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I totally understand it. But that would be my reaction - I would freeze I guess -There are books, that only have pictures, so that you can make up the story any way you want. So one person viewing the clip, may say this is a good thing. Another person, may say it is assault
Also, considering that the male doing the touching looks to have a boner, so he is doing it for his own sexual gratification.
Consider the graphic. What would be your reaction to living in a culture where this kind of friendly acknowledgement was both normal and positive?
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ron--There are books, that only have pictures, so that you can make up the story any way you want. So one person viewing the clip, may say this is a good thing. Another person, may say it is assault
Also, considering that the male doing the touching looks to have a boner, so he is doing it for his own sexual gratification.
Another fun game among members in a tight group is to catch your buddy sleeping in the nude
Where on Earth is a guy going to catch a buddy sleeping in the nude? Nowhere I've ever been, that's for sure.
Regardless of how close the bros are, boundaries exist. They exist because the bros want them to exist. They exist because, generally speaking, people around the world recognize that certain parts of ourselves are private and should be kept that way, whether physical or psychological.
There are people I'm fairly close to, and I'd no sooner want them buddy tugging me than I'd want them to know about the ADD meds I take. I wouldn't want a friend swearing on my nutsack any more than I'd want him privy to whatever personal secrets I have.
It's pretty clear you're coming from a heteronormative,
homophobic
and religious puritanical perspective.
IMO the more we cover our bodies and demand excessive privacy and have rigid rules around physical intimacy with each other the more we're going to increase and exacerbate body dysmorphia, body shame, sexual violence in our cultures.
Humans are social animals and need physical intimacy for survival. The more we make nudity normal, physical touch and intimacy encouraged and even masturbation amongst friends common place. Then we probably will see a positive social change in our society due to more meaningful bonding and connectedness.