Bareback

I discovered bb in my late 30's, having lived through the AIDS crisis. I would meet guys online and hookup, with the understanding that A) we were both negative and that therefore B) we would be bb'ing. Without A there was no B. Could they have lied? No. No poz guy that I ever met would willingly give HIV to another. Going bb is a choice.
 
My hubby and I bb. Hes HIV+.. his viral load is undetectable and has for the 9 years we've been together. The only thing he won't do is cum inside me. After 9 years of flip flopping I am still neg aand can't even imagine not fucking bare with him.
 
Where I live (Scotland) Prep is available to all men who have sex with men free. What’s interesting is with all the screening and treatment we get like hepatitis A & B vaccination and also HPV vaccines the incidence for HIV and other STIs is way higher now in the straight community than the gays now. But yes I was having bare way before Prep was a thing.
 
I've never had sex with a guy (I've always considered myself as straight, and i have a girlfriend) but I've always wondered what gay men think about me physically ; it kinda turns me on , idk why
 
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I've never had sex with a guy (I've always considered myself as straight, and i have a girlfriend) but I've always wondered what gay men think about me physically ; it kinda turns me on , idk why
We all want to think that others find us attractive, and we all like to think we can give sexual pleasure to others. Some of us are conditioned from an early age to think this attraction and pleasure can only occur between persons of the opposite sex; some are more tolerant of same-sex attraction and pleasure (or even seek it out); and some actually learn that the opposite sex is inherently undesirable or evil. Some report discovering, late in life, that same-sex encounters can be quite pleasurable even though there isn't any inherent attraction.

Your girlfriend may be a good source of advice regarding how you should pursue this curiosity.
 
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I have a question about that
Last week i have met a guy in a sauna - we had sex, he wanted without condoms but i didnt want.. he told me that he has AIDs, but under treatment since 10 years with a virus charge undetectable
he said that there was no risk at all,

is it right ?? if someone has aids with undetectable charge can not give us aids too ?
 
Bareback only if both of us have been tested and it’s in an exclusive affair, can’t trust every smile you meet
 
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Nope. Bareback isn’t something I’m going to be doing anytime soon.

There’s been a massive spike of other STIs since PrEP has been made available on the provincial health plan (i.e. free). Too many people have decided that with HIV basically neutralized, it’s open season again. But PrEP is useless against gonorrhoea, syphilis, herpes, hep C, chlamydia and a couple more STIs.

Using a condom will help reduce most of these other infections and crank the effectiveness of truvada up to essentially 100%. To not use condoms is putting yourself - and your future partners - at risk, willingly.

It’s certainly your choice if you want to go the no-condom route.

For me, however, the choice is pretty damn obvious: I’d rather not contract a bunch of diseases, some still not curable, if I can avoid it. And putting on a condom means I’m reducing the chance of getting them very dramatically. So I’ll stick to that process.

Bare only when I'm in a relationship with someone I trust--otherwise, everything here applies.
 
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If I'm going to top, I always put it out there for the bottom to decide. I tell them I would much rather bareback (true) but that I've had fun topping while wearing a condom (also true). In these days of PrEP most guys want my dick raw, which is my preference anyway.