Vasecotmy should I do it?

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I've been thinking about it for awhile and at 22 I know I do not want children, for guys who have had a vasectomy what age did you do it?
 

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I was 35, and we knew we were done with kids. It's been great. However, when I was your age, I did not think I wanted kids. Now, at 51, I can tell you that I'm glad it worked out. I don't know what your situation is, but you are pretty young to close that door. Take your time making that decision.
 

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at the age of 22, I doubt you'll find anyone willing to do a vasectomy on you. I have a friend (female), who tried to get her tubes tied at a very young age, and the doctors refused to. She always said she never want kids, and now at age 40-something, she's a mother of a two year old daughter. As you age, your priorities change....hell everything changes. What you like (or are like) in your early 20's is most likely going to change. my .02
 

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I can tell you have had it done 4 years ago and have nothing but problems, I now have to go to a urologist that specializes in the issues of post Vas to determine if he can do a reversal or removal to stop the chronic pain. When I went to my urologist he stated that 40 percent of vas patients have chronic pain (which was not disclosed to me when I had it done or I wouldnt have gone through it). So I am telling you from personal experience age aside, do not do it!!!!!!
 

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I tried at 22 years old to get it done,all the doctors I went to refused.So there I was on permanent disability unable to work full time and married.My wife could not take the pill and condoms break and the sponge almost killed her.So the state,the tax payers and doctors that turned me down shelled out the cash for the birth of two children and 20 years worth of medical,dental and vision care.Finaly got it done at 39,so no more worries about being a middle aged dad.

22 is not too young to be thinking about it if the situation warrents it.

All that said I'm very proud of the adults our children have become.
 

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Of course you don't want kids at 22. That's totally normal. Wait until you're 32, or even 42, and revisit the issue. You know how what you want out of life now isn't the same as what you wanted out of life when you were 12? The same will be true 10, 20, 30 years from now. People's wants and needs change a lot over a decade.
 

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Had it done 29 now 32 and have some regret for doing it. I have one kid that's 4 years old and I would have another. At 22 I was the same. I didnt want kids and said that for years. Now having one was the greatest thing I have ever done. She was born premature and that scared me so I went and got snipped. Hold off cause you never know
 

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You're going to have people telling you that you're too young, but that's only indirectly the issue. The real issue is that at 22, most people are still maturing into the person they're going to be. At the very least, I think you should experience multiple, healthy, long-term relationships with different women. If, after those experiences, you never found yourself imagining being happy in the future of having children with any of them, that's a pretty good sign that kids just aren't something you're going to want. It's not so much age as experience, and at 22, you probably haven't had enough of it to be completely sure.

But there are a lot of people out there (male and female) who were felt 100% sure that they didn't want children by the time they were teenagers. Who are we to argue with that? The main thing to keep in mind here is that you should consider a vasectomy permanent. Although vasectomy reversal can often be done, about a third of the time it doesn't work. If you have any reason to think that you might want to have biological children in the future, then you owe it to yourself to do due diligence on this issue.

I had it done in my mid-30s after getting married. I had been ambivalent about having kids for a number of years and my wife didn't want any. It wasn't so much that I had it done for her. It was more that by committing to her, I had already imagined -- and was content with the idea of -- a future without them. And I felt very happy with that future. That cinched it for me. Don't let anyone tell you what you're sure of, but be honest and thorough when being sure for yourself.
 

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I was snipped at 35 and they probably wont do you as you have not had kids yet, they dont want you changing your mind in a couple of years
 

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I got snipped @ 38 during the removal of a hydrocele and already had 2 children. IF you have something in your genes that could cause a negative effect on a child then you could probably convince a doc. to do it. As others above have expressed that you are too young because you really don't know how you will feel down the road. Marriage, a wife and most women want children. You could probably find a woman that doesn't want children. But maybe she is not THE ONE! Then what?

A couple of things; One==the reversal it isn't always successful should you decide you want children. Two==even though you might have the best doc in the world doing the vasectomy, it can reverse on it's own and there you are with a child with a woman you wouldn't spend the rest of your life with and have a fatherless child unless you will commit to be in the child's life until.....

If you think you can do this as a way of contraception, go crazy with the women without worry and then get it reversed when you want to have children you need to take another look. Keep in mind that possibility it could reverse on it's own !

Think about it again in 8 or 10 years from now !
 

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I don't know you personally, but when I was your age I already knew that I never wanted to have children. I finally had it done at age 27. I am 64 now, and still convinced I made the right choice.

At age 27, I had to go thru two docs b4 I found one willing to do it. The first one refused because "I hadn't had any kids yet". Kinda missing the point, duh. At your age, you'll probably have to search around a bit to find a willing doc.

If you have it done, get a urologist to do it. A specialist can do it more efficiently with faster healing and fewer complications. In my case, you can't even see where the scrotum was cut - and it was a TINY hole on each side.

Re. the previous poster's alluding to the possibliity that possibility "it could reverse on it's own" - that will only happen if it's done wrong by an incompetent doc. If properly done, 1) about 1/2 inch of each vas is snipped out, so they can't reach to reconnect and 2) BOTH ends of each vas is sutured off. This not only prevents undesirable leakage into the scrotum, but would make a working reconnection pretty damned difficult.

Consider the procedure irreversible, though; and give it a lot of thought before you decide to do it. But it's your body and your choice.
 

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at 22, hell no, don't do it.. you won't have the mind of a 22 year old all your life. Be young and responsible now, but don't fuck up your ability to have children.

Even more, don't do anything to alter your ejaculate. The more bulk in the fluid the better. I've been told after a vasectomy all that comes out is the clear fluid. I can't say because I haven't had a vasectomy, but I'd be willing to bet the sensation is not as pleasurabe when there's no actual sperm in the ejacualtion.

Don't..
 

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I tried at 22 years old to get it done,all the doctors I went to refused.So there I was on permanent disability unable to work full time and married.My wife could not take the pill and condoms break and the sponge almost killed her.So the state,the tax payers and doctors that turned me down shelled out the cash for the birth of two children and 20 years worth of medical,dental and vision care.Finaly got it done at 39,so no more worries about being a middle aged dad.

22 is not too young to be thinking about it if the situation warrents it.

All that said I'm very proud of the adults our children have become.

Why was my OP altered?:frown1:
 

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sorry K
dont mean to be interfering?

You were right, so no sorry needed!

I was just posting the explanation here as well because I know how lazy some members can be, and didn't want them thinking Ed69 did something wrong because they couldn't be bothered to click on your link :wink: