Acceptance of Being a Cocksucker

[RDNKJ]

I love your line “His cock might be king—but he’s not”

that very much works for me. Ideally, the relationship is :my cock—your mouth

yes, I’m dominatiog, demanding—etc etc—but a lot of that is to facilitate primary relationship.

And—of course you’re a cocksucker.

LOL. Yeah, I know I'm a cocksucker. It's just that all the talk about doms and subs and feeders made me think maybe the word was now used in a different way than I'm used to. Like the term "feeder." Just like one other poster said on this thread, to me "feeder" means someone (a chaser) who feeds their "chub" to make them gain weight.

A while back I came across some "cocksucker" videos on a porn site. That's when I first started thinking about the current definition of cocksucker and how I fit into that. Then I saw this thread with its emphasis on dom/sub and it made me think even more about what "being a cocksucker" meant.

Reading the other replies it seems like a lot of the guys see "cocksucker" as being their sexual identity. I don't. I see it as being only a part of my sexuality. I differentiate between "having sex" and "cocksucking." If I'm having sex, I very much care that we all cum and expect my partner(s) to please me as much as I please them. While sex will always include oral, that's not the same as being in "cocksucking" mode when I can reach an almost zen-like state where nothing else exists except for my mouth/face and the other guy's crotch.

The whole dom/sub thing doesn't interest me. It can be fun as a periodic role-playing scene, but that's it. For my own purposes, when I'm cocksucking I would just as soon have the other guy be passive and just let me "do my thing" with minimal input from him. I'm more than happy to accommodate the other guy's fantasies, as long as they don't distract me from what I'm doing. The other guy being dominating and demanding? Nope. At least not in the beginning. And even then, only as a pre-discussed "scene."

I'm an empowered cocksucker. Even if I'm on my knees with a cock down my throat, I'm always the one in control.

Sorry for the novella. It's just interesting to mull over what being a cocksucker means to different people.

 

[RDNKJ]

“My joy is the cocksucking itself, not the potential result”

Exactly! As the other part of the equation—-I totally agree! I have tremendous control , I can orgasm w.o ejaculating—-and so can have my cock “wet” for hours—-and it’s the journey—-‘the cocksucking itself’ that is also my ‘joy’

love long long
sessions can usually stay a little limber, a little more malleable which helps my cocksuckers comfort and stamina,
occasionally, I’ll have a hardon a cat couldn’t scratch, balls about ready to rupture—-my long term cocksuckers are very in tune with Mr cock—-one especially would deal with this quite aggressively—-and precipitate a ‘forceful’ reaction

explosive—for both parties

then—intermission—-then—a multi course buffet . Delicious!

Very nice. I've also been known to orgasm without ejaculating. I can't do it "at will," but it's not uncommon. I love long sessions where I can almost reach an altered state of consciousness from servicing cock. My stamina has amazed some guys. They're used to cocksuckers who want them to hurry up and cum. I'm happy to suck for hours...with short breaks to take a drink of water, go pee, etc.. I serviced one guy for so long that my jaw was sore all day the next day. It was great!

While I certainly enjoy big dicks, when it comes to cocksucking I'm not a size queen. As long as the other guy is clean (some "musk" is one thing; needing to bathe/clean their dick is another) I say gimme that cock! If the cock is a big 'un, hard but limber is ideal. Sometimes when a guy is rock hard it can be difficult getting in the right position/angle to really "go to town."

Sometimes someone will ask me if I want to be their "regular cocksucker." I have always declined. There are several guys who are multiple repeats, but it's not a regular/scheduled thing. Sometimes I'm in the mood to give someone a long, slow cocksucking session. Sometimes, I want to give shorter blowjobs to a lot of different cocks. Sometimes I don't want to worship cock; I want to have sex. I think being someone's regular cocksucker would just limit my options overall.

 

[Oldcowboy]

LOL. Yeah, I know I'm a cocksucker. It's just that all the talk about doms and subs and feeders made me think maybe the word was now used in a different way than I'm used to. Like the term "feeder." Just like one other poster said on this thread, to me "feeder" means someone (a chaser) who feeds their "chub" to make them gain weight.

A while back I came across some "cocksucker" videos on a porn site. That's when I first started thinking about the current definition of cocksucker and how I fit into that. Then I saw this thread with its emphasis on dom/sub and it made me think even more about what "being a cocksucker" meant.

