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I was surprised to read the insightful replies to the other thread. http://www.lpsg.org/et-cetera-et-cetera/42102-would-i-choose-to-gay.html
The premise of that thread was that I figured that most gay men would, AFTER a few years of living as a gay male, chose to remain who they are. I recognize that during adolescence most men would “take the magic pill.” But that goes for straight men as well. I would have happily taken a magic pill to fit in and not be a loner... but thankfully I was never given that option. I came to the conclusion that most people would not change who they are or the experiences they had because, upon reflection, I would not change how I grew up. Seems like a strange reason, but there it is.
I noticed a wide range of reasons and responses. I was honestly expecting most to be like Buddy629's; deciding that getting through the tough part was a growth experience. (in case you want to read it it is post #25 in the link above.) In many cases I was mistaken and I decided to start another thread on the same sort of lines, only twisting the question around to reflect what I think I noticed in the other thread.
So the question is this: Would you have changed society's reaction to your orientation. I know that to answer “no” may be seen as wanting the status quo to continue and have homosexuals remain as a group that can be hated and discriminated against- but that is not the question. I do not want to know if you want society to change now; of course you do; even if it prevented a few suicides it would be worth it. What I want to know is would you have given society the “magic pill”when you were growing up. “coming out” would not be an issue as you would not need to. Your friends and family would be guaranteed to accept you. You would not have spent one day “in the closet” as it would be more of a sin to repress who you are. There would have been none of the hardships and none of the stress- no feeling as though you did not fit in, and you would never have felt pressure to hide who you were. Would you be a different person- would it be worth it?
Most of you who have been on this board for awhile have heard me say that I was quite homophobic when I was younger. So I will phrase the question this way. Would you have given me (and the rest of society) “the magic pill” now that you have had a few years to reflect on your experience “coming out?”
The premise of that thread was that I figured that most gay men would, AFTER a few years of living as a gay male, chose to remain who they are. I recognize that during adolescence most men would “take the magic pill.” But that goes for straight men as well. I would have happily taken a magic pill to fit in and not be a loner... but thankfully I was never given that option. I came to the conclusion that most people would not change who they are or the experiences they had because, upon reflection, I would not change how I grew up. Seems like a strange reason, but there it is.
I noticed a wide range of reasons and responses. I was honestly expecting most to be like Buddy629's; deciding that getting through the tough part was a growth experience. (in case you want to read it it is post #25 in the link above.) In many cases I was mistaken and I decided to start another thread on the same sort of lines, only twisting the question around to reflect what I think I noticed in the other thread.
So the question is this: Would you have changed society's reaction to your orientation. I know that to answer “no” may be seen as wanting the status quo to continue and have homosexuals remain as a group that can be hated and discriminated against- but that is not the question. I do not want to know if you want society to change now; of course you do; even if it prevented a few suicides it would be worth it. What I want to know is would you have given society the “magic pill”when you were growing up. “coming out” would not be an issue as you would not need to. Your friends and family would be guaranteed to accept you. You would not have spent one day “in the closet” as it would be more of a sin to repress who you are. There would have been none of the hardships and none of the stress- no feeling as though you did not fit in, and you would never have felt pressure to hide who you were. Would you be a different person- would it be worth it?
Most of you who have been on this board for awhile have heard me say that I was quite homophobic when I was younger. So I will phrase the question this way. Would you have given me (and the rest of society) “the magic pill” now that you have had a few years to reflect on your experience “coming out?”