Why can't i get hard when bottoming

[curious6.5]

Since I posted my experience of staying soft while being pegged... I also stay soft with a real dick too. That said, I do stay semi hard if I have a snug cock ring on first. Also keep my tight balls projected out for my partner to fondle.

Super common

 

[tinylatinsub]

As everyone says, it's totally normal because you are completely focused on your anal pleasure. There are guys who get erect again once they or their tops starts touching their dick... not my case, I prefer my top don't touch my little dick lmao

staying limp means focus on your TOP , it is not about you cock, not about your pleasure- it only for HIS fun
focus on his cock, on your tight ass, your prostate, your ass-cunt
so it is the rihgt thing when you pensis is flaccid and lip.

This! I have been focusing on my cunt as my primary sex organ for > 4 years.

I even prefer to have sex in a jockstrap and reach orgasm without even touching myself, just with their big cocks pounding me and touching my g-spot.

There's only one cock that matters.

I can stay hard if I am riding him, sometimes in missionary with him on top in a slow fuck I can. Most other positions I cannot however I leak precum contantly while they are pounding away

same, the anal pleasure is so fckn good that my limp dick leaks lot of precum while they pound me.

 

[curious6.5]

As everyone says, it's totally normal because you are completely focused on your anal pleasure. There are guys who get erect again once they or their tops starts touching their dick... not my case, I prefer my top don't touch my little dick lmao

This! I have been focusing on my cunt as my primary sex organ for > 4 years.

I even prefer to have sex in a jockstrap and reach orgasm without even touching myself, just with their big cocks pounding me and touching my g-spot.

There's only one cock that matters.


same, the anal pleasure is so fckn good that my limp dick leaks lot of precum while they pound me

I agree with this. My cock doesn't need attention. My ass and prostate take over

 

[Vastian]

Eh. I don't stay hard unless I jack off when bottoming. Even then if I pay more attention to my partner I get soft. I find it's more fun to enjoy them then take care of business later

 

[gfcyulihiufrtykxl]

Apologies for barging in as a top, on a very much bottom's discussion (or shall I say penetrating?)

I just wanted to say that I love when my bottom stays soft and only enjoys me pounding their bussy. If they have a small dick, that's even better, but saying soft is the key. So you guys are all amazing and we appreciate you!

Unfortunately, it is incredibly difficult finding porn that fits what I like. And on top of that, most bottoms I have been with, try to stay hard by stroking their cock. I suspect it is because of the expectations seeded by porn. In the rare event when the bottom is focused on bottoming and stays soft, they sometimes even feel the need to apologise!

Now with my boyfriend, we often have sex where only I finish and he stays soft, getting pleasure only from the penetration. He says it is fullfilling for him, even though he has not yet cum like this. (If you guys have any tips, do share).

 

[Assman1]

I Even stay hard when the wife fucks me with a dildo or strap on but not with a guy

That's a mental issue, not physical.

 

[Assman1]

It happens frequently in the swinging scene. It's happened to me and countless others who aren't in the right headspace. Just keep telling yourself how good this is and that you love it. Even be very orally vocal about it! Telling him how much you love having him fuck you in the ass and other similar things.

 

[deine_huendin]

Apologies for barging in as a top, on a very much bottom's discussion (or shall I say penetrating?)

I just wanted to say that I love when my bottom stays soft and only enjoys me pounding their bussy. If they have a small dick, that's even better, but saying soft is the key. So you guys are all amazing and we appreciate you!

Unfortunately, it is incredibly difficult finding porn that fits what I like. And on top of that, most bottoms I have been with, try to stay hard by stroking their cock. I suspect it is because of the expectations seeded by porn. In the rare event when the bottom is focused on bottoming and stays soft, they sometimes even feel the need to apologise!

Now with my boyfriend, we often have sex where only I finish and he stays soft, getting pleasure only from the penetration. He says it is fullfilling for him, even though he has not yet cum like this. (If you guys have any tips, do share).

the bottoms "try to stay hard by stroking their cock" ?!. don't let them wank. put his hand away...

Give him a few hard slaps on the ass or lock him up...

 

[MikeDelish]

the bottoms "try to stay hard by stroking their cock" ?!. don't let them wank. put his hand away...

Give him a few hard slaps on the ass or lock him up...

Wait. I know this. Because when something is about to go in and not out. The ,hole starts going into defense mode. Protection mode. It takes the blood that obviously makes you erect but uses it to make the back stronger against an intruder. Doesn't work . But if tried

 

[Assman1]

Relaxe and just keep telling yourself how hot it is. It's mental.

 

[MikeDelish]

I did . make it all up

Relaxe and just keep telling yourself how hot it is. It's ment

 

[Assman1]

If you wear panties, you'd probably stay hard while bottoming!

 

[MikeDelish]

If you wear panties, you'd probably stay hard while bottoming!

.l don't bottom. I don't top anymore. I am s straight up cock sucker. A few other things. But that's my thing.

 

[Assman1]

Noted!

 

[Assman1]

Here.

 

[Nawty_Man65]

Apologies for barging in as a top, on a very much bottom's discussion (or shall I say penetrating

the bottoms "try to stay hard by stroking their cock" ?!. don't let them wank. put his hand away...

Give him a few hard slaps on the ass or lock him up...

?)

I just wanted to say that I love when my bottom stays soft and only enjoys me pounding their bussy. If they have a small dick, that's even better, but saying soft is the key. So you guys are all amazing and we appreciate you!

Unfortunately, it is incredibly difficult finding porn that fits what I like. And on top of that, most bottoms I have been with, try to stay hard by stroking their cock. I suspect it is because of the expectations seeded by porn. In the rare event when the bottom is focused on bottoming and stays soft, they sometimes even feel the need to apologise!

