That's a very interesting point.
The question is why do smaller men abstain? Is it just baseless insecurity or something else? Do men with smaller dicks have an issue with their sex drives?
I abstain due to my micropenis and various psychological issues, but honestly I wasn't succesful when I did try to pick up women at bars anyway so even if I was hung I would probably still abstain.
Given some of the types of people I have read those men saying they avoid, much of the insecurity is baseless. Some of it is not. True micropenis is extremely rare. The one time I saw one on a potential partner I was so shocked I wasn't even willing to try it out, though if I found myself in that situation again I would give it a go to be sure. For me, at least, the rejection was based purely on ignorance; I had no idea a penis like that was a possibility. The sight of it was shocking, and there had been not only no warning, but an insistence that there would be no oral sex. I did not even know custom condoms existed, but I knew he couldn't use any of the ones in my purse. I'm fairly knowledgeable about sex and anatomy, and I just had no idea. I grew up playing classical music competitively, participating in a lot of orchestras, and getting into a lot of special programs for gifted youth. Because of that background, I have been put through hundreds of auditions. I am used to being scrutinized while surprises are lobbed at me. So, if with my background (knowledgeable, poised) if I was thrown for a loop and didn't know how to proceed, I imagine a person with more average life experience would have responded even more poorly. And, to be clear, I did not respond well. I was neither rude nor unkind, but my response was immature and could have been better. I do not regret not trying out that particular man, as he was a terrible kisser and didn't fully respect my boundaries. But that's a separate issue. My point, as muddy as I have made it, is that I think those who truly have small penises, have some real concerns, but there aren't many of those out there.
Most guys, according to statistics, have an erection that is average, or close enough that most people wouldn't know any differently just by looking. So why don't women like me run into more of them? Because they think their dicks are smaller than they are, and they have demonized their own bodies. The websites where you can read their opinions are generally full of speculative cry-babying. I have read from men who are virgins, who admit to never having even asked a woman for a date, that they remain single because no woman would have them. There seems to be a common fear of laughter. I don't happen to know any women who admit to laughing at a man because of his endowment. (Well, I laughed the first time I saw the biggest one I have ever had because he'd told me a joke hours before and I finally got it when I saw his dick. But that's a different story.) Most stories I've been told about humiliating scenes have turned out to be fantasy fodder. None of my friends report problems with average,even when they prefer larger, and the biggest size queen my group ever had couldn't even give herself an orgasm until a dude with average taught her to climax, so she also changed her tune. By the way, because of her experiences and porn, she thought he had a very small dick until I showed her some studies and told her otherwise.
Which brings me to my final bit of speculation. Porn is being received too easily at too young an age, and men are almost growing up with these expectations of growth that are never fulfilled, and they see themselves, artificially, as stunted, and not studly. I remember the first porno I ever saw was Debbie Does Dallas, and when the ballers show up in the locker room in the first sex scene, and get undressed in the shower, those were the first erections I'd ever seen. I laughed hysterically. Who knew they were shaped like some kind of fungus? What a riot! I stopped laughing as soon as something sexual happened, and I never thought of any penis as funny ever again. But while I started out on vintage porn which largely seemed to emphasize beauty, rawness, and the tabboo, I think a lot of men first encounter more modern porn which emphasizes erections, and emphasizes that bigger is better. This creates sub-conscious paradigms that no one can penetrate or shift for them. It becomes dogmatic. But I do believe it is artificial. I think there are men and women who cannot receive pleasure from small and average-sized penises, but I don't think they are in the majority at all, contrary to the inventive imaginations of many smaller-endowed men.
