Being Bisexual more complicated than you'd think

Hi haven't posted here for a while. Here's an update, I fooled with this young girl, about 19 or so, not really my type but I was horny. Haven't hooked up with a girl in months and lately being craving females lately. I had a party she got drunk and passed out, I fingered her a lot during the late evening/early morning and had an intense shower with her. I had a lot of fun playing with her tits, they were so nice and loved sucking on them in the shower.

So anyways summer is here and have been branching out, meeting new people and my circle of friends has been expanding. Now if you read about my previous post, I had a friend called mr.Freaky who showed me his errr unusual piercing of his. We had some intense moments where we compared equipment and really opened up with each other. Now he has fooled around with men before, but with me we haven't done anything more than whip it out and compared and cuddled with each other. He has a old girlfriend whom he is head over heels about come back to town. I haven't seen him a lot since she came back, but you know what I expected this. Sucked I didn't get to see him, but thats how these things happen.

Well I met up with him yesterday at a party with some mutual friends. He told me that his girl was actually threatned by me, said we're in love with eachother (not quite true, I love my friends but not necessary in that way) and that I could be a better girlfriend to him than she could or something like that. I then found out thats why we don't hang out at all anymore. Fuck this revelation really upset me. But before I go on about making this a right's issue, or how this would not have happened had I been 100% straight, I have to confront some truths about myself. In all honesty I have slept with a guy who was in a relationship with a girl before. Yeah, I was "the other guy" and had no real problem doing it because I was not the one who was cheating. However that was the past. Most important it's your partner you have to trust. Nothing happened between me and him when she wasn't in the picture, now that she is why would we hook up now?

Is this discrimintion? Who knows, I'd say this is the consequnce of being openly bi. You know what, it's sort of unchartered territory here. It's what you have to put up with when your honest to yourself and those around you. To everyone who is out their reading this and is bi themselves, let me assure you, while their is a lot of complication to being bisexual, I still feel a lot more free and liberated by being open to my friends rather than keep it secret.

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Yeah bisexuality is complex... I don't hide it from my friends, I am sick of hiding myself away. True, I don't need to tell everyone about it, but my friends have a right to know, it's something I feel they deserve to know.
 
I am not sure I believe that there are that many bi men. For a man to be bi it takes a great deal of self confidence and introspection and honesty. Something that we as men are not generally known for (my opinion only). Whereas I think women tend to have those traits in spades and are far more likely be to be bi. Just my opinion, with that and 99 cents you can buy a Big Gulp at 7-11.
 
It is complicated, but it is a lot easier to be out and happy than staying in the closet. (This isn't helped by people like Texas41-38 suggesting there aren't that many bi men - makes me feel like a unicorn :tongue: )
 
Texas41-That's total bullshit that bisexuality is somehow rare in men yet it's somehow more common or ubiquitious in women.

Men can be just as and even more self confident than women, introspective, and honest and anyway those traits are not linked to one gender like you think that they are.

See here for more on biphobia: UCSD :: LGBT Resource Center

Lokican-Your friend's girlfriend seems weird; but even if she did not know that you were bisexual I'm sure she would get jealous that you are friends with him and are spending time with him, when he could be spending time with her instead of you.

At least you are out and this is a good thing.
 

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