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the other person is not chatting with you. you are chatting 'at' or 'towards' the other person a chat is interactive. so, in essence, you are talking to yourself. if they do not initiate the chat then don't bother. and if they do initiate it, let them have the last word. if someone is not interested, there isn't any point in belaboring it. because, its the internet. they could be in a car on a cellphone in a bar or on the toilet. i type faster than the average person so i have to wait for a reply but if there is just a two word reply i just stop typing and move on.
 

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the other person is not chatting with you. you are chatting 'at' or 'towards' the other person a chat is interactive. so, in essence, you are talking to yourself. if they do not initiate the chat then don't bother. and if they do initiate it, let them have the last word. if someone is not interested, there isn't any point in belaboring it. because, its the internet. they could be in a car on a cellphone in a bar or on the toilet. i type faster than the average person so i have to wait for a reply but if there is just a two word reply i just stop typing and move on.

If you ask "do you want to chat?". They answer "sure", that implies a dialogue about to occur.
I've also had my available button on and I get a hey. If I can't I make it known and TTYL him.

I type fast too and have been ask to slow down. Lol
I've slowed down so that I give time to respond, reasonable time.
 

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If you ask "do you want to chat?". They answer "sure", that implies a dialogue about to occur.
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i agree. that is true. so this person is just rude and you should chat with people who want to chat with you.
its unfortunate that even in virtual world people find a way to be rude.
 

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i agree. that is true. so this person is just rude and you should chat with people who want to chat with you.
its unfortunate that even in virtual world people find a way to be rude.

Probably they are more likely to be rude in a virtual world because then they feel isolated from the possibility of social sanctions.
 
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I'm not a fan of chat and this is one of the reasons. It's very time consuming and therefore (my) energy consuming. Email is far more convenient, as one can respond in a timeframe that suits. Instant chat is much like the phone, highly invasive.

I know a lot of people multitask and do all sorts of other things while chatting, so your account doesn't surprise me, or make me think this person is rude, it's just the nature of IM. If you don't like this, I'd suggest you stick to email.
 
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I wasn't critical of you, merely offered my opinion in a positive way, and I'm 23 as well as a firm multi-tasker/tech-lover/etc. :p I even agreed insofar that if it's an intimate chat, that it's rude behavior. Not all of us young whippersnappers are impertinent, lol
 

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In my days of MSN chatting I'd frequently find myself frustrated when someone who'd requested to chat with would take ages to respond. I don't mind at all if they're chatting to other people but if you can't reply to everyone quickly then shouldn't be having multiple conversations simultaneously. Leaving someone just waiting around for a response when you've asked to chat to them is incredibly rude.

Anyway, I quickly decided that chat wasn't for me so uninstalled MSN from my laptop, and refuse to use it on any sites which have that type of facility. I'd much rather use a messaging system where both parties can respond in their own time.
 

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I just remembered this, on one occassion he ask to cam. Btw, FYI it was a clean cam! We didn't do audio but I notice as I typed he would be typing. After I replied, his answer was one word. It appeared strange and I didn't question it, but now after learning more I figure he was chatting with others all the while on cam with me! Remember he asked.
Now, how would all respond to that!
 

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In my days of MSN chatting I'd frequently find myself frustrated when someone who'd requested to chat with would take ages to respond. I don't mind at all if they're chatting to other people but if you can't reply to everyone quickly then shouldn't be having multiple conversations simultaneously. Leaving someone just waiting around for a response when you've asked to chat to them is incredibly rude.

Anyway, I quickly decided that chat wasn't for me so uninstalled MSN from my laptop, and refuse to use it on any sites which have that type of facility. I'd much rather use a messaging system where both parties can respond in their own time.

I also have uninstalled MSN; I did so over a year ago. Chat messages would pop up while I was busy doing something important and it was distracting.
 

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I just remembered this, on one occassion he ask to cam. Btw, FYI it was a clean cam! We didn't do audio but I notice as I typed he would be typing. After I replied, his answer was one word. It appeared strange and I didn't question it, but now after learning more I figure he was chatting with others all the while on cam with me! Remember he asked.
Now, how would all respond to that!

You seriously need to get over it. That's extremely controlling what you are doing by even remembering it and using it against him in this situation.

Who cares about any of this? Find someone to talk to that wants to talk only to you and goes on and on endlessly while you go on and on endlessly and stop dragging this multitasker down.

I just typed this while laying next to my kid, watching Toddlers in Tiaras, messing with my 3DS, checking my email and looking on another website.
 

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You seriously need to get over it. That's extremely controlling what you are doing by even remembering it and using it against him in this situation.

Who cares about any of this? Find someone to talk to that wants to talk only to you and goes on and on endlessly while you go on and on endlessly and stop dragging this multitasker down.

