Threesome Or Dildo?

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Hi guys,
Im wondering what to do. Im with my longtime partner and I want to add some spice to our bed. The thing is we've had threesome with our friend once in the past but it didn't work out the way we planned it. We are both vers.
So I want to ask what would you do:
a) buy a dildo
b) have threesome with friend
c) have threesome with a stranger

If you see other way to overcome that problem feel free to write! I'm open for discussion ;)
 

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I would suggest, foremost, that you try to figure out why a single unsatisfying experience with a "third" - and a very specific one - would potentially end the possibility of having fun with some other Third. That seems a bit overboard. If you'd had a bad experience with another guy your first time would that mean no more gay sex? Or try to find a better guy to play with?

So the friend wasn't a good time. Don't play with him anymore, issue solved.
Now put that Third option back on the table and go find someone new to play with.
And be sure to talk ahead of time: what do they like to do, what do they NOT like, what are their limits and expectations, and tell them yours too.

But also get a dildo. Why don't you already have some? They are great fun toys, solo, couple or otherwise.

In other words, don't throw in the towel so easily. Try again. Someone out there is a good romp for you and your BF but you won't know if you stop looking.
 

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Why not get one of those fuck machine?? That’ll rock your world and satisfy that hungry gaping hole of yours. You won’t know which way is up or down or remember your mama’s maiden name after a session with one of those fuck machines.
 
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Well, you've already put your relationship in jeopardy by introducing a third person into it, which will creation tension and jealousy. The best option would be to use a dildo if your relationship manages to last much longer.
 
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Hi guys,
Im wondering what to do. Im with my longtime partner and I want to add some spice to our bed. The thing is we've had threesome with our friend once in the past but it didn't work out the way we planned it. We are both vers.
So I want to ask what would you do:
a) buy a dildo
b) have threesome with friend
c) have threesome with a stranger

If you see other way to overcome that problem feel free to write! I'm open for discussion ;)

The biggest problem I see is your partner and you having a 3way with a friend. That is the quickest way to ruin your relationship between your partner and you and/or the friendship with the friend. Too many things can go wrong or be awkward.

If you and your partner are interested in (and ready for) a 3way, then you should find a stranger. Somebody that neither of you has any connection with. Just take it slow and be honest with each other. And always have an exit strategy in case either one of you isn't into it.

But I agree that maybe what you need is just a dildo and/or a fuck machine. Toys can be a great way to spice up the sex life.
 

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My vote, for what it's worth, is to have a frank discussion with your partner and come to a consensus about what you both think is missing and how to address it. You stated in your post that you want to add spice to the bedroom. Does your partner feel the same way?
My previous partner and I enjoyed a lot of threesomes.....until we didn't. Jealousy is a difficult thing and I was really surprised when he was pissed at me after an encounter. It didn't seem any different to me but he felt excluded and was hurt. It was the last time we ever had someone else in our bed. We found that it was something that added "spice" to our sex life but wasn't a requirement. Personally (and this is just for my situation) we moved into a deeper relationship and better sexual health.
If some guys can manage additional partners in their bed then I'm all for it. I've been with my current partner for over 20 years and we'll celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary in October. Adding someone to our bed is something we've never done and wouldn't seek out. Having said that, we've gone to bathhouses and allowed guys to play around with us as we were having sex. Sorry if that sounds confusing but a bathhouse is a very special environment. We're considering a vacation to clothing optional and open places in Palm Springs and Key West or Fort Lauderdale but haven't decided yet how open we'll be when vacationing in those sexually charged places.
Communication is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship. I hope you can have an open and frank discussion with your partner that leads to better health in your relationship, sexual and otherwise.