Now with my boyfriend, we often have sex where only I finish and he stays soft, getting pleasure only from the penetration. He says it is fullfilling for him, even though he has not yet cum like this. (If you guys have any tips, do share).

It’s funny you should mention locking him up.

I was a closeted bisexual until I was in my late 20’s. When I was 30 I met my first real boyfriend, and he happened to be a total top. Prior to him I had considered myself versatile but mostly top. So like many bottoms…especially in porn videos…I stroked while I was fucked.

Unfortunately my new bf had great stamina, and a beautiful cock btw. So I would finish before him, and want him to pull out and let me finish him orally. He initially went along with it but eventually told me it bothered him. We discussed it and he told me he wanted to train me to orgasm from anal only. He promised that if I did what he said I would enjoy sex even more.

I was a bit skeptical but agreed. He bought me a chastity cage to wear. He told me I had to wear it for sex and keep me from masturbating on my own. Which made me even more skeptical…lol. I wore it just about 24/7 for almost 2 months except when I showered. After showering I blow dried my cock and balls then powdered them before reapplying the cage.

I’ll be honest that it caused me some frustration and took a lot of getting used to, but after about 3 weeks I mostly forgot it was there. My spontaneous erections became fewer and I stopped straining against the cage. When I got horny (often) my thoughts of masturbating decreased and were replaced by a sensation inside my ass. It’s a sensation that’s difficult to explain except to say…I needed a cock in my ass to feel right.

Then at about the 4th week it finally happened….my first hands free anal only orgasm. It was an experience so powerful that it made my whole body shake uncontrollably. An experience that overwhelmed me physically, mentally, and emotionally. I’m not someone with an addictive personality but that experience changed me forever. It ripped away my previous beliefs of what is and how an orgasm happens, and retrained my brain and body.

At my bf request I gladly continued to wear the cage for about another month although he did remove it occasionally when we were intimate. I would get erect while we were kissing and during foreplay, but as soon as anything stimulated my asshole I went completely soft. I got to the point that my cock would not only go soft but it would contract to my normal flaccid size of 1.5”. When I would get fucked my cock would basically go numb because all of my desire for stimulation was focused on my asshole. My bf was so impressed with the effectiveness of my training that after about 2 months he unlocked me permanently.

My training and reprogramming eventually led to me preferring to masturbate anally, and within about 3-4 months I was able to have multiple anal only orgasms.

 

[Nawty_Man65]

My first real bf trained me to stay soft and orgasm anally when I bottom. I actually have no desire to touch myself or be touched while getting fucked.

 

[Scott8361]

It’s funny you should mention locking him up.

I was a closeted bisexual until I was in my late 20’s. When I was 30 I met my first real boyfriend, and he happened to be a total top. Prior to him I had considered myself versatile but mostly top. So like many bottoms…especially in porn videos…I stroked while I was fucked.

Unfortunately my new bf had great stamina, and a beautiful cock btw. So I would finish before him, and want him to pull out and let me finish him orally. He initially went along with it but eventually told me it bothered him. We discussed it and he told me he wanted to train me to orgasm from anal only. He promised that if I did what he said I would enjoy sex even more.

I was a bit skeptical but agreed. He bought me a chastity cage to wear. He told me I had to wear it for sex and keep me from masturbating on my own. Which made me even more skeptical…lol. I wore it just about 24/7 for almost 2 months except when I showered. After showering I blow dried my cock and balls then powdered them before reapplying the cage.

I’ll be honest that it caused me some frustration and took a lot of getting used to, but after about 3 weeks I mostly forgot it was there. My spontaneous erections became fewer and I stopped straining against the cage. When I got horny (often) my thoughts of masturbating decreased and were replaced by a sensation inside my ass. It’s a sensation that’s difficult to explain except to say…I needed a cock in my ass to feel right.

Then at about the 4th week it finally happened….my first hands free anal only orgasm. It was an experience so powerful that it made my whole body shake uncontrollably. An experience that overwhelmed me physically, mentally, and emotionally. I’m not someone with an addictive personality but that experience changed me forever. It ripped away my previous beliefs of what is and how an orgasm happens, and retrained my brain and body.

At my bf request I gladly continued to wear the cage for about another month although he did remove it occasionally when we were intimate. I would get erect while we were kissing and during foreplay, but as soon as anything stimulated my asshole I went completely soft. I got to the point that my cock would not only go soft but it would contract to my normal flaccid size of 1.5”. When I would get fucked my cock would basically go numb because all of my desire for stimulation was focused on my asshole. My bf was so impressed with the effectiveness of my training that after about 2 months he unlocked me permanently.

My training and reprogramming eventually led to me preferring to masturbate anally, and within about 3-4 months I was able to have multiple anal only orgasms.

Awesome to hear the concept of being reprogrammed... I feel my sexual desires have done the same. I get horny and my ass and prostate is the epicenter of my desire and need for stimulation. My dick goes soft and I need something IN me!

 

[onesmallone]

I am small and stay soft. To the point it will actually invert and it looks like I don't have a penis.

Apologies for barging in as a top, on a very much bottom's discussion (or shall I say penetrating?)

I just wanted to say that I love when my bottom stays soft and only enjoys me pounding their bussy. If they have a small dick, that's even better, but saying soft is the key. So you guys are all amazing and we appreciate you!

Unfortunately, it is incredibly difficult finding porn that fits what I like. And on top of that, most bottoms I have been with, try to stay hard by stroking their cock. I suspect it is because of the expectations seeded by porn. In the rare event when the bottom is focused on bottoming and stays soft, they sometimes even feel the need to apologise!

Now with my boyfriend, we often have sex where only I finish and he stays soft, getting pleasure only from the penetration. He says it is fullfilling for him, even though he has not yet cum like this. (If you guys have any tips, do share).