As a straight guys do u ever get hit on by gays and how do u handle it?

[deleted581546]

totally agree..guys know how to do it and how it feels being sucked

This is the Ask a Straight Man forum?

 

[Almostcurious7]

Literally never once but I actually want it to happen!!

 

[goander]

Several times. It is flattering I guess.

 

[8incheslong]

I’ve been hit on many times. When I was younger I would be slightly offended. Now that I am older I don’t really car. A simple I’m straight and not interested is all I ever have to say

 

[iamjustme65]

I live in a college town, and have for many years, so it has happened several times.
As far as "handle" it.. depends on how direct the fella was.
If you believe you are being hit on, but it is not obvious/straightforward, then you just mention something about your girlfriend/wife.
If it is a straight up hit, which is going to be extremally rare, only happened twice to me in 58 years, then you simply say something like "thanks, but I don't swing that way" with a smile.

But mostly, you should feel complimented!

 

[green26]

I have and when I was younger, I would act like an idiot. Now that I'm older, it doesn't happen as much, but I handle it way different, take it as a compliment.

 

[Uniballer]

I worked through grad school as a stripper, usually private parties but sometimes at clubs. Once a guy was very forward and I made good money from it. Other times I just blow it off. Now that I am old I don’t have to worry about it.
I was out with friends just being 20 something’s during the summer and a dude started hitting on my friend and me, hard. Grabbed my jeans. I did stick out, cowboy boots and hat but bold to grab a cowboys junk you don’t know.
I told him that on Friday night I was one of the male strippers after 11:00. After 11:00 touching is allowed and my thongs could be purchased. Gave him the name and address of the club. Told him they don’t serve alcohol because of total nudity and they don’t let drunks in.
He showed up, saw my friends, they came to see if he would show. He was very happy to learn I was stripping. He even paid my friends wife to get my cowboy hat from my truck so he could put it on me. She cautioned him not to put it on his head, cowboys and their hats…
He kept handing me money, then gave me $100 for my thong. Then my friends wife gave him my hat. He put it on my head backwards but paid big so I just turned it around.
The club made people buy a small bottle of oil for a lot of money to rub on the performers. He bought several of those and got to play with me and 4 other guys that night.
That guy came every time I worked. He did not pay for my degree but he made life for my friends and me better. We began to eat better and I was able to join a real gym and get a trainer.
We hung out with him and his friends socially after that. They never crossed the line. They asked if they could touch. Even helped me when I fell and injured my leg. My butt muscle and low back got very angry. We went to my friends place I had to get nude for him to do pressure points he kept it normal with just a little play but I still had bandages on the road rash.
They are lawyers so I was happy to take some of their cash. I gave a little and really got a lot from it.

 

[Sagittarius84]

But mostly, you should feel complimented!

Unfortunately I don't think most straight men can or will feel complimented by the interest of gay men, 1st because it does not translate into desired sexual opportunity, as a compliment from a woman is more prone to; and secondly because it implies a "gaydar" trip that can negatively affect his desirability amongst women. Men typically can take advantage of women's interest because of how preselection tends to affect them collectively, however I don't think women display the same preselective tendencies in what is attractive to gay men.

 

[iamjustme65]

Unfortunately I don't think most straight men can or will feel complimented by the interest of gay men, 1st because it does not translate into desired sexual opportunity, as a compliment from a woman is more prone to; and secondly because it implies a "gaydar" trip that can negatively affect his desirability amongst women. Men typically can take advantage of women's interest because of how preselection tends to affect them collectively, however I don't think women display the same preselective tendencies in what is attractive to gay men.

Meh... a lot of it is based on your age, your confidence and how well you fit into your own shoes.
I know my sexuality, so therefore a gay man flirting with me doesn't anger me etc. - I see it as another human being thinks I am attractive.
When I was young (born in 1965 so this would be late 70s-80s) I would have felt different I am sure. You don't really even know who you are until your are around 30. So at that time you still think you have something to prove.
And at that time it was downright dangerous for a gay man to flirt unless he was pretty positive the other dude was gay.

 

[thickcockjames]

I've been hit on by gay men quite a bit actually. I have had a number of gay/bi friends over the years, and as a result I've been around enough gay/bi men to get hit on by them.

Whenever they do hit on me I simply say "Oh, that's very flattering, but I'm straight." and that's usually the end of it. Sometimes there would be some ribbing like "...if you ever change your mind." kind of things, but everyone has been very cool about it when it's happened to me.

 

[Sagittarius84]

Meh... a lot of it is based on your age, your confidence and how well you fit into your own shoes.
I know my sexuality, so therefore a gay man flirting with me doesn't anger me etc. - I see it as another human being thinks I am attractive.
When I was young (born in 1965 so this would be late 70s-80s) I would have felt different I am sure. You don't really even know who you are until your are around 30. So at that time you still think you have something to prove.
And at that time it was downright dangerous for a gay man to flirt unless he was pretty positive the other dude was gay.

It's not about anger, confidence, something to prove, etc., it's utility...think of something like generosity, we typically don't appreciate it personally unless it comes from someone that has something to be generous with, that we value. And we also aren't prone to appreciating generosity if its offering can affect us negatively. More so than any other gender/sexuality construct, are straight men ostracized from sexual/romantic selection by women on a number of basis, but most notably deviation from masculine heteronormativity(both in action and in attractiveness to the homosexual gaze) stands to cause the biggest barrier to entry.
I think any attitude about having something to prove coincides with actual percieved value on the sexual marketplace, and I don't think many men are inaccurate of their assessment that close proximity and affinity for(or appreciation of) homosexual men will negatively affect their sexual/romantic chances with most women.

 

[kj23]

Never been hit on in a traditional sense but guys trying to find out if I'm into them. Usually more subtle and respectful. I try not to give the wrong signals and that's that.

 

[ukcircguy]

Nope, never have been. Guess I'm not that attractive enough lol. Seriously though, if it were to happen it may be a bit awkward, but as long as they were respectful I certainly wouldn't be offended.

 

[hrypol9130]

Gay guy here - if this ever happens
1. Take it as a compliment
2. Why would you not - regardless of what gender gives you that compliment I would be so thankful for whoever said it to me.

 

[HorsemanUK]

Its happened quite often in urinals, changing facilities, public communial showers etc. Usually i'll catch guys gawking at my dick. Some will even casually compliment it and make comments. Most would probably leave it at that. Although some will take further and kind of linger hoping i'll make an offer for them or if they're really confident and shoot for the stars, some will proposition if i'd be willing to let them jack me off and or suck it for me.

In my youth I kind of just ignored and (the obvious stares and curious comments), as I got older I'd acknowlege it more and see how far some would take it.