I have been married many years and I have had a few lovers during that time. My wife was sexual but passive, which was okay at first but became rather draining over time. And then I was travelling on business a lot and I crossed paths with a married woman who was also travelling. I spent the night in her room and I enjoyed mutually pleasurable sex for the first time for a long time. We met on many subsequent business trips, and after the travelling was over I met a few other women until I had a longer-term semi-relationship with a fuck-buddy type woman.
My wife guessed there were other women, so I ran a hypothetical past her about better sex and she went along with that. We watched some videos about ordinary couples and extra-ordinary sex. With those, plus the obvious spur of jealousy, my sex life improved almost overnight.
A partner would have to love you a lot to knowingly share you with someone else. I never felt guilty as I have a flexible view of such things, and clearly I was loved a lot.
My wife guessed there were other women, so I ran a hypothetical past her about better sex and she went along with that. We watched some videos about ordinary couples and extra-ordinary sex. With those, plus the obvious spur of jealousy, my sex life improved almost overnight.
A partner would have to love you a lot to knowingly share you with someone else. I never felt guilty as I have a flexible view of such things, and clearly I was loved a lot.
