what's wrong with being single?

[B_debonair87]

Actually, they are not 'dated' they are recent, and they specifically chose confirmed bachelors to represent the 'non married' group.

no those articles state anything about bachelor life. just states 'single

You really might benefit from an actual cost analysis of how many hours and dollars you spend chasing sex...

i don't spend that many hours or any money at all chasing sex. i'm tall, dark, and handsome. i don't have to spend money at a bar getting a chick drunk to take her home. i already have a few fuck friends in rotation as we speak. didn't take much to bag them. i use my good looks, charm, and personality and i seal the deal.

And, yes... there are a handful of men who make ridiculous money on wall street... and if you are going to be a broker... maybe you will beat the odds...

But I know quite a few EX-wall streeters who were burned out and are now lonely and broke from living large and chasing paper and pussy...

those guys probably had to work harder and actually spend money to get females because they didn't have much going for them in the looks or personality department.

but, you should absolutely do as you please and not let anyone pressure you... if you are not ready or interested in long term love, and the greater sense of fulfillment that comes from taking on committed relationships and the responsibility for raising the next generation of decent human beings, then you would probably suck at it or be miserable.

And that's no life.

Still and all... the men who OWN the brokerages, are mostly married, or have been... and they still live a damn good life.

theres a good portion of men who are married and sleep around on their wives. those married brokers have secretaries and other young hot chicks working for them that they might very well be banging.

being married doesn't mean you're fully committed and 100% honest with your loved one.

and again, happiness starts with self and then others. you shouldn't look to others for happiness and love if you aren't happy with and/or love yourself first.

and this generation has already been set up to fail.........

 

[monel]

I sense... bitterness in your post... are you sure... that you're not being cynical against married men... who have later come out and said they were gay and just got married to give the illusion that they were straight... because that lessens the power of being straight...

(See I can post like you...)

No, I don't post gratuitously. There is no bitterness in my post nor any indication of cynicism against anyone. My understanding is that the more common scenario is that the man could not accept his orientation and wanted to lead a straight life for himself rather than to portray to others that he is straight. That's not to say some don't.

Yes, my original post (which I clarified in detail in later posts) was a generalization, but it was not a gross exaggeration. There are organizations/groups dedicated to exactly what I've been talking about.

No your post was not merely a generalization. It was a gross exaggeration. You said that the reason for a lot of straight relationships nowadays was so the people involved were not thought to be gay. This is still way over broad.

And people speak in generalizations all the time. Get over it. C'est la vie (as you put it). However, people making generalizations is apparently a touchy subject with you and why you went back to scrutinize the OP after there was a later clarification is beyond me. It really shows how hollow your argument is.

They do and I am in no way touchy about them. Whether you say most or a lot of straight relationships are for this reason, I think you are wrong and that your opinion of what are the numbers is way out of whack. Regardless, you may disagree with my contention but that doesn't make my argument hollow.

You just don't like it that I even put the possibility out there that it could be a lot more prevalent than you think. (Damnit, I can't put %200 straight next to my name...)

This just isn't true. If I thought your numbers were accurate, I would readily accept it. I don't.

The fact that you're so concerned about it already proves that what I'm saying has some merit to it.

It is not a fact that I am "so concerned" about it. You put the matter out here. I merely disagreed with your position and said so. Regardless, the level of my concerned and/or disagreement says nothing about merits of your argument.

We'll just have to agree to disagree.

This I am happy to do and hope that our disagreement has created no ill will.

 

[AlphaMale]

Moved to PMs.

 

[dolfette]

well that was twattish!

 

[monel]

I use bolded text so I'm right.

Wasn't intended that way.

 

[Zayne]

The government wouldn't promote marriage with tax incentives and propaganda if marriage did not serve the best interest of government. I am guessing it is a form of social control, like free education and public welfare, to discourage revolts. Men with baggage (wife, children, etc.) are less likely to stir up the pot.

 

[AlphaMale]

The government wouldn't promote marriage with tax incentives and propaganda if marriage did not serve the best interest of government. I am guessing it is a form of social control, like free education and public welfare, to discourage revolts. Men with baggage (wife, children, etc.) are less likely to stir up the pot.

Sounds exactly like something I would say lol :tongue:

 

[hockeysweat]

The government wouldn't promote marriage with tax incentives and propaganda if marriage did not serve the best interest of government. I am guessing it is a form of social control, like free education and public welfare, to discourage revolts. Men with baggage (wife, children, etc.) are less likely to stir up the pot.

I got pilloried on here for saying something like that in reference to gay marriage. Between the OP's nagging family and the posters on here painting single men with generalizations and stereotypes, it sure seems like the everyone-needs-to-pair-off-and-settle-down crowd is real officious about policing how we order our lives.

 

[bigdog83]

I have friends who are married or are in relationships they hate and I believe they get into these relationships due to their fear of being alone. None of that bothers me at all. I was born alone and imma die alone. And you can have a wife and kids and all the friends in the world and still feel alone. It doesn't bother me at all if I never get married and I truly don't care that much to have kids. I'm cool with being a bachelor for life.


