Dating advice

[B_horribleperson]

stop trying to get in her pants just dont even try to get in

she will be like what the hell why doesnt he want to fuck me anymore and then she will let u have sex with her

 

[B_cigarbabe]

I don't know if I have ever seen such bad advice!
cigarbabe:saevil:

 

[Principessa]

I don't know if I have ever seen such bad advice! cigarbabe:saevil:

I know I haven't cigarbabe! It's just wretchedly bad advice all around. I think it either comes from 75 year old Archie Bunker types or from 20 year olds who are still in the Nevertouchedabooby Club.:tongue::biggrin1:

 

[Sixofspades]

You know what, be glad she isn't the type of girl to put out so easily. Really, it's a good thing to have standards, she obviously knows what she wants and that's awesome, it means she's likely beyond the game-playing stage of her life and wants something serious with you. If it was all shits and giggles to her you'd have had your way with her on the first night and probably never seen her again. I'd try to humor her romantic gestures for now. You both know it's coming, she just wants it to be right. This sounds like a good thing so it's definitely worth waiting for.

 

[Not_Punny]

Cigarbabe didn't specify which advice was bad. For all I know, she could have been referring to every single posting in this thread.

To tell you the truth, I don't think any of the advice was bad. Everyone has their own experiences, and everyone here meant well. To put down their advice is to put down their viewpoints and experiences, if you get what I mean.

Peace.

 

[B_Italian1]

You know what, be glad she isn't the type of girl to put out so easily. Really, it's a good thing to have standards, she obviously knows what she wants and that's awesome, it means she's likely beyond the game-playing stage of her life and wants something serious with you. If it was all shits and giggles to her you'd have had your way with her on the first night and probably never seen her again.

That's what I was getting at in my earlier posts. It could be she's not easy or she's possibly been easy in the past, got dumped right after, and doesn't want it to happen again. She may have felt used. I don't care what anyone says, most women these days still care about their reputations far more than most of us think.

A Cosmo poll stated that a third of unmarried women between 18 & 42 have a one night stand every month (5% every week).

Not all women are Cosmo women.

Most people (men and women alike) expect an American woman to have sex on the third date, if she is going to at all.

You can't really put a number on it. I would hope that most guys wouldn't dump a woman who doesn't put out by the third date.

Five weeks is a very long time for most Americans; the odds that women who wait that long will wait for marriage are in my favor, I would wager.

You don't know how often they are seeing each other during those 5 weeks, and what they're doing. Some people choose to focus on things other than sex during the beginning of a relationship. A relationship can start out as a hookup and strictly sexual, or just two people who are friends with similar interests and then it goes from there.

What women 'can' do and what they 'actually' do are two different things. I have read magazine articles by women who help other women have orgasms (teaching them how to masturbate, for the most part). Most of these women can have orgasms, but have not had orgasms.

Betty Dodson conducted masturbation workshops, but I don't think it's that common for women to get together and practice masturbating and having orgasms.

And there are many, many women who have never had an orgasm.

That's very true.

So, yes... I am assuming she has never had an orgasm, because the odds are that she has not.

We don't know that. She hasn't had sex with him yet, and we know nothing about her sexual past.

 

[Principessa]

Cigarbabe didn't specify which advice was bad. For all I know, she could have been referring to every single posting in this thread. And she would be pretty much correct. :wink:

To tell you the truth, I don't think any of the advice was bad. You gotta be kidding me! Did you read what Jeffin90620 wrote. It's straight out of Caveman Daily! Everyone has their own experiences, and everyone here meant well. To put down their advice is to put down their viewpoints and experiences, if you get what I mean. I get what you mean but you're wrong. :biggrin1::tongue::smile:
Peace.

Having experience and meaning well are fine but to spread this tripe as truth and the last word in dating advice is just wrong.

 

[Ethyl]

At this point there is really only one logical thing to do. TALK TO HER!

This is the only advice needed, IMO. Nothing progresses without communication.

 

[Not_Punny]

Having experience and meaning well are fine but to spread this tripe as truth and the last word in dating advice is just wrong.

Well, QT, we'll have to agree to disagree. :wink:

Some people really are living back in the stone age. In fact, I'd venture as far as to say that there are hundreds of millions in this world with what some people would call "backwards" customs and morals.

And bad advice to one person could be excellent advice to another.

We know nothing about the girl being discussed. It is up to the OP to decide which advice applies.

IMO, truly "bad advice" goes something like: walk in front of a moving train, leave kids in their car seats for hours on a hot day, and put fire ants in your socks. :biggrin1:

But I do agree that you gave the best advice, which was to talk to her. :wink:

 

[Calboner]

Patience always wins the day.

Bullshit. Patience has a mixed track record: sometimes wins, sometimes doesn't. To generalize like this is ridiculous.

The next time you are making out, unbutton your pants and say something like, "Wow, look what you're doing to me, mind if I get a little more comfortable?" Or maybe buy her some lingerie and put in a note or card asking her to please model it for you.

Those sound to me like great ideas—if you want to furnish her with material for the next time that she finds herself in a bitching session with her girl friends.

stop trying to get in her pants just dont even try to get in

she will be like what the hell why doesnt he want to fuck me anymore and then she will let u have sex with her

For all I know, this could work. It has probably worked at least once in the history of dating. But I would not count on it to get you anywhere. It could be a recipe for just getting strung along indefinitely.

Sometimes a woman likes a guy, likes having him as an admirer, likes him physically to some degree, but just doesn't take him seriously as a possible lover. As long as no one more interesting comes into her view, she may date him for as long as he is willing to accept his limited role. If the woman is clever and good at evasion (or is given to self-deception), you may even find it impossible to get a straight answer out of her as to where you stand with her. I have no way of knowing if the woman you are dating, Scott, is like this; I only know that some women are, and I think that, rather than putting your trust in patience and persistence, you should bear in mind the possibility that your girl is leading you a dance.

 

[pavement]

Well, sorry to be harsh, but there's another possibility: that you are acting like a "wus"

1. Combination of "wimp" and "pussy"
2. A person afraid to act, or not up to the task because of fear
3. A weak and ineffectual person.

You sound like you're acting awfully wimpy to me.

Her fantasy might be all about men TAKING her, you know, who won't let a little distraction get in the way.

After five weeks if that's all you've done, and if you ALLOW distractions to get in the way -- wow, ain't no way you'd be man enough for me.

Tolerance

 

[pavement]

Maybe I'm a "wimp or a pussy", but I've tried verbally and physically to get her to the next level. If she backs away from me, what should I do? I'm not going to rape her. It's her choice. LOL...maybe she saw my gallery here and thinks I'm a pervert. NO, I just post the pics for fun and laughs and she's not really a computer person anyway.

Well it could be suggested that a radical approach would be to ask her (such as you have here)

As vast and numerous are the reasons that could be considered without further evidence any speculation may seem to be just that so the approach that may appear most assured of a valid assessment would seem to be the 1 mentioned above in the 1st 2 lines

 

[nuboy1]

Your nice comments about this new, budding dating situation suggest to me that you are yourself a very nice, somewhat shy but fun guy. If this new girl is worthwhile, I think you can trust her and yourself and just open a gentle conversation on the subject of "Where would you like us to go from here?" Just be yourself and be honest. And don't feel any need to force your relationship. Maybe you two can just agree to enjoy it as it evolves. Life's good and there is plenty of time to evolve into more intimacy with this girl, if it feels right to both of you. Basically, trust yourself. In time you will find the right person and the right moment to share your body with, and hers with you.