Do You Need Closure?

[PerfectlySexy]

When your significant other wants to leave you, do you need to know why, or is it better for her or him to just state that they want to break it off, take the few items stashed at your place for convenience, and go?

I think I'm going to leave my boyfriend. I'm in love, but it isn't working. The reasons are complicated. If I have to go through my reasoning, he will convince me to keep him. I think I need him gone. I want to just break it off, not offer any room for discussion or argumentation, and go. But I don't want to hurt him more than necessary. I'm not sure how sensitive he is because he's secretive. I don't know that part of him. But... um...how sensitive are you? Would you need to hear my reasons?

The problem with giving reasons is that people often invent them when necessary. Better to state that you love him but it's not working and leave it at that. I've had plenty of breakups where the women offered me a long list of reasons only a year later to have them say that it wasn't actually any of those things, just a feeling that things weren't working so they were looking for reasons. Love isn't enough and we'd be a healthier and happier people if we could just accept that sometimes relationships run their course.