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Exploring Your Ass
After some preliminary touching you will
find that you want to move on and actually insert a finger into your anus.
At this point it is a good idea to have some good lubricant on hand. I
personally would recommend a lubricant that is water soluble. I have been
advised by some of my readers that Vaseline is also an acceptable lubricant
as the rectum is a self-cleaning organism, unlike the vagina.
Make yourself comfortable on your bed or
whatever spot you've chosen for your exploration and bend your legs slightly
bringing your feet closer to your ass. Using one hand get into a comfortable
rhythm of masturbation and take a finger of the other hand, usually the
index or the middle finger works best, and apply the lubricant of your
choice to it. Gently start to push the tip of your finger into your anus.
You will feel it give way and your finger will go in a little ways. To
insert the finger further you need to keep pushing gently and try to relax
your anus. This will enable you to get past the thick muscle and into the
rectum. This may feel a bit uncomfortable at first, and there may be a
little bit of a burning sensation or irritation. This is a normal response,
just try to relax your ass completely and continue the masturbation with
your other hand. If you want to, bring yourself to climax with your finger
still in your rectum and see how it feels. If this feels good to you, then
by all means continue with your exploration. If it doesn't feel good then
withdraw the finger and try again another time. Take all the time you need
to become comfortable with yourself.
If you have enjoyed yourself so far, then
you might want to try wiggling your finger around inside your rectum and see
what it feels like. The inside of the rectum is very soft and comfy. I find
it's a rather interesting sensation. Try moving your finger around in
different directions and see what different movements feel like. If you have
your fingers from your other hand inside your pussy you can push them
towards each other and feel them pushing on walls that separate them.
Eventually you will want to stretch the rectum a bit more so that you can
prepare for your partner's cock at a later point.
One way to do this is to try sliding another
finger into your rectum to join the first one and to try spreading the
fingers as far apart as you can. Only do what feels comfortable for you.
Don't feel that you have to accomplish everything in the same day. You may
do better if you explore a bit at a time over several days. Practice tensing
and relaxing your anus around your fingers.
More than fingers
Now that you are comfortable with fingers,
it's time to move on to something a bit more realistic. A good dildo is
excellent to practice with. You can obtain one at a love shop or order from
many places on the internet. I would recommend one made of plastic rather
than latex. Latex dildos are difficult to clean and have soft pores that
bacteria could be harboured in. Don't use anything with sharp edges or that
can easily break.
On your own try inserting the dildo into
your ass gradually, making sure that it is well lubricated. Try pushing it
in and out of your anus while you masturbate yourself with the other hand. I
have found that if I'm already excited from masturbating it is much simpler
to push the dildo further into my anus.
From this point you can move on and involve
your partner in the exploration process. Make sure that he is aware that you
are setting the pace and not to rush the whole process. He will be greatly
rewarded by the results of patience when he finally gets to experience your
ass, especially if this will be a first for you.
Postillioning
There are a couple of ways to get your
partner involved in the exploration of your ass. They are postillioning and
analingus.
Postillioning is the insertion of fingers
into the anus and may involve massaging it and the rectum. At it's most
extreme you can end up with anal fisting, but that's a whole topic on it's
own.
The insertion of your partner's fingers into
your anus is a great lead up to the ultimate of anal sex or it can even be a
pleasant enhancement to regular intercourse. This allows your partner to
become familiar with how you may react during anal sex. It gives him a
chance to explore your body with you.
Normally, I find that the index or middle
fingers work the best, being a little longer than the others and stronger as
well. Don't forget the lube! Run your fingers over the anal opening,
kneading and pressing against it. You can use a circular motion if you like.
It's just like giving a massage, you are helping the area around the anus to
relax. Make the insertion by pressing gently and firmly inwards, wiggling
the tip of your finger as necessary. At this point if your partner is
comfortable and relaxed the finger should slide in fairly easily. On the
other hand, if the ass is tense then your finger will not make any headway
at all. You and your partner will have to decide at this point whether or
not to continue or to perhaps leave it and come back to it another time.
Once your finger is past the anal opening
you will feel the thick, strong, muscular ring which is the anus and beyond
it, the soft sides of the rectum. You will need to keep at least your
fingertip beyond the anus or the contraction of the muscle could just force
the finger right out. When your finger is inside explore a bit, pushing the
finger as far in as it will go, flicking back and forth.
A great way to enhance this exploration
would be to suck on your partner's clit or stick your other fingers in her
pussy. I have found that this combination makes for some pretty powerful
orgasms. There is nothing better than having his mouth wrapped around my
clit and fingers wiggling in my ass. It's a great feeling.
Analingus
Now for the other way to explore the rear
end. This method is typically called rimming or can also be known as
"analingus". It involves kissing, licking and sucking the anus. A lot of
people have a problem with this concept since we've been taught for so long
that we're not supposed to play with our asses, that they are dirty and bad.
There is the possibility of getting VD or hepatitis from an infected person
but the primary fears of rimming are mainly to do with smell, taste and
personal preference. If these things are a concern to you, then perhaps the
ideal time for this sort of exploration would be right after getting out of
the shower. You can also buy dams, which are made from latex, very similar
to the dams they use in the dental offices, only a lot thinner. You would
apply this to the area, so that you would not be coming in direct contact
with the person's ass but they would still get all the great sensations.
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