Always wondered why some dudes are so uncomfortable with getting naked around other guys. Just wondering if someone can explain that, because it seems so weird to me
Bodyshy Men: Why?
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Not everyone is raised nor brought up in a community where casual nudity is a thing. And its not always about shame, sometimes just a compartmentalized approach. The irony here is that if it isnt such a big deal why are men especially complaining or commenting as to why it isnt more common. If ones own casual nudity isnt being inhibited why be concerned if anyone else partakes?
I think for a large portion of heterosexual men nudity is reserved for sexual activity, bathing, and doctors examination, with many adding on casual nudity with significant others later in life....and there shouldnt be anything wrong with that....unless you're just trying to creep peep random dicks...then I can see why this would be such a big issue..lol
I think for a large portion of heterosexual men nudity is reserved for sexual activity, bathing, and doctors examination, with many adding on casual nudity with significant others later in life....and there shouldnt be anything wrong with that....unless you're just trying to creep peep random dicks...then I can see why this would be such a big issue..lol
I can see that your superhero name is "Captain Empathy." Maaaate you need to put your guns down... Show some love...
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One reason why I put pics on here is body shyness/dysmorphia. Someone recommended it to me a long time ago to help overcome it, like an icebreaker. It's like learning to swim by jumping in the deep end.
One reason why I put pics on here is body shyness/dysmorphia. Someone recommended it to me a long time ago to help overcome it, like an icebreaker. It's like learning to swim by jumping in the deep end.
As a teen I had horrific acne and pimples on my back. Most of my male peers did not so sport was traumatic for me due to the change room taunts and physical aggression I suffered. I have a good body and well above average cock, but my reluctance is due to past trauma. Everyone has a backstory.
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Shyness is a recognized social disorder, be considerate of another's condition. Throw in Modesty and there you have your answers.
Those are the professional answers, the LPSG answer is the world is full or pervs, and many men do not want to be the entertainment for them
Those are the professional answers, the LPSG answer is the world is full or pervs, and many men do not want to be the entertainment for them
Growing up I was exposed to very little nudity and thus one's body was a private thing no matter the gender of others. Other than a time that I can't mention due to the rules, my first exposure to same-sex nudity was in Basic Training. Not being used to such a situation, it was awkward and I did what needed to be done hygiene-wise as quickly as possible and trying to draw the least amount of attention.
While I gradually become less uncomfortable with the concept due to repeated exposures, I still never developed an indifference to it. Part of the issue I believe is the fact that due to low exposure to casual nudity I also viewed it mostly through the lens of sex especially considering that other than institutional situations like the military, the only other experiences with being naked in a group setting has been through swinging. This further cemented my association of nudity with sex and even then I still felt some discomfort being on full display in front of others, especially at some of clubs where many attendees where of the clothed "looky-loo" variety.
Because of these feelings I've never been much of an exhibitionist and the addition of a sometimes feeling of minor body dysmorphia, especially about weight, has likely contributed to it. In fact posting solo pictures here has been one of the biggest steps in recent times I've taken in an attempt to overcome it. So I think for some guys that might have a lot to do with it as sometimes we forgot or don't acknowledge that men can feel the same shyness about their bodies due to feelings of inadequacy made possible by media and societal standards. Also for me, I've always been introverted and tried to stand out as little as possible, so my bodily feelings are likely an extension of that.
There is also of course the fact some may not be comfortable being naked around other guys due to not knowing the intentions of those other men and if one was to apply the endless locker room and urinal stories on certain websites to real life, such concerns might only be heightened or add justification.
While I gradually become less uncomfortable with the concept due to repeated exposures, I still never developed an indifference to it. Part of the issue I believe is the fact that due to low exposure to casual nudity I also viewed it mostly through the lens of sex especially considering that other than institutional situations like the military, the only other experiences with being naked in a group setting has been through swinging. This further cemented my association of nudity with sex and even then I still felt some discomfort being on full display in front of others, especially at some of clubs where many attendees where of the clothed "looky-loo" variety.