*end of rant*

you said it brother. So many unhappy married people out there. I could of been married if I wanted that life. But it would of been with some crazy insecure girl.
I tell people im Living my life the way I want to. When I met a girl who is doing the same and doesnt "NEED" a guy then maybe ill be interested.

 

[WTFguys]

You should start dating when you feel that you're ready. Getting your life together is a great idea.

 

[rob_just_rob]

The typical "straight" reason to be in a relationship is so that people don't think you're "gay". Hate me for saying it, but that is the reason for most "straight" relationships nowadays.

I don't quite agree with that, but I had forgotten about the he-isn't-dating-girls-so-he-must-be-gay reasoning from high school.

 

[BIGBULL29]

I've been suspected of being gay for years.

I don't know many gay men who love lesbian porn.:biggrin1:

Let people think what they want...they are just threatened by singlehood or just plain-old stupid!:biggrin1:

Every person has a unique sexuality, but society is light years away from understanding that.

Ditch toxic people...move or go somewhere where folks are more civilized....

 

[AlphaMale]

I don't quite agree with that, but I had forgotten about the he-isn't-dating-girls-so-he-must-be-gay reasoning from high school.

Unfortunately, it extends well beyond high school in today's society. Remember, to the general public straight = manly, tough, good and gay = womanly, weak, and bad (when it comes to men). For example, the general public tends to view the reason why a guy isn't dating a woman is that he isn't manly or "tough" enough to get one (regardless of if that's even anywhere close to the real reason). So to the stupid general public, the next logical conclusion is "so he must be gay".

I personally don't agree with any of it, but it's still very prevalent in our society that being gay is somehow bad.

 

[LaFemme]

Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with being single if that's your choice. Caving into peer/family/societal pressure and marrying will not only make you miserable, but your spouse and possibly your children miserable as well. It's no longer just you who lives in hell, but a whole family that gets destroyed. And while this happens everyday and people survive it everyday doesn't mean that we should jump into it just because society or friends & family say we should.

I've been single most of my life and that's been great. I'm really good at it. I'm not afraid of being alone. I would love to be in a relationship now though. I'd love to find someone who loved, adored and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. But having been in a bad relationship before, I'd rather be alone the rest of my life than spend one more minute in a bad damaging relationship. Alone I can do; coupled with an asshole - never again.

 

[matelalique]

Quote:
i don't spend that many hours or any money at all chasing sex. i'm tall, dark, and handsome. i don't have to spend money at a bar getting a chick drunk to take her home. i already have a few fuck friends in rotation as we speak. didn't take much to bag them. i use my good looks, charm, and personality and i seal the deal.


To the OP: and as a former hedge-funder - your family presumably uses assumptions from their generation (as does mine), that married is stable and means grandchildren, and that is good. You live in NYC, where anyone married under the age of 40 is considered weird. Picture your 60s. If they involved travel to Iceland with a 24-your-old blonde then you're on the right path; if you want to have adult grandchildren, then as a straight boy you need to get cracking at some point - and you have until you are 40 to make a decision.

Anyway - enjoy your 20s and NY. I know you are working hard. Put some time aside to decide what you want long term. By your posts, you seem to be adamantly (potentially violently at the gym?) straight - so if you want kids, decide when, and in NYC, when I am 50 is a fine answer. As a 30 yo it is easy to find a any pussy. As a 50 yo it requires a fine chequebook, a fine cock, and the right woman.

Good luck OP.

 

[VernalTiger]

debonair87, your family and friends want to see you happy. For them, it's likely that happy equals being in a relationship, expecially if the rest of your life is sorted out. Chances are if you were living in your parents' basement smoking bongs and playing xbox, the priority would not be for you to get a girlfriend.

You're clearly in no rush to get a girlfriend. I get it. But despite your avowed bachelor status, I think it's generally a good idea to leave yourself open to the possibility of a girlfriend. My man was in the same situation - at 28, he was working long hours, had a few girls in rotation, was happy with his single life. But he allowed himself to be open to the possibility of a girlfriend, and here I am, and it's been 3 and a half years already.

Do what's right for you.

 

[BIGBULL29]

Unfortunately, it extends well beyond high school in today's society. Remember, to the general public straight = manly, tough, good and gay = womanly, weak, and bad (when it comes to men). For example, the general public tends to view the reason why a guy isn't dating a woman is that he isn't manly or "tough" enough to get one (regardless of if that's even anywhere close to the real reason). So to the stupid general public, the next logical conclusion is "so he must be gay".

I personally don't agree with any of it, but it's still very prevalent in our society that being gay is somehow bad.

I wish society thought like you on this matter, but unfortunately we're light years behind.


I just tell everyone that I am a trannsexual lesbian.:biggrin1:

 

[ggsitc]

I just tell everyone that I am a trannsexual lesbian.:biggrin1:

Oh man, I gotta remember that one! :lmao:

 

[BIGBULL29]

Oh man, I gotta remember that one! :lmao:

Yep!

(I spelled it wrong: it is "transsexual lesbian")


Take care:smile:

 

[deleted15807]

The first thing is what was your life growing up? We often model what we see growing up. If we didn't see a warm loving supportive relationship growing up we don't really seek that out in adulthood.