Reading the other replies it seems like a lot of the guys see "cocksucker" as being their sexual identity. I don't. I see it as being only a part of my sexuality. I differentiate between "having sex" and "cocksucking." If I'm having sex, I very much care that we all cum and expect my partner(s) to please me as much as I please them. While sex will always include oral, that's not the same as being in "cocksucking" mode when I can reach an almost zen-like state where nothing else exists except for my mouth/face and the other guy's crotch.

The whole dom/sub thing doesn't interest me. It can be fun as a periodic role-playing scene, but that's it. For my own purposes, when I'm cocksucking I would just as soon have the other guy be passive and just let me "do my thing" with minimal input from him. I'm more than happy to accommodate the other guy's fantasies, as long as they don't distract me from what I'm doing. The other guy being dominating and demanding? Nope. At least not in the beginning. And even then, only as a pre-discussed "scene."

I'm an empowered cocksucker. Even if I'm on my knees with a cock down my throat, I'm always the one in control.

Sorry for the novella. It's just interesting to mull over what being a cocksucker means to different people.

Very interesting! “I’m an empowered cocksucker…….” But next post “Almost reach a state of alternate consciousness……
I think with the right cock—-it’s not me vs you—-it’s ’my Cock/your mouth—-you might give up some control—-and reach a higher state….

 

[spoogecup]

Firstly, I'm very aware that "cocksucker" is defined differently by different groups of people... I'm not a gay man, but I know that most gay guys don't define "cocksucker" as submissive, feminine or degrading in any way... It's just a part of sex... But for me, as a faggot, the term "cocksucker" brings out feelings of submission, pleasure giving, femininity since I've been a young straight guy's "side bitch" for over 5 years now.... I look at "cock sucking" as one method of pleasuring a man

 

[D2D]

Feeder here. (I came across this post when I was bored but not sleepy. I meant to post a casual reply, but ended up writing like a whole blog entry on the topic. Maybe someone will be bored enough to read it...)

Two thoughts come to mind about "turning" a dude into a total cocksucker—or, maybe I should say, helping him realize his potential he already has for being a total cocksucker.

1. Giving firm, controlling instructions and guidance about the process/activity of sucking dick. I think most guys (even future cocksuckers) don't realize that sucking dick is, in and of itself, a sex act. They've always learned to see it as just a method, a means, a technique for busting a nut. In much the same way, all boys start out thinking of jerking off as just a means to blowing a load, not something you do for its own sake. Often when there's a dude on his knees in front of me, and I give him the cock he craves to suck, he starts furiously bobbing up and down on it, and trying to jack me off as well, because he thinks it's his duty to get the load out of my balls as soon as possible. As if that's the whole point of sucking dick. And if he's a true cocksucker, he does enjoy that—but he's not really experiencing the act of cocksucking. I usually have to introduce him to that experience by first holding him back, restraining him from going for my load, and instructing him to give my dick the treatment it deserves. I put the cum shot off the table, until he falls into line as a serious cocksucker. It's a lot like (no offense) training a puppy to heel, or to display controlled behavior before getting a treat. Soon enough, a real cocksucker realizes that this is all they really wanna do, ever! They could never grasp it before now because they were sort of skipping over the act of cocksucking, leaping straight to the idea of draining the guy's load.

2. We simply do not discuss his sexual arousal at all. I'm not into degrading his sexual feelings: I'd never act like his own cock was disgusting or pathetic (assuming he has a cock—although if I've ever even seen it, it was in passing or accidentally). Nor do I dig aggressive denial/depravation play (cock cages, chastity gear, etc.). The point is that his own sexual sensations are completely irrelevant to the act of sucking my cock. This has to be ingrained by me as a feeder, because most guys start out thinking there's something wrong with them if they enjoy a sex act where they're totally subordinate to another man's pleasure. But that is what they enjoy; that is what cocksucking is like. It's just not a mutual or reciprocal activity. I'll see inexperienced cocksuckers "pretending" to jerk themselves off while they suck dick, although their little penis is limp as a noodle. And they're already fully enjoying themselves anyway, just by getting to suck a cock. The problem is that their own dick is totally irrelevant to the situation—they just think they're "supposed" to be seeking some self-gratification. Same goes for when a guy obviously just wants my dick in his mouth, but he sheepishly mentions the possibility of me fucking his ass. He thinks it's weird if he just wants to suck cock. (Cocksuckers often tell me they like to jerk off while thinking about sucking my cock, at some totally separate future time. That's perfectly appropriate.) Anyway, by firmly refusing to consider his own sexual arousal, I find a cocksucker achieves clarity and focus, and realizes that this activity—servicing a man's dick—is the one thing they are devoted to, the one thing he truly desires to be doing.