I just typed this while laying next to my kid, watching Toddlers in Tiaras, messing with my 3DS, checking my email and looking on another website.

Interesting that you described all that you were doing while responding to this. Which examplified the ability to not read thoroughly what was being posted. Get over what? The fact that you even said that is a clear example of the shallow first response that comes with "multi tasking"!

FYI, it has nothing to do with him, it was an experience, the most recent example is one with video chatting!!!! Read!!!!

You are a prime example of a chatter and you seem to be proud of the fact of that. Kudos to you. Than are you a prime example of who I should avoid? If so and if this thread was a "chat" hmmmmmm I should say TTYL thanks any way for prolonging this.
I mean no offense but isn't this the kind of advice I'm being give?
 

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You said looking back now you remembered that you heard him typing whenever he said only one word, I don't care if you were talking about the same person in the original post or not. Anytime someone remembers that and takes note of it with ANYONE they are talking to, they are creepy in my book. Sorry reversed idea when I went back and reread, so you saw him typing when you didn't have audio on, same difference. You still took note of it.

No I didn't read the entire thread word for word and it had nothing to do with multitasking and everything to do with how I needed to jump in on a response as soon as I caught that one line.

Maybe it's the generation you come from, no?
I encourage you to come into the LPSG chatroom, or any chatroom and just hang out to get used to how people do chat in this day and age. Do you dislike texting also?
 

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You know what, I do have a lot of anger with this subject. Because for years guys have been hounding me for not being as chatty with them as they think i should be and little do they know they are creeping me out or boring me, one of the two. So I'm translating that frustration in this thread.

It's this kind of mindset that makes some very interesting people otherwise not want to be very interesting with you. Just don't be a creeper is all. It seems minor and subtle what you are concerned about but it's odd in this day and age. There was a time when all attention was put forth in a conversation that you were spending money to have. Now people can find a person who chats well a dime a dozen. You have to do a lot more to keep the interest of the other person.

You are competing with a million things whether you want to be or not. I am, you are, he is...everyone is.
 

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I just remembered this, on one occassion he ask to cam. Btw, FYI it was a clean cam! We didn't do audio but I notice as I typed he would be typing. After I replied, his answer was one word. It appeared strange and I didn't question it, but now after learning more I figure he was chatting with others all the while on cam with me! Remember he asked.
Now, how would all respond to that!

id call it more examples of rude chat behavior.
its like inviting someone to a party then ignoring them.
why bother someone only to ignore them.
nuts.
 

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id call it more examples of rude chat behavior.
its like inviting someone to a party then ignoring them.
why bother someone only to ignore them.
nuts.

Maybe you and Frank should chat a little more then.
 

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You said looking back now you remembered that you heard him typing whenever he said only one word, I don't care if you were talking about the same person in the original post or not. Anytime someone remembers that and takes note of it with ANYONE they are talking to, they are creepy in my book. Sorry reversed idea when I went back and reread, so you saw him typing when you didn't have audio on, same difference. You still took note of it.

No I didn't read the entire thread word for word and it had nothing to do with multitasking and everything to do with how I needed to jump in on a response as soon as I caught that one line.

Maybe it's the generation you come from, no?
I encourage you to come into the LPSG chatroom, or any chatroom and just hang out to get used to how people do chat in this day and age. Do you dislike texting also?

You know what, I do have a lot of anger with this subject. Because for years guys have been hounding me for not being as chatty with them as they think i should be and little do they know they are creeping me out or boring me, one of the two. So I'm translating that frustration in this thread.

It's this kind of mindset that makes some very interesting people otherwise not want to be very interesting with you. Just don't be a creeper is all. It seems minor and subtle what you are concerned about but it's odd in this day and age. There was a time when all attention was put forth in a conversation that you were spending money to have. Now people can find a person who chats well a dime a dozen. You have to do a lot more to keep the interest of the other person.

You are competing with a million things whether you want to be or not. I am, you are, he is...everyone is.

Really? Hmmmmm creepy? Hmmmmm how shallow? And self centered you reply is. So based on what you said, I should not care at all about how I'm treated or other chatters for that matter as long as, in this case, you get what you want. Is that the attitude you are advocating?. "For people to look at me, if you dont you're boring and not worth the time of day." (btw, I am not quoting you, it's an "as if" )

Deductive and inductive thinking is what I would conclude coming to a rational conclusion. That skill is matured by the time one hits the teen years. So your statement that I made a deductive based rationale when I recalled a video chat that now make sense is creepy, leaves me speechless, "wha!"........I can't even find a word to define without you become more emotional with the fact you called to remember and or recall that as a creepy act. I'll let you do that on your own.

