What do you consider cheating?

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  1. Gecko4lif

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    Anything you wouldnt do you a member of your own family could be construe as cheating by someone dont you think?
     
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    say what?
     
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    I'm confused Gecko! Give us an example!
     
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    explain, please!
     
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    Do you proof read your posts?
     
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    Argh im sorry. My thoughts are chaotic.

    For example. Some people dont consider kissing other people on the mouth cheating while some do. However those same people who dont consider it cheating wouldnt kiss another member of thier family on the mouth. And what I am saying is that anything you can make that distinction with can be considered cheating.
     
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    I don't kiss anyone on the mouth except a sexual partner/ SO. I kiss no family on the mouth.

    Anyway, I consider cheating to be having some type of sexual relations with another person. Kissing, fondling, oral or intercourse.
     
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    I wouldn't talk with my family members about sex i had.
    But i have talked about sex i had with friends, so was that cheating?
     
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    Possibly. A case could be made from the perspective of the person your with depending on the nature of the relationship
     
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    Kissing certainly is in my books. I don't think even physical contact would be the lower limit for me either, I can certainly imagine considering an ultra high level of flirting to be a betrayal of trust. I think many would disagree on that though.
     
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    I agree with you about the last part to a certain extent. If say someone I was involved with was having dinner or lunch or something with another person and there was a sexual undertone that might bother me. Telephone calls at midnight from another female... who is not a known friend to me, etc. Those types of things may bother me. I think it would depend on the situation and if there was something really going on and not just an assumption of something.
     
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    Yeah, that's the sort of thing I meant, but for me it would probably have to be over an extended period rather than a one-off, I think. Enough to suggest that there was the distinct possibility of it heading further, at least. All subjective though and it's never black and white with things like that either.
     
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    ´But are we talking about what is bothering, or what is cheating?
     
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    Can you define cheating without including bothering in some form or fashion?
     
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    Going behind someone else's back to intentionally hit on or have relations with another person when they clearly know it's wrong.
     
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    Ok so is Gecko's world in trouble again? Do you need to go break something:cool:
     
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    I think every form of cheating will probably bother ones partner, but i would not define everything that bothers your partner cheating.
    I was bothered by an ex talking to friends i could not stand, but there was nothing going on that could remotely be called cheating.
     
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    As far as I know everything is great in Gecko world. I should probably check on that though lol.

    Thats what I meant though. All the things you would consider cheating bother you but not necessarily everything that bothers you is cheating.

    I should have subtitles lol
     
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    So what prompted this question?
     
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    Just a conversation I was having. :cool:
     
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