Your experience with increasing duration...

[cobrajet]

As a now-47-y.o. man I've been noticing a decreasing ability to control the length of time before I ejaculate during intercourse. I spoke with a doctor about a year ago and he recommended taking an anti-depressant in low dosage as a common side-effect of these is prolonged time to orgasm. I did so and experienced some improvement, but was never keen on taking these forever as they also have some minor side-effects such as sleeplessness (minor).

I've read that doing kegels may be helpful, but am curious to hear from others who have actual experience with having this problem and then helping/fixing it either through doing kegels, anti-depressants, or any other means. Basically I'm asking "what worked/works for you?". Also, if kegels are the best fix, can you recommend the best technique or point me to a book or website that could be useful?

Thanks - would really appreciate your insights - I REALLY enjoy fucking and don't like it ending sooner rather than later!!

cj

 

[D_Merringtonne Meathead]

Basically in my fifties I've found great differences between time to ejaculation depending on the circumstances: who I'm fucking and in what situation. In some cases, e.g. a new partner/one nighter, it's just so urgent, or it's a routine I just want to get over with, that I come in 5 minutes or less. Otherwise if I'm really enjoying it and so is she, or it's a repeat after the first one, I can fuck for 30 minutes. If you want to prolong it/ repeat it and get a harder erection, I suggest HORN, Herbal Viagra. No side effects for me. I enjoy fucking and I intend my partners to enjoy my cock.

 

[cobrajet]

Thanks bigend,

I'm with you there - i.e. enjoying fucking and intend partners to enjoy my cock. Situation matters in my case too, but its just gotten to the point where its become a distraction trying to hold back too much and too soon. This herbal product sounds interesting; I'm curious if others here have good luck with that too.

If anyone else would like to add their experiences addressing this issue I'd like to hear from you too!

cj

 

[Bbucko]

No quick fixes, but some personal anecdotes/observations:

I learned to delay orgasm (edging) in part to get the maximum bang for my buck, but it took years of masturbation and careful control during actual sex. At this point, I can go anywhere from 2-6 hours, allowing for smoke breaks and philosophical discussions between bouts.

It's rare for me to be able to reach the point where I'm ready to cum in less than an hour now. It can sometimes take me 10-15 minutes of foreplay before I'm even up and ready to go. I have no interest in quickies whatsoever.

there are parts of me that would love to return to my Energizer Bunny 20s, but most of me understands that sex has never been more meaningful nor more pleasurable than right now.