I know what some jerks say on their Grindr profils or such, but as far as I have experienced,
animosity seems to be a strong word.
But yeah, a lot of people get annoyed by effeminate gays, especially on the media, and a lot of those people are gay themselves. Actually most of them, effeminate gays seem to be easier to deal with for straight people.
Part of that annoyance comes from the fact that effeminate gays, dancing half naked at Pride walks, keep alive all the clichés about homosexuals.
But I believe it's more deep than that. I believe that a lot of the people who are annoyed by flamboyant gays are still resentful, because the media coverage of effeminate libertine hays with ripped torsos and provocative minishorts actually hurt when you're Young and unsure about your own sexuality.
Because when you're young, having issues with yourself, not liking your own body and liking too much those of other boys and don't know what you're gonna do with your life, when you turn on the TV and see some kind of pink flamingo, showing off his shaved abs because he's only wearing a speedo and feathers, dancing on high heels at Abba music on the national television coverage of the NYC pride, the first thing that come through your mind is "It's not me, I'll never be like that, it'll never be me". And you hate those same people for making you fear the world will expect you to blend in a model you never choosed. And in some kind, that feeling of being lost and not being able to feel a connection towards anything can lead to tragic consequences.
Sassy gay kill LGBT teens. Of course they never meant for that, but it's sad anyway.
But they help out sassy teens, so banishing them out of ours screens will still make some kids suffer from feeling different, unaccepted, and out of this world.
That's why we need much more diversity when it comes to our representation and image, that's why we must stay away from the biggest clichés but not obliterate them, just showing that it's one way of being yourself in a long long loooooong list of people you could identify with.