Because of these feelings I've never been much of an exhibitionist and the addition of a sometimes feeling of minor body dysmorphia, especially about weight, has likely contributed to it. In fact posting solo pictures here has been one of the biggest steps in recent times I've taken in an attempt to overcome it. So I think for some guys that might have a lot to do with it as sometimes we forgot or don't acknowledge that men can feel the same shyness about their bodies due to feelings of inadequacy made possible by media and societal standards. Also for me, I've always been introverted and tried to stand out as little as possible, so my bodily feelings are likely an extension of that.
There is also of course the fact some may not be comfortable being naked around other guys due to not knowing the intentions of those other men and if one was to apply the endless locker room and urinal stories on certain websites to real life, such concerns might only be heightened or add justification.
I also believe it's a maturity thing. While I was never worried about getting changed or showering with others, I was a lot more judgemental towards myself when I was younger. Although, looking back, I think I had the best body shape I've ever had, yet I had still to mature enough to be less judgemental towards myself. Today, having reached 50+ and being in far less great physical shape, I am far more comfortable and just do not care what others may or may not think of my shape.
Some are probably not used to it or are afraid of being judged
I am sad to read this. But I hope everything is better for you now
Thank you, you are most kind! I am great now, but never swim bare chested (the sun is damaging here anyway) because I never could as a teen and I am too self conscious. My skin has no scarring as I looked after it during those horrific years and now I look younger than all my peers! Thank you, but I was illustrating why some men are shy... life is complex and everyone has a backstory!
In my experience, we are definitely going backwards when it comes to non-sexual nudity. Twenty years ago, nearly all the gyms/sport clubs I attended had open gang style showers. There was never any fuss, people stripped off and often walked naked to showers, hung up their towels and showered with friends/teammates without batting an eye. Go further back, and the team baths were common for rugby and football.
These days it's all shower cubicles, and that shyness extends to the changing room itself and life in general. Porn used to be something you stumbled upon, now its everywhere, and easy to access. Teens grow up with a feeling of inadequacy, sex education in schools is down to the minimum. Nobody sees normal average bodies anymore.
These days it's all shower cubicles, and that shyness extends to the changing room itself and life in general. Porn used to be something you stumbled upon, now its everywhere, and easy to access. Teens grow up with a feeling of inadequacy, sex education in schools is down to the minimum. Nobody sees normal average bodies anymore.
A little better. I'm not nearly as bad as I used to be. I won't win any awards but I'm more comfortable with it now.
1. Some guys are not proud of their bodies.
2. Only in the last few decades has it become obvious that we are surrounded by gay men (when I was in high school, we were vaguely aware that such men existed, but certainly didn't personally know any!). Now that gay men are everywhere, lots of straight guys are more concerned about getting naked in front of other guys.
The first point I can agree with: religion has installed a lot of neuroses we are only now beginning to deal with.
On the second point: I'm not so sure I can agree with. There are undoubtedly those with poor eating habits, but many people cannot help having extra weight due to metabolic and glandular problems, or underlying medical conditions. Many of those people have extreme difficulty in losing weight.
If we are talking of individual cases, there are tons of reasons. Each person comes with a story on why they feel uncomfortable while being naked in front of others. In my cousin's case, my aunt was very prude and she was afraid of pervs so she raised her sons telling them not to be undressed in front of strangers. They grew up terrified of being naked, even at the doctor's office. One of them wanted to go to the Navy but didn't because of communal showers.
But if we talk about why nowadays it seems that most men are less comfortable with being naked around other men, there has been a change in attitude towards that in the last 20 years in my experience. I would like to know why society's expectations about social nudity and privacy have changed, at least in North America.
But if we talk about why nowadays it seems that most men are less comfortable with being naked around other men, there has been a change in attitude towards that in the last 20 years in my experience. I would like to know why society's expectations about social nudity and privacy have changed, at least in North America.
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Mostly stems in my opinion as to firstly how an individual has been raised and secondly the rise of social media and idealised body image
You did well because you are a perfect example of why some people are afraid to show their bodies. I have never had this problem but I totally understand! Everyone has their own past and everyone has their own story
It is true that the sun damages the skin! You must have a baby skin now
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