.
This does:
My family is a bit on the more prudish/conservative side. My mum’s always worn a one-piece suit at the beach, for example. I do not want my girlfriend’s derriere to offend anyone.

Suggest a more conservative suit/suit bottom for this one vacation.
 

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I would wear them cause I like the look but unfortunately my body doesn't like thongs, within minutes my lady bits would have gobbled anything so skimpy up and be feeling extremely uncomfortable, I also have a large bottom and a thong would be lost. For that reason I'm more of a swimsuit woman or nothing at all.
 

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Is there any discussing of this with your family? Would they be that offended at the idea that you are with someone who doesn't mind having her butt-cheeks visible at the beach? How does she feel about how they would feel about it?

I don't think we're the people you need to talk with about this.
 
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Honestly, IMO, it's her ass, her comfort - her call. At the same time, you can't stop others having an opinion on whether it's tacky or not.

The most I would do is give both parties a heads up.

"Hey, just so you know, my mum's a bit on the conservative side. Just giving you a heads up"

If she is unmoved:

" Mum, just so you know gf's choice of beachwear isn't quite as conservative as yours. Be nice."

Although it might just be better to say nothing at all. You might be creating an issue where there wouldn't have been one. She might have already decided skimpy bikinis might not be appropriate with the bfs family. But if it's playing on your mind and you're worrying about it in advance just talk to her
 

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I have a sweet little friend that often asks me for motherly advice. His girlfriend is also a very sweet girl. They're a fun couple.

Last year he told me his parents were coming for Thanksgiving, and his girlfriend asked him if she should remove her nose piercing and cover her thigh tattoos by not wearing shorts. I told him that she could do that if she wanted to fool his parents into believing she's something she's not.

She stayed true to herself, and his parents loved her.

I live in Florida, which is called the Sunshine State. At the beach it should be called the Moon State because the plethora of naked buns is legion. You become desensitized after a while.

After my breast reduction surgery I wore a bikini for the first time in years. It was a thong. I was self conscious the entire time, but it sure felt good!
 
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Could you suggest a compromise like when you go to the beach she could wear a sarong or something similar so she could still wear her thong bikinis but also not offend your family at the same time
 

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Last year he told me his parents were coming for Thanksgiving, and his girlfriend asked him if she should remove her nose piercing and cover her thigh tattoos by not wearing shorts. I told him that she could do that if she wanted to fool his parents into believing she's something she's not.

She stayed true to herself, and his parents loved her.

Excellent example, thank you!

She’s always worn a thong, it’s what she feels best in and I would ideally not want to challenge that. I absolutely get her point. I hate having to walk around with baggy swimwear and feel the wet fabric on my arse for ages after I swim. Unluckily for me there are rather strong social norms against me wearing skimpy swimwear as a guy (or at least I do not feel brave enough to rock a tight fitting speedo). But she has the freedom to go bare-arsed and I imagine it would suck to suddenly cover up just because your bf’s mum is likely to judge. Conversely, I would probably feel quite silly asking her to buy some new bottoms just because of my family potentially judging her choice of swimwear.

My family like her very much and it’s not a matter of them changing their opinion of her because they’ll see her butt cheeks. But they do tend to comment on things such as this, albeit they won’t do it to her face. Might also come as a bit of a shock to them as Alex, my gf, usually dresses smartly, erring on the formal sometimes, and almost never shows cleavage, bare thighs or anything that might otherwise be described as revealing. In any case, not the type of girl you would normally imagine in a string/thong bikini.

I probably wouldn’t want to make matters worse by preempting it, but I’ll most likely get to hear something along the lines of “unexpectedly revealing of Alex, she surely doesn’t leave much to the imagination; does she really have to show so much?” At which point my predicament becomes how do I convince my mother that thong bikini bottoms are absolutely acceptable and Alex wears them because she feels most comfortable in them and not because she wants everyone to see her arse.

Anyway, I’ll let things be and fingers crossed my mum will keep her comments to herself.

Sidepoint: am I being unreasonable though for thinking about this? Are there any instances where you feel a regular bikini would be acceptable, but a thong wouldn’t? I am fairly sure my girlfriend would say no given that she’s only worn thong bottoms on basically every beach holiday we’ve been on so far, but I have a feeling our fellow beachgoers might have begged to differ in some places, like Turkey.
 
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Excellent example, thank you!

Sidepoint: am I being unreasonable though for thinking about this? Are there any instances where you feel a regular bikini would be acceptable, but a thong wouldn’t? I am fairly sure my girlfriend would say no given that she’s only worn thong bottoms on basically every beach holiday we’ve been on so far, but I have a feeling our fellow beachgoers might have begged to differ in some places, like Turkey.

It depends on where you will be. A public beach? Why not? Unless you're at a Taliban beach or similar.

As I tell my husband often when he asks me how he should dress for a certain occasion "You'll see everything there."
 

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I get the feeling this is a first time of either meeting her or knowing her openness with her ass in public.

so, how contentious can this get? You know your mom, you know your lady.
Will this be used against your lady until the end of time? Or your mom?
Because between parent and child is a hellspace. Between partner and your own mom, greater yet.
 
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I'm southern, ya cover your ass when you meet the parents.

If having having one's ass cheeks is a personality trait? There are bigger issues at hand.
The only exception is if the fam is of the speedo variety. Or momma shows her ass.
But Yanno, that won’t be at a beach, but rather, oh say, Sturgis.
 
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It’s something that strolled across your brain and you asked a somewhat neutral place (ignore the laughter and swearing of those I’ve “harmed” recently)
Have they met her? Have they ever been to the shore with her?

They have met her, but never been on hols together at the beach so far.
 

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I don't like bikinis myself.

However, no, I don't think there are instances where a bikini should offend people. I mean if worn at a beach, pool. Not to go to church/mosque, etc.

I think she shouldn't be made to dress something she doesn't like, just because someone may feel offended.

I've been to many countries where there are restrictions on how women dress, because they 'offend' others/god if they don't obey those rules. It's a horrible thing that shouldn't be encouraged anywhere. Just horrible.
 

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Have you talked to her or your parents about this yet?
Have not talked to my parents, but have brought it up to my girlfriend the other night and asked if she’d consider getting a more conservative pair of bottoms. She told me I’m overthinking it and that there is nothing wrong with thongs on a public beach. So I guess problem solved. Sorry for bringing it up - I feel like a patronising fool for suggesting there might be something wrong with baring one’s buttocks.
 

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Have not talked to my parents, but have brought it up to my girlfriend the other night and asked if she’d consider getting a more conservative pair of bottoms. She told me I’m overthinking it and that there is nothing wrong with thongs on a public beach. So I guess problem solved. Sorry for bringing it up - I feel like a patronising fool for suggesting there might be something wrong with baring one’s buttocks.

I don't think you need to apologize, I actually appreciate the way you approached the topic with us and that you are being receptive to our answers.

I hope all goes well on your trip, stay safe!
 
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