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I would feel very strange. It would bother me. Besides of sexual acts ..pls noone touch my penis. And the locker of the gym is not a place to have sexual acts.
 

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There are books, that only have pictures, so that you can make up the story any way you want. So one person viewing the clip, may say this is a good thing. Another person, may say it is assault

Also, considering that the male doing the touching looks to have a boner, so he is doing it for his own sexual gratification.
 
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There are books, that only have pictures, so that you can make up the story any way you want. So one person viewing the clip, may say this is a good thing. Another person, may say it is assault

Also, considering that the male doing the touching looks to have a boner, so he is doing it for his own sexual gratification.
I totally understand it. But that would be my reaction - I would freeze I guess -
In second tought - if someone grabs my manhood ...maybe that means , that someone likes it ...so that would be good ;)

Im confused
 

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There are books, that only have pictures, so that you can make up the story any way you want. So one person viewing the clip, may say this is a good thing. Another person, may say it is assault

Also, considering that the male doing the touching looks to have a boner, so he is doing it for his own sexual gratification.
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That’s the point of the question. It is to get some “feel” (sorry I just had to say it) for how OK guys would be with having a tug on the dick to be as normal as a slap on the back or a pat/slap on the butt.

It would be something to be appreciated and enjoyed from those you identify with.

I have observed groups of guys who were so very comfortable with each other that actions like that shown in the graphic could easily occur and have no more meaning than friendly acceptance and acknowledgement. And to my knowledge these were not gay guys.

Honestly, I think this is a level of familiarity that many guys would be happy to gravitate toward in order to feel like they are part of the group.

As one example, this past weekend I heard several members of different football teams give locker room reports with lots of talk about how really bonded their team members were.

Words like:
Camaraderie
Loyalty (you earn loyalty day- by- day)
Trust (best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them)
A tight team (it's the team with the athletes who play best together that win)

I am wondering how guys can keep getting these kinds of relationships drilled into them and not being OK (from the start) with some “special” buddy acceptance behaviors.
 

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I once was showering after swimming in the public pool in our dorm in college... I had my hair lathered up and my eyes closed to keep the soap out of them, when I felt the unmistakable sensation of a hand, holding my dick...
I stood veery still.

Squinting one eye open, I saw another naked guy... who was holding my dick like he was shaking my hand, and smiling at me.

I said, " um... no thank you?"

He tisked, dropped my dick and walked off saying "such a pity..."

It just seemed really awkward.
 

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In many ancient societies this type of "greeting" was common. It was not considered sexual, but an expression of affection (or sometimes fealty).

At one time it was common to swear oaths while grasping the other's testicles. World Wide Words states "swearing on the testicles is recorded in the Bible. The practice is mentioned in the Old Testament, though the King James’ version bowdlerised the reference in Genesis to 'grasping the thigh'."

I'd be perfectly okay living in a culture where this type of greeting was normal. After awhile it might feel much like the "male bonding" you sometimes feel in a shower room naked with other guys or like hugging the man next to you in church. (Some churches go in for "group hugs". It can be as ritualistic as drinking the wine and chewing the wafer.)
 

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I have no problem with a pat on the back, nor a well deserved pat on the rear for a team activity. I welcome a hearty handshake, even a bro hug when appropriate. If in your world a guy shaking your wang for hello, floats your boat so be it .

However; if the guy giving me a pat on the back or rear had a visible boner, like the guy in the shorts. I might have a problem
 

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The recipient of the tug wasn’t very quick to swat the other guy’s hand away, so I presume he was expecting to get touched. The one time I was touched without permission the guy knew he was in the wrong very quickly.
 
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The basic question is focused on how comfortable guys could/ would get with each other if bonding outweighed inhibitions.

We are not talking about strangers. We are talking about guys that are part of some group with regular and meaningful connections.

I have been a part of several groups where someone might grab a butt cheek while another guy was all busy pissing just to startle him. Just be sure and grab the cheek on the far side so he doesn’t turn your way and piss on you. On the other hand he might turn and piss on you anyhow just because you grabbed his butt. It was all in fun at the buddy level.
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Another fun game among members in a tight group is to catch your buddy sleeping in the nude and fluff his dick/balls with a feather duster. Sometimes there will be an erection before there is detection. Works best when it is time for him to get up anyhow.

