why can't we just go dancing, feel the music & have some fun?
it's a very small number of men who do this but it puts lots of women off going out.
While this ongoing debate has been slightly amusing, I just need to say that if you're going to be put off by men grinding on you in a club, stay home.
It's not an inherent insult for a man to grind on you at a club. If you don't like it, tell him to back off. I find men to be very accommodating that way. For some people, dancing is mostly about grinding. Especially when they've been drinking. So getting pissy about this is just a waste of emotion, IMO.
Last night, I was out and this man wanted to dance with me, but I didn't want to dance with him, so what did I do when he wouldn't back off upon request? I danced-walked around the floor until he got tired of following me and looking an ass. It was no sweat off my brow. I still got my groove on and he left me alone. Mission accomplished.
Men aren't inherently evil, they just want to dance and possibly get laid. I can't blame them.