Being into "older men"

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I am 23 years old and I've noticed that I am strongly sexually attracted to "older men" (I am talking about 40-59 year old men). Sometimes it feels weird that I'm into much older men and I feel like I'm being judged by some people for that (at least their response wasn't really positive or even downright negative). I could imagine myself in a relationship with a 40+ year old man but of course that is sort of difficult to become reality.

Anyone can maybe relate?
Boy I relate to that too. I always say after having an encounter with one that it’ll be the last time I do that. But there I go again searching for daddies
 

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Definitely relatable. Older men have always been a huge turn on for me, and I've been with several men decades older than myself. I've had a partner on-off who's 30 years older than me in the past. The "daddy" type just resonates with me, something so alluring and comforting when I see an attractive older man. I also appreciate the maturity, confidence and independence they have that a lot of younger gay men just don't.

I think among gay men its more accepted to have big age differences between partners. It seems to be a common fantasy, and there are less of us after all. But most people outside that circle seem to wince at the idea of dating somebody that much older or younger. There are a lot of stigmas and assumptions that come with age gaps, it can be tiring to try and ignore.
 

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I was always attracted to older men. Unfortunately, I never had any meaningful experiences with them. I always ended up with men my own age or younger. Maybe a one-nighter here and there, where both of you know it's just a lark and will be over and done once you leave. But no ongoing dating, romance, gift giving, or anything like that. Wish I had.
 

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I am 23 years old and I've noticed that I am strongly sexually attracted to "older men" (I am talking about 40-59 year old men). Sometimes it feels weird that I'm into much older men and I feel like I'm being judged by some people for that (at least their response wasn't really positive or even downright negative). I could imagine myself in a relationship with a 40+ year old man but of course that is sort of difficult to become reality.

Anyone can maybe relate?
Yep! I’m 46 and I’m married to a 21 year-old. The older/younger mix is actually very common in the gay community.
 

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I've been in two relationships with almost 20 year age gaps. And I know a lot of couples, both gay and straight, with similar gaps. The challenge is always about the maturity -- not in age, but in ability to navigate relationship issues, and communicate. In any relationship, you can have different interests, different experiences, come from different places and backgrounds... before age is even a factor. It's just one of those differences, something to be enjoyed, explored, and seen as an adventure, not as a hindrance.

There will always be some people who look at the age gap and have an issue with it... and they can fuck right off. Many of those same assholes will grow old, all the while leering at younger people and never realize that if they weren't such miserable judgmental assholes, they might find someone they're lusting after is into them.

I was once standing outside a bar in the Castro district in San Francisco. An older man (early 50s?) had just walked up and introduced himself to a much younger man (early 20s?). "You look younger than your profile picture." says the older man. The younger man responds, "You look older than yours... I guess we both win, daddy!" and off the marched into the bar.

Don't let the opinions of assholes determine what you seek. Go for it and you might both win.
Hi,

I live in London, if you want to meet let me know it. Ciao
 

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Some of my early gay relationships were with men over 10 years older than I was.

As much as it's a fantasy fulfilled to be sexually involved with an older man, you are fulfilling their fantasy being with a younger man too.

It was an amazing education. I really had my sexual boundaries widened. I don’t think a guy my age at the time would have the confidence to do the things an older man would.
 

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I'm curious how many of you in here into older men didn't have a dad growing up?
had a great dad. Got more than a little aroused seeing his dick on several occasions. Settled for finding men I could call 'dad.'
 
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Some of my early gay relationships were with men over 10 years older than I was.

As much as it's a fantasy fulfilled to be sexually involved with an older man, you are fulfilling their fantasy being with a younger man too.

It was an amazing education. I really had my sexual boundaries widened. I don’t think a guy my age at the time would have the confidence to do the things an older man would.
So many of my "firsts" were with a guy more than twice my age- my cock responded to his body, and he knew what to do with that sort of response- it just embarrassed me-and how to make it feel good. So many physical and mental things got widened those first few months and I loved every minute of it...
 

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Like many others here, love older men. When I was just exploring sex and my body in my 20s, I loved hooking up with them. Not only was I attracted to them, I was also attracted to the age and size difference between us (being a short guy). They also were so verbal and knowledgeable physically, unlike some guys around my age then. Biggest age difference was probably me at 25 and a guy in his 60s. I also played around with all kinds of guys, though mostly older, at the YMCA steam rooms/saunas for a couple years
 

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I've always been attracted to older guys. My best LTR's were guys 10-12 years older than me. And even now as I am one myself, it's still the case. I rarely find myself attracted to guys under 35 (of course there are exceptions). And now some of the hottest guys I play with are in their mid 60's, early 70's.

Which is why I love visiting Palm Springs so much ;)

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