My bet is that a hand on the back of the neck would take more getting accustomed to than a passing buddy tug in the locker room.
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Well, like the title of the thread says "Buddy Tugging", I think that would be fine, with close friends, in fact most of my friends throughout my life, have done similar things, in a non sexual way. I do agree with others, that it would be a form of sexual harassment if you are in a public space like a gym shower or whatever, and some stranger just comes up and grabs your dick. Just as it would be weird if a stranger comes up to you and hugs you or whatever, it's just weird. But amongst close friends in a joking and friendly manner, I don't see any issue with it, and feel bad for those who have never experienced such male bondness with out any sort of sexual undertone.
 
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My close mates are guys who I am totally comfortable with any form of intimacy, so hugging, bum pats, tugging at my cock and balls playfully are all fine. It's actually appreciated and respected.

The only rule I have if I say not now, they stop and that doesn't mean an out right rejection or they can't do it at all, it just means not right now.
 

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Another fun game among members in a tight group is to catch your buddy sleeping in the nude

Where on Earth is a guy going to catch a buddy sleeping in the nude? Nowhere I've ever been, that's for sure.

Regardless of how close the bros are, boundaries exist. They exist because the bros want them to exist. They exist because, generally speaking, people around the world recognize that certain parts of ourselves are private and should be kept that way, whether physical or psychological.

There are people I'm fairly close to, and I'd no sooner want them buddy tugging me than I'd want them to know about the ADD meds I take. I wouldn't want a friend swearing on my nutsack any more than I'd want him privy to whatever personal secrets I have.
 
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Where on Earth is a guy going to catch a buddy sleeping in the nude? Nowhere I've ever been, that's for sure.

Regardless of how close the bros are, boundaries exist. They exist because the bros want them to exist. They exist because, generally speaking, people around the world recognize that certain parts of ourselves are private and should be kept that way, whether physical or psychological.

There are people I'm fairly close to, and I'd no sooner want them buddy tugging me than I'd want them to know about the ADD meds I take. I wouldn't want a friend swearing on my nutsack any more than I'd want him privy to whatever personal secrets I have.

They're out there and it's more common than you realise. It's pretty clear you're coming from a heteronormative, homophobic and religious puritanical perspective.

IMO the more we cover our bodies and demand excessive privacy and have rigid rules around physical intimacy with each other the more we're going to increase and exacerbate body dysmorphia, body shame, sexual violence in our cultures.

Humans are social animals and need physical intimacy for survival. The more we make nudity normal, physical touch and intimacy encouraged and even masturbation amongst friends common place. Then we probably will see a positive social change in our society due to more meaningful bonding and connectedness.
 

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It's pretty clear you're coming from a heteronormative,

Absolutely and unapologetically yes. I am straight and not ashamed to admit it.

homophobic

In other words, I don't want to have my penis touched by a man. Straight = homophobic.

and religious puritanical perspective.

If having personal boundaries and exercising my right to choose who touches my body makes me puritanical, then I suppose I am.


IMO the more we cover our bodies and demand excessive privacy and have rigid rules around physical intimacy with each other the more we're going to increase and exacerbate body dysmorphia, body shame, sexual violence in our cultures.

Humans are social animals and need physical intimacy for survival. The more we make nudity normal, physical touch and intimacy encouraged and even masturbation amongst friends common place. Then we probably will see a positive social change in our society due to more meaningful bonding and connectedness.

I think you're wrong. Body shame and body dysmorphia are exacerbated and increased because we have decided to eliminate boundaries. The problem isn't that people keep themselves covered. It's that people are pressured to expose their sexuality in every way, shape, and form. We, as a culture, admire sexual attractiveness almost as much as we admire money. The competition to be sexy, to push the boundaries, to see how far you can take it is incredible and it gets harder with each generation.

The vast, vast majority of us can never look like ripped fitness models no matter how hard we try. The unstoppable barrage of hot sexy bodies simply batters people into dysmorphia and shame. If we went back 100 years, would we find people with body dysmorphia? Doubtful there would be more than a handful. (and don't twist that into my saying that we need to revert to what society was 100 year ago. Let me put it this way: All magic comes with a price, deary. )

Sexual violence will always exist because it's about power and control and anger. It's not about fulfilling sexual needs. If a guy needs sex he can commit a victimless crime and throw the tissues away afterward.

Anyway, you can go ahead and tug on your friends' dicks and circle jerk if it makes you feel more connected to each other. I won't be there because.....I just won't.