I chat about things of value, and am very caring about the people I am having a fairly intelligent chat with. The issue is not my example. The topic is what will make my experience more meaningful and expectations while chatting, I have gotten many valuable advice, from a majority of posters. You Madame have yet to suggest any, except to focus on your own issues, than project it on me. Remove the emotions, and suggest something with out any emotion based qualifiers. Do you need an example? "It's this kind of mindset that makes some very interesting people otherwise not want to be very interesting with you. Just don't be a creeper is all. " I was actually impressed that I was getting something I would consider, until that qualifier. Why? Because you already concluded that I was a creep.

I will not stand by idly while being demeaned by someone who obviously look for something trivial and make it into a mountain as a means to validate oneself. I am offended by your conclusion of me. I am offended by your flipped attitude, and your lack of any responsibility when you finally read "some" of the posts to acknowledge that you may have spoken prematurely in your prior response post

I can only hope that the 98% of people who read this will not judge based on your "sound clip"(metaphore) paraphrase of what I posted. It does make me seem creepy, doesn't it?

In spite of that I thank you for being able to say what you have. It gives interesting fodder to this thread.......so take a deep breath Madame , and say these famouse words- "serenity now, serenity now"

Btw. I think you'll find chatting with me very interesting, I'm quick witted, don't back down on stupidity, and will call it as it is!....yes this is a sex site and that topic is not avoided at all. Lol
 

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A creep is different from being creepy. A non-creep can make a creepy move and just be creepy and then not be considered creepy anymore if he stops doing that.

I'd love for you to prove me wrong by being very interesting, quick witted, don't back down on stupidity and call it as it is in conversations with me. Who knows where this might go!
 

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A creep is different from being creepy. A non-creep can make a creepy move and just be creepy and then not be considered creepy anymore if he stops doing that.

I'd love for you to prove me wrong by being very interesting, quick witted, don't back down on stupidity and call it as it is in conversations with me. Who knows where this might go!

Please define creep?
What you just stated above is like saying anything good is not bad. "what?"

Not the dictionary definition mind you but your definition.

Ready for round two?

Also, I can't tell whether your challenge is based on fun or spite? You may want to clarify that. I don't challenge "tit for tat" or winner takes all. After all I'm not running for president! .......:)
Is the last comment a creepy comment or one a creep would say? hmmmm..... Because if you cannot figure out what I'm saying, than you win. Cause if it is out of spite than I can do or say nothing "right", and i am a peace loving gentleman who still respect that you are a lady, however; who creeps you out apparently. Guessing here, cause I don't what that is yet.

I forgot to mention that logic and philosophy, and strong analogies are part of my thinking process while chatting, hence my original posting or reason I started this thread. (back to square one on this comment huh. Lol)
 

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Let's see, being creepy is something anyone can do at anytime. Being a creep usually means you are an asshole in my culture. Being creepy doesn't mean being a little bit of an asshole, it means you are doing things that are creeping the other person out.

Is this hard for anyone else to understand? I'm curious if I'm sucking at describing what most people think of when they here the words.
 

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Let's see, being creepy is something anyone can do at anytime. Being a creep usually means you are an asshole in my culture. Being creepy doesn't mean being a little bit of an asshole, it means you are doing things that are creeping the other person out.

Is this hard for anyone else to understand? I'm curious if I'm sucking at describing what most people think of when they here the words.


"Being a creep usually means you are an asshole in my culture." and what culture is that? I may not want to visit if assholes and creeps live there.

"Being creepy doesn't mean being a little bit of an asshole, it means you are doing things that are creeping the other person out."
like staring and gawking? drooling at the same time? hmmm. If that's the case you just describing a large percentage of the membership.........haha

Okay, tell me if you think I'm close to even DEscribing "creep".
You are a creep if- the person you are creeping doesn't like you because you do creepy things like stare, gawk and drool with glaring eyes.
- you do things that can't be explained with the knowledge that the person you creep out has.
-you chat and remember little details that in the next chat you bring up, it creeps the person because he/she is now on alert and have to be conscientious of what is said and if on cam what is shown. A comment like "gee, i noticed last chat you wore a green ralph lauren top, and today you're wearing it again, is that your chatting top?" Now that's creepy

- you are a creep if you don't do my bidding, is late, or never show up, or buy cheap gifts.
i.e- "What a creep, he's always late, never shows up sometimes, and buys these cheap gifts thinking I'm interested in him."

-if "asshole" can be substituted in the sentence that you are the main subject. (refer to above)
:lmao:

You do realize Madame that you are making the thread go in directions that it was never intended. but, meh......

"Is this hard for anyone else to understand? I'm curious if I'm sucking at describing what most people think of when they here the words"...............yeah

but I got a good laugh. Hope you did too! ....Peace.........I've run out of steam on this. Madame, you are a good sport very persistent, adamant and determined. :notworthy: