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I would say 1, but I only talk to her like once a month? If that. All my friends ditched me, and yeah. Work->Gym->Sleep, Repeat. I don't have a good track record with friends. I had an awesome one and she left to go live with some guy she met online, on the other side of the country, had a baby and stopped talking to me. 2 Others stopped talking to me after graduating HS and the other got married and has a baby (the 1 i mentioned at the beginning) so she's busy.

No one outside of my family. Tried earlier this year and he was all about using me for this or that, and I was not gonna be his chauffeur. So yeah.... I'll say 0.
 
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I have too many acquaintances and not enough friends.
 

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I have many acquaintances and a hand full of true friends.

Indeed.
I have 4 friends which I consider true friends. 1 from primary school, 1 from high school and the latter, University. These I consider to know me the best. (Well, as best as I allow lol.)
Also come from a pretty large family of which, I'm quite close to some of my cousins as well.
 

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. . . Any New Yorker will know after 9/11 who contacted them.

I never quite felt the same way about the friends - and, I hate to say, family members - who didn't contact me or my wife on or after 9/11 to see if we were OK. Conversely, I was quite moved by those who did and have never forgotten how much it meant to us.
 

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Based on the OP criteria (and excluding family and significant other): 7 very close friends, oddly most of us met in highschool, but all went to different colleges.

The others are just good friends, or work-friends, or acquaintances.

I get along with most my colleagues at work, but I consider them 'friends' only if I hang out with thm outside of work functions.
 

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Most of my friends have come and gone. Some have come back after a period of "writing me off". Some have grown frustrated with my crazy self and have cooled. No friend will do "anything" for me, but many have certainly put themselves out to help in specific areas, as I have.

As of now, I have two "best" friends; one, who visits weekly and helps with many things, but almost never does anything social with me. The other, who is without a car and lives with his aging mom, goes to many a movie, dinner, or gay gathering up to about 10:00 or 11:00 PM, then must be taken home, where his mom unlocks the door. Both are in their forties.

I long for a more complete friendship with someone, but at 57, broke and struggling to keep healthy, I am not optimistic.
 

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I've had different friends at different times in my life, high school, college, the military, graduate school and at different phases in my career. The bonds that once were strong have been broken by both time and distance. Now, I would say three.
 

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How many do you have?

They are not perfect, as no one is, but over time they have been there for you. You can depend on them when in need of support no matter what. The bond is so stronge that time apart has no effect because each time you talk it feels like yesterday. There are other qualities in a true friend but these are just my first thoughts.

I have two.
Same tally here. It used to be three, but last summer, the fellow who had been my best friend since I was 20 years old died of brain cancer. When I was seeing him for what I knew was the last time (we lived far apart), I said to him, "I can't imagine my life without you." I still have difficulty imagining it.

After he was dead, I made a list of my remaining friends. There were two who plainly belonged on the list for life, and then quite a few others with whom I considered myself to have an enduring bond, though of a less firm sort. It takes special circumstances and experiences for a friend to make it on to that short list. I don't expect ever to add anyone to the two who remain.
 

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actually I have quite a few. I was always the one people went to for advice and they have pretty much stuck with me over the years. It is sad that I more friends that I consider real family instead of my REAL family. (and I'm not on bad terms with any of my family)
 

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No friends a few people I say hi too but that is about it, was not allowed to have any growing up and never learned the skill of making true friends so I stay to my self.
 

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Funny I should come across this thread today! I have 6 "friends" who I hang around with a lot. These friends are the ones I turn to, the ones I would do anything for. The ones I travel to their houses for a cup of tea and a chat or for drinks before a night out. The ones who never call to my house. The ones who only contact me when they need a lift or they are fighting with their significant others. The ones who this past week never mentioned that my birthday was last Wednesday, till they seen it on Facebook! The ones who haven't contacted me since last Wednesday when they said they would let me know if they were coming to my house for birthday drinks. The ones who I am now fucked off with big style. A girl I met at a festival last year and who came to my 30th last year, and haven't really been out with since but we text on and off, text me 2 weeks before to ask did I want to go for a drink for my birthday! If a so called acquaintance can make the effort, then why not friends?! So long story short my only true friend is mrs_average!!!