I was reading about pheromones the other day, and I wondered how much they might explain the confusing signals I seem to respond to. I mean there are all kinds of beautiful women, and I do appreciate how truly stunning some women look. Still, if a person is going to turn my head visually, that person is probably going to be a guy.
So, maybe pheromones explain why I like looking at guys so much, but when I get physically close to them much of that interest flies out the window. In other words, I like their looks, but their pheromones turn me away.
Conversely, I can get so totally turned on sexually being with a woman, even if she isn't a Playboy centerfold.
My theory, then, about guys like myself, is that we somehow got this visual... maybe narcissistic... thing going about our own gender... like a mix of envy, admiration, competition, and it presents itself like lust... or we don't have other ways of interpreting it except as lust... and sometimes when we make it all the way to consumating what we think is lust, we discover it isn't so much... or that it overrides the pheromone messages... for a while, but not perpetually.
Thus, some guys, the ones who respond to the guy pheromones and visuals, are simply or mostly gay. Some guys who respond to a mix of the pheromones, visuals, and other discreet factors about both genders are bi to some degree... like myself. Then some guys are the ones whose visual, pheromone, and other responses are all mostly focused in on women, and they are comfortably straight.
Perhaps, that explains why I've had more male sexual partners in my life than I have women, but I've had far more sexual experiences and enjoyed them more, for the most part, with those women than I have with the men.
4.22.08
I should add that I have known about pheromones for years, and have often wondered about their impact on our attraction. What I really hadn't given much thought to was how much of an impact our reaction to pheromones might dictate or influence our sexual orientation.
So, maybe pheromones explain why I like looking at guys so much, but when I get physically close to them much of that interest flies out the window. In other words, I like their looks, but their pheromones turn me away.
Conversely, I can get so totally turned on sexually being with a woman, even if she isn't a Playboy centerfold.
My theory, then, about guys like myself, is that we somehow got this visual... maybe narcissistic... thing going about our own gender... like a mix of envy, admiration, competition, and it presents itself like lust... or we don't have other ways of interpreting it except as lust... and sometimes when we make it all the way to consumating what we think is lust, we discover it isn't so much... or that it overrides the pheromone messages... for a while, but not perpetually.
Thus, some guys, the ones who respond to the guy pheromones and visuals, are simply or mostly gay. Some guys who respond to a mix of the pheromones, visuals, and other discreet factors about both genders are bi to some degree... like myself. Then some guys are the ones whose visual, pheromone, and other responses are all mostly focused in on women, and they are comfortably straight.
Perhaps, that explains why I've had more male sexual partners in my life than I have women, but I've had far more sexual experiences and enjoyed them more, for the most part, with those women than I have with the men.
4.22.08
I should add that I have known about pheromones for years, and have often wondered about their impact on our attraction. What I really hadn't given much thought to was how much of an impact our reaction to pheromones might dictate or influence our sexual orientation.
