When did you learn to stop being for a lack of a better word, stupid, in relationships? I have been just beaten over the head in the last month by about 12 or so female friends (Ages 16-25) who simplely refuse to see the forrest for the trees. Like my friend erin for example. She has been with this guy for a year but they could only see each other on the weekends. When it was like this it was perfect. But about 3 months ago they moved in together and things went down hill rapidly. He yells at her all the time over stupid shit, he refuses to have sex with her, he wont sleep in the same bed until after she is already sleep, and cant stand being around her in general. She cries her self to sleep every night. Now for me. This seem like it should be a pretty easy situation to fix. But she insists that she is going to marry him. What. The. Fuck. And it isnt even like this is an isolated incident. Several of my female friends are telling me somewhat similar stories, different details but in the end still toxic relationships and a stead fast refuses to give up on an apparently hopeless situation. Im from the cut your losses and move on while you have your youth camp myself so I just dont get it. It is way too fucking early in life to be worried about dying alone. That should be reserved for people in their 40's - 50's whose stock is likely rapidly declining. When did you become the (presumably) wise learned woman that you are? What did you have to go through to get there?