Three-way... Relationship?

[ManchesterTom]

It doesn't sound like a threeway relationship. It sounds like a husband and wife found themselves a play thing. A new toy.

What have you got to lose? Try it, you might find that it works for all of you.

 

[BiAthlete]

Ok if it were me, and I had a chance to have the person I wanted, and there spouse was ok with it. Really this is a problem. I understand all the other things that you are going through and what's attached with this situation, but here's the view from a bi guy. Being in a relationship with someone I care about, if she said that it was ok to have another girl live with us and play. Man live in it, enjoy what you can with this, maybe it will work out well. Then maybe it wont. Either way you are sitting in a situation most dream of. If you look back at this many years from now and things didn't work out. At the very least you shared some love and made some happiness with all three involved. Go have fun and have no regrets

 

[LeftCoast]

Zombie, you're having this dialogue with a bunch of strangers who can in no way improve your relationship rather than with the two people who can improve your relationship. Use your words and talk to these people that you obviously care about.

You have three choices: Fix it and make it better. Get out of it. Leave it the way it is and be miserable.

 

[Reddhott]

I really don't see this as a three-way. You don't seem to have any connection with her.

 

[D_Percy_Prettywillie]

I really don't see this as a three-way. You don't seem to have any connection with her.

Well, that's not true. I love her too. She and I have had some amazing times together. We actually have quite a few mutual traits (it goes along way to explaining why he likes me) and usually come to agreements faster when we work together and end up pulling him along for the ride (like what furniture to buy, which garbage company to go with, etc.)

I guess the most recent update I have for this (and it is a daily changing situation) is that I've spent the days since I last posted this kind of distancing myself from them both. I really don't know to what end other than that I've been busy working (or that's what I'm telling myself.)

Some days I feel like half of this thread; what are you bitching about? You have two people who love you and you just so happen to be madly in love with one of them- just go have fun and if it doesn't work out, whatever, you tried.

Other days I feel like the other half of this thread; this is wrong, it won't end the way you want it to, you're being selfish etc.

I'm having a schizophrenic reaction to this whole mess and it doesn't seem to matter that it's pretty binary (like some of you have said.)

JSZ​

 

[ROGUISH75]

Poly relationships of all configurations HAVE worked for lots of people for thousands of years. Considering hetro 1:1 marriages fail as much as they do, I wouldn't put too much stock in "it won't work"

Right off the bat your posts sound a bit drama queen-ish. In which case I'll say it won't work. But not becuase of them, but becuase of you. If you can't maturely communicate and express your needs, desires, fears, etc. than any relationship you are going to be in will be short lived.

 

[D_Percy_Prettywillie]

I'm from Bainbridge Island. Of course they sound drama queen-ish.

JSZ​