Nicely put.
I would add that is the societal pre conceived ideas of how the person sucking is inferior that causes some issues with acceptance.
We must let go of past learned negativity and realize that it's OK and normal to service someone and not want a reciprocal act. It's fine to get off on pleasing the feeder.

 

[Maninhisbriefs]

Feeder here. (I came across this post when I was bored but not sleepy. I meant to post a casual reply, but ended up writing like a whole blog entry on the topic. Maybe someone will be bored enough to read it...)

Two thoughts come to mind about "turning" a dude into a total cocksucker—or, maybe I should say, helping him realize his potential he already has for being a total cocksucker.

1. Giving firm, controlling instructions and guidance about the process/activity of sucking dick. I think most guys (even future cocksuckers) don't realize that sucking dick is, in and of itself, a sex act. They've always learned to see it as just a method, a means, a technique for busting a nut. In much the same way, all boys start out thinking of jerking off as just a means to blowing a load, not something you do for its own sake. Often when there's a dude on his knees in front of me, and I give him the cock he craves to suck, he starts furiously bobbing up and down on it, and trying to jack me off as well, because he thinks it's his duty to get the load out of my balls as soon as possible. As if that's the whole point of sucking dick. And if he's a true cocksucker, he does enjoy that—but he's not really experiencing the act of cocksucking. I usually have to introduce him to that experience by first holding him back, restraining him from going for my load, and instructing him to give my dick the treatment it deserves. I put the cum shot off the table, until he falls into line as a serious cocksucker. It's a lot like (no offense) training a puppy to heel, or to display controlled behavior before getting a treat. Soon enough, a real cocksucker realizes that this is all they really wanna do, ever! They could never grasp it before now because they were sort of skipping over the act of cocksucking, leaping straight to the idea of draining the guy's load.

2. We simply do not discuss his sexual arousal at all. I'm not into degrading his sexual feelings: I'd never act like his own cock was disgusting or pathetic (assuming he has a cock—although if I've ever even seen it, it was in passing or accidentally). Nor do I dig aggressive denial/depravation play (cock cages, chastity gear, etc.). The point is that his own sexual sensations are completely irrelevant to the act of sucking my cock. This has to be ingrained by me as a feeder, because most guys start out thinking there's something wrong with them if they enjoy a sex act where they're totally subordinate to another man's pleasure. But that is what they enjoy; that is what cocksucking is like. It's just not a mutual or reciprocal activity. I'll see inexperienced cocksuckers "pretending" to jerk themselves off while they suck dick, although their little penis is limp as a noodle. And they're already fully enjoying themselves anyway, just by getting to suck a cock. The problem is that their own dick is totally irrelevant to the situation—they just think they're "supposed" to be seeking some self-gratification. Same goes for when a guy obviously just wants my dick in his mouth, but he sheepishly mentions the possibility of me fucking his ass. He thinks it's weird if he just wants to suck cock. (Cocksuckers often tell me they like to jerk off while thinking about sucking my cock, at some totally separate future time. That's perfectly appropriate.) Anyway, by firmly refusing to consider his own sexual arousal, I find a cocksucker achieves clarity and focus, and realizes that this activity—servicing a man's dick—is the one thing they are devoted to, the one thing he truly desires to be doing.

Perfect reply. Total cocksucker here, and everything you say here completely matches how I feel about my preferred role and headspace while in the act of sucking a man’s cock.

 

[MNpervert]

I realized I was a cocksucker after the first few times, the second a cock is in my mouth I get rock hard.

 

[deleted2780451]

I realized I was a cocksucker after the first few times, the second a cock is in my mouth I get rock hard.

Same. I can and have came handsfree just from sucking cock.

 

[Oldcowboy]

Same. I can and have came handsfree just from sucking cock.

I do like the “alpha/omega” aspect—-and many cocksuckers thrive on relinquishing control——or, better yet—-feeling it’s been taken away from them.

An excellent c.s.—having reached the “no hands ejaculation point”—I like having him sitting back on his haunches—-his hands on his thighs—one point contact—-and controlling his ejaculation verbally.

 

[deleted2780451]

I do like the “alpha/omega” aspect—-and many cocksuckers thrive on relinquishing control——or, better yet—-feeling it’s been taken away from them.

An excellent c.s.—having reached the “no hands ejaculation point”—I like having him sitting back on his haunches—-his hands on his thighs—one point contact—-and controlling his ejaculation verbally.

I love not having control.

 

[Sturdywords]

I'm a Top who has had the pleasure and honour of knowing some truly excellent and dedicated cocksuckers in my time.

I recall one guy who would get me to sit down and relax while he made himself comfortable on the floor between my legs where he would relax with a glass of wine and suck my cock for a long, long time. To me that is perfection.

I met a submissive guy who liked being told what to do but was not very good at oral. After just a couple of minutes he would get tired and breathless. I told him to slow down and take his time. Pretty soon he evolved into a cocksucker like the first one. I would get him a bottle of wine when I went to see him and he would take his leisurely time enjoying that and the other gift I had brought for him!

The next time I met a guy who had that problem I explained to him my own technique when I fuck. In my head I count the thrusts and I don't stop for a breather until I reach 100. I told him to use a similar technique, count the number of times his head bobs up and down on my cock, gradually work his way up from 10 'bobs' to 50. After this things got A LOT better. He was really turned on by the dominance of being instructed that way.

 

[Oldcowboy]

I love not having control.

Excellent! I used to feel kinda guilty when I let my master/dominant/physical side come out.

Now i embrace it—-and really enjoy being able to dominate verbally—-with both sexes.

 

[jazzyG]

Nice thread

 

[Oldcowboy]

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I'm a Top who has had the pleasure and honour of knowing some truly excellent and dedicated cocksuckers in my time.

I recall one guy who would get me to sit down and relax while he made himself comfortable on the floor between my legs where he would relax with a glass of wine and suck my cock for a long, long time. To me that is perfection.

I met a submissive guy who liked being told what to do but was not very good at oral. After just a couple of minutes he would get tired and breathless. I told him to slow down and take his time. Pretty soon he evolved into a cocksucker like the first one. I would get him a bottle of wine when I went to see him and he would take his leisurely time enjoying that and the other gift I had brought for him!

The next time I met a guy who had that problem I explained to him my own technique when I fuck. In my head I count the thrusts and I don't stop for a breather until I reach 100. I told him to use a similar technique, count the number of times his head bobs up and down on my cock, gradually work his way up from 10 'bobs' to 50. After this things got A LOT better. He was really turned on by the dominance of being instructed that way.

Developing cocksuckers thrive on control, dominance, instruction—-also praise, affirmation, acceptance.

If my cocksuckers don’t get better—and happier—that’s on me.

 

[deleted2780451]

Excellent! I used to feel kinda guilty when I let my master/dominant/physical side come out.

Now i embrace it—-and really enjoy being able to dominate verbally—-with both sexes.

The best feeders are the ones who assert dominance from the get go. I went on a first date with someone on Grindr and when he picked me up, the first thing that he said was "Pull out my cock and suck it until we get there (the restaurant)." He became one of my feeders for 2 years after that.

 

[Oldcowboy]

“I’ve been watching you. I think you’d like to suck my cock. If I’m wrong, sincere apologies. If I’m right—say your goodbyes—-corner office—-be kneeling by my chair”

 

[deleted2780451]

“I’ve been watching you. I think you’d like to suck my cock. If I’m wrong, sincere apologies. If I’m right—say your goodbyes—-corner office—-be kneeling by my chair”

I'd suck you right then and there if you said that to me.

 

[funmanuncut]

I realized I was a cocksucker after the first few times, the second a cock is in my mouth I get rock hard.

Love the big head on your dick and would love to suck you off

 

[funmanuncut]

Cocksucker here Love giving guys the worship sucking they desire. I suck all races and do small groups as a party favor. Get at me if I can be of help to you and your buddies.

 

[deleted32667341]

This conversation has made me think. Not every cocksucker understands themselves the same as me, but everyone understands them self to be a cocksucker.

I love servicing Men. I love honoring Them and serving Their needs. I love focusing soley on Them and Their pleasure. I LOVE the way They smell and I LOVE the way They taste. I love the way They feel, both with my hands and body as well as my lips, my tongue, and my throat.

I love that They allow me to service and serve Them. I’m so grateful to Them for ALLOWING me to service and serve Them.

It would just be wrong to pleasure or be pleasured myself. Wrong and disrespectful.

I’m thrilled to receive Their orgasm. Absolutely thrilled!

I have a need to show my appreciation through the quality and dedication of my service; through my availability, eagerness, willingness and readiness to accommodate and serve.

I only wish I could ejaculate through servicing alone. Quietly orgasm under my clothes, demonstrating my true nature as a cocksucker and the fulfillment I receive through the realization of my nature.