Will a huge dildo ruin her for me?

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My wife and I have used dildos for years, of all differnt sizes. I too am avg in size and I wanted to have her experience a larger penis through the use of dildos.

She doesn't mind them, but she prefers the "real thing" ALL the time.

Unless you warm it up real good, a dildo is cold, not very pleasant at times unless she's real horny. I know I've taken the dildo out and put my cock in and her pussy was cool, it had lost it's own warmth. This turns her off.

To each their own, but in my wifes opinion, the dildo isn't attached to anything, the penis is, and that's the sexual attraction. She has had many orgasms with dildos I will say that...but she doesn't ask for them, it's usually upon my initiation.

Explore and see what happens.

I agree entirely. My husband is a little over 6" in girth, and we use a dildo sometimes that is 7-8" in girth, and I will always prefer him over it (and all dildos/vibrators/etc). Sometimes it's fun to use for the excitement... he likes to watch me taking something bigger than he is, and I like him watching me take it. But dildos (other than glass ones that can be warmed up) are cold and fake feeling - the real thing is always better in my opinion.

I also agree with thehighheelsgirl - you can tell he's smaller after you switch from the dildo, but it feels really good... it's warm and smooth and *real*.

my $.02...

 

[Sly_31]

Don't be scare. I'm only 5,5" inches long and 5" inches in girth and I use a big black dildo with 8,5" inches girth and 10" long and it's very great my wife love it but she never replace me by this dildo. It's clear it's more loose after the dildo but all the nerves inside it's excited it's for what wife love it with real cock after.

 

[johnlucas-1]

Let's get real people.
I'm here to bring some reality to this forum.

Human beings are a blend of monogamous and polygamous (polyamorous if you will).
It is IMPOSSIBLE for one mate to ONLY WANT the bonded mate. IMPOSSIBLE.
Unless they're deficiencies in the sex drive, no man nor woman can only be attracted to the same mate. NONE. FACT.

Marriage quite honestly is illogical. It takes a looooot of matched or complimenting traits for two different people to stay together for a lifetime. Also there probably has to also be a conscious control that blocks out receptiveness to another potential mate.

Chances are you are NOT your mate's dream lover. TRUE dream lover. You are the one settled for or comfortably compatible with. Enough compatibility to make a union stick for a length of time. But no union is perfectly compatible. Because perfection doesn't exist in this universe.

The TRUTH is that pornography and sex toys allow the impulse to mate with others to be satisfied while sticking with the mate you made a choice to be bonded to. yes a choice. It is not involuntary regardless of the popular mythologies. There may be one trait or many in your mate that make her the ideal but not all. NEVER all. For the simple fact that that being can't be all beings.

A larger sextoy WILL bring challenges and COULD make problems in your union. The physics will be different and if she enjoys these physics you will be less. The drawback is that dildos are not living so that may not fully replace you. But then she may fantasize about men who DO possess those dimensions. Maybe she won't act on them but in her mind this is what will turn her sexual engines. This doesn't necessarily have to be a threat especially if she still makes time for you. But if you find yourself being gradually replaced then problems may be on the horizon.

This is the issue of modern day and male-female unions. This is the information age. People can learn things they never heard of at the click of a mouse or on a TV show or somewhere. Through the old spoken word grapevine or elsewhere. Temptation is real and more real today because of the ease of communications. This is partly why unions don't last as long anymore.

The best case scenario is that she enjoys part time with the dildo and part time with you. This allows her to fulfill her polyamorous instincts while maintain the monogamous union. This is positive because she sees you as pleasure caregiver and the toy as a sexual alternative and bonus. She may bond with you closer for allowing this reality.

The worst case scenario is that she spends increasingly more time with the dildo than you comparing the differences in your size and questioning the validity of the union. She may cheat behind your back with larger men out of cowardice of confrontation or simply break up with you and seek these men without regard to the marriage. This is negative because she set a value of quality purely on dimensions and her own lusts regardless of the feelings of others.

The problem is you can't take it back anymore. Once the knowledge of the object is there curiosity will linger in the back maybe even the forefront of her mind. She may try it on her own and either of those conclusions or somewhere in-between may take place.

I hate to use the cliché but you find out how much she really loves you based on the aftermath of using the sexual tool one way or another.

It's risky but it's not always doom. But that depends on your woman.
John Lucas

 

[Skull Mason]

well said hermano

 

[ace_dexter]

A couple years ago I had a bf who was probably about 7" who loved using a big dildo on me while we had sex. Multiple times during sex he would pull out of me, use the dildo on me, then he'd fuck me some more and back and forth we'd go.

Its not at all that she won't feel you. Could I tell his dick was smaller than the toy, yes. But, in a way it almost felt better. His dick slid back in me really easy, which was hot, but sine the toy felt great cuz it stretched me, it also hurt and got me sore, which made his dick feel great going back in.

Really I wouldnt worry about it, just have fun!

Jen

When I first read this post I thought that my wife had put it up. That is exactly what we do. Back and forth between with me inside pulling out and replacing myself with our big dildo. I am 7.5in by 5.75in and our dildo is the Jeff stryker model. It is 8.5in by 7in so it is alot bigger than I am.
My wife can only last a couple of minutes before she starts to come when a well lubed big Jeff is buried deep inside her and me licking her clit. She comes back to earth if I pull Jeff out and put my dick back in and we fuck for awhile until I just about come, and back and forth we go. I love the way she feels after being streched by the big guy. And she loves the feel of a porn star size cock filling her to the brim. It is the perfect setup.
So to the question, will a big dildo ruin your wife? I would say no way, it certianly did improved our sex life

 

[StraightCock4Her]

It will ruin her tightness for you during the middle of the sex act when she relaxes totally.

 

[nanga-filipina]

I think, it ruin if do a lot. I know experience, many big can make not so tight. But, if you vary, you fine.

 

[B_cucksmallpeniskev]

I think my fiance nangais right. She has had a lot of experience and moderation and variety will do no harm.

 

[BS76]

I am girthier than the dildo you are thinking of using....in my experience, once a woman or man has enjoyed intercourse with a truly large one....they are hooked on large forever guy!

My wife would disagree. We use the big one once in a while for spice, but she doesn't really like it because it does stretch her out. And if we don't use it for a while it's rough at first. Granted she's right back into after a couple minutes, but that's not the point. Basically what I'm trying to say is she can take it, loves the size & how I use it on her, but she doesn't like it *all* the time. If she's not in the mood for the big one she doesn't even want me to try.

 

[Cuban]

ahem* notes that these women saying that is okey to do... are actually on a large penis site what does it say? they prefer bigger ! or at least intregued by them!
way to go, more wifes will be lurking around here

 

[patronpk]

A dildo ruining it all?....What about after the first baby? Do we use a turkey baster after that? It seems that a vagina is somewhat flexible, huh? Everything from a tongue to a new baby - isn't it great? Worry, worry, worry!

 

[Geohate]

Put it this way. When you use a large dildo on a woman and she is going crazy and u can feel and see just how much she loves it. When u then take it out and start using your smaller penis there is always a massive difference. She is in No way near making as much noise. And u can tell by her movements and sounds and breathing that compared to your small penis inside her just now it was a far cry from when she was adoring the large one 5 minutes ago. She obviously loves the feeling of it being deeper and fuller so when she then does not feel that with your own and u can clearly sense ther isnt as much enjoyment it kind of answers the question itself. Clearly bigger cocks feel so much better

 

[EllieP]

Well, since this catacomb has been reopened it's kind of funny how many men are answering for women. Reminds me of the U.S. Congress.

I am answering only for myself as a woman, not a representative of all women: I like a real weenie. And it must be attached to the man at all times. Dildos are fine. They're fun. They do the job of getting me off. But my main goal of being sexually intimate is not getting just myself off. It's mutual exploration and emotion. A dildo has never made me laugh. I've never told a dildo to "give me more," in fact, I've never talked to a dildo before. Dildo is just there to do one job, and when it's done with that job it turns over and goes to sleep or is put in a drawer (hopefully after being bathed). And then I lay there and think "wish I had him here."

 

[LaFemme]

Of course a man opens a dead thread. A dead thread that is not a woman's issue. Not only that but to claim large dildos will ruin a woman's vagina and blah, blah, blah.

Sph. Not really interested. Not interested in dildos. I've mentioned before, only men have bought me large ones - I like something small for my own pleasure. Actually I prefer the real thing on a real live, interesting, funny, sexy guy. Size not terribly relevant.

 

[deleted924715]

Of course a man opens a dead thread. A dead thread that is not a woman's issue. Not only that but to claim large dildos will ruin a woman's vagina and blah, blah, blah.

Sph. Not really interested. Not interested in dildos. I've mentioned before, only men have bought me large ones - I like something small for my own pleasure. Actually I prefer the real thing on a real live, interesting, funny, sexy guy. Size not terribly relevant.

+ 1

This brand of SPH is obnoxious

 

[918177]

+ 1

This brand of SPH is obnoxious

Just like the thread he made in Ask a Woman.
Pathetic.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Most of the dudes didn't really read the original post.

One again, I prefer flesh and blood cock. I want to feel it's warmth, texture, see his reactions, return the pleasure. All the things you can do with a cock.

I work in a sex toy store and I rarely sell a huge dildo to a woman. It's rare they sell at all but when they do it is usually a guy buying a toy for his wife.

When a woman comes in to pick a toy for herself she goes for a practical size between 4-7 inches. Most of our vibrators are 6 inches and under.

A guy will pick something much larger than his wife's vagina can handle comfortably. If she likes that kind of pain with her pleasure then fine. But don't push it on her.

 

[Nosuportneeded]

A good question no one asked was who is the dildo REALLY for? Did she want to try it, or did he want her to try it? Or did he want her to want to try? Or want her to want it and like it. Or want her to want it and not like it? Or want her to want it and not like it but use it anyway and make him jealous, yet turned on, and then he blames her later. Or want her to fuck his buddy who is hung who he also wants to fuck and...

 

[Nosuportneeded]

Women's issues, right?

 

[Something More]

My wife has intense and different orgasms with her bigger dildos. It's all about her pleasure. Bottom line, you should want to be able to give her the most pleasure possible. She enjoys my cock, and enjoysee her big dildos